Anger against certain religious believers and groups won't go away

I'm indebted to you. I've been angry since about 15 years ago this time. Fifteen years ago, I was in a new Buddhist religion at the time, and the powerful harassment of the words of my senior followers was severe, and I felt bad at the time. I can still endure that alone, but when my mother died, she came to the funeral and got angry, started preaching, and started talking about that religious group that I didn't understand, making my mother's funeral a mess. If I complain about that to my senior followers at a later date, I'm saying it for you! What's wrong! I was told that there were no words of apology at all. There is a lack of awareness or common sense that something bad has been done. When I looked it up later, this seems to be a characteristic of the followers of this cult. I learned that there are many people who quit because of that. I thought this was no good either, and my mother's funeral triggered them to break up completely. Senpai followers approached me so that they would come back insistently even after that
I had no intention of going back at all, so I strongly declined. However, even now, 15 years after my mother's funeral was ruined, I still can't forgive it! I thought it would subside over time, but it's still not normal, so there's no way I can easily forgive it. I thought about filing a lawsuit, but I gave up because it would take time and money. It was written in one book that anger and resentment are feelings that have no exit, and I think that is absolutely true. However, even if it's my own thing, I can never forgive my mother's funeral being ruined. What should I do? Should I go talk to that cult once? Please give us your opinion. Furthermore, I firmly reject the opinion that senior believers were not offended, so please forgive them. There was offense.

4 Zen Responses

To end a bad relationship at all

I read it.
My mother passed away about 15 years ago, and at the time of the funeral, members of that religious group came and got angry and gave a sermon, making my mother's funeral a mess. You can't forget that even now, and your anger is piling up, and you'll never be able to forgive it. I don't know the details about you, your mother, or the members of that religious group, but I feel that I understand very well what you think. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
If I were in your position, I don't think I would be able to forgive you. I don't think anger, hatred, and envy will spring up if such a terrible thing happened at the funeral of my precious mother, and I don't think I'll ever be able to forgive it.
Those people may have their arguments, but what they did was an evil statement, a misconduct, and a crime that clearly disobeyed the Buddha's teachings. Therefore, my relationship with the members of that religious group is a bad relationship. To get rid of bad relationships is to get rid of them at all, to have no involvement at all.
Those people committed misdeeds that deeply hurt you and everyone without thinking about them, so you must naturally receive that reward. Those people will suffer because of the crimes they have committed themselves.
So let's break all ties from now on, and let's stop contacting them at all.

I pray with all my heart that your mother will be at ease from the bottom of my heart. We wholeheartedly agree

Please pray with all your heart that you and your mother will be at ease from the bottom of your heart. We wholeheartedly agree
The mother is always guided by the Buddha or God, and the ancestors greet the mother kindly. The mother is saved from any hesitation or suffering with her ancestors under the Buddha and God, and she attains Buddhism from the bottom of her heart. And they will continue to kindly watch over you and everyone.
Please share your thoughts with the Buddha, gods, ancestors, and your mother. Buddha, gods, ancestors, and mothers kindly accept all of your thoughts and are close to your heart.
I sincerely pray to the Buddha, gods, ancestors, and mother that you will continue to cherish your relationship with your mother and be gently protected by your mother so that you can live a pure and peaceful life from the bottom of your heart. We wholeheartedly agree

Everyone has worries, so let's forgive them

Worries such as greed, anger, laziness, pride, etc. cause trouble, suffering, and trouble.
But unfortunately, we all have such afflictions.
As an exception, those who have attained enlightenment have no worries, but even Buddhists have worries until they realize it.
The people in that cult just exploded with pride (the obsession that their own teachings are the best) and the anguish of greed (the pleasure of boasting about the best teachings) on the religious stage called funerals.
For example, it's a state where people who usually learn to dance but don't have a presentation happen to show off their serious abilities when they happen to be given the opportunity to dance at a friend's wedding, etc., and everyone around them floats alone among amateurs.
In Buddhism, it is thought that the worry of anger also causes stress, so reducing the frequency and duration of delusional distractions (thoughts about the past, future, and oneself and others) leading to anger is good for your own health.
So, let's forgive the people in the religious group by accident that their worries just happened to run wild (on the same level as eating too many potato chips if they were right in front of them), and although they were idiots, nothing more or less, it was just a difference between someone who happened to learn dance or someone who happened to learn religion.
If those people also have a Buddhist religion for the time being, there is a possibility that they will become slightly better people in the next life.
Let's look forward to the next life.

Pain suffered by acts of blasphemy. Consult with specialized agencies as well.

No matter how many years have passed, the suffering you've suffered won't go away, will it? It's also blasphemy against my mother at an important funeral in my life that I can't even start over.

your unforgivable feelings. How do you come to terms with the denomination's response, some kind of alimony for the pain you have suffered, etc.

There is also someone to consult with, so why not contact them?
・All Japan Federation of Funeral Industry Cooperatives (inquiries about funerals)
・Buddhism Information Center (Buddhist telephone consultation)
・Law Terrace (inspirational commercial law compatible dial, etc., even for minors, 2nd and 3rd generation)

Here, too, they may help you.
May your suffering be alleviated even a little bit.

Does the scent of good people smell even against the wind

People belonging to such groups say, “People outside of our group are steeped in the wrong religion and don't know the right teachings. We will correct those mistakes and paths ourselves.” It seems like they have that belief. Also, it seems that there are many cases where they carry out missionary activities based on blackmail. I've heard that every branch in that area will intervene in the funerals of believers and their families. Even though I was once convinced that it was good, I think it was a disaster.

There are the following anecdotes involving Buddha.
> Part 1
A Brahmin got angry that his older brother had been indoctrinated by Buddha and became his apprentice, so he went to the Chikurin Seisha and taunted Buddha.
“Brahmin, when customers come to your place, you probably offer delicious food to your visitors. If they don't take it, whose food will it be? In that case, it will be yours to offer.”
“The same goes for you right now. You cursed me for not cursing; you got angry at me for not being angry. But I don't get it. It will be yours.”
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> Part 2
At one point, Lord Sarifutsu met a single Shaman returning from an allotment, sings about his splendid standing behavior and his neat appearance, and asked, “Who is your mentor and what kind of teachings are you preaching?”
That Shamon
“I am studying with a great saint from the Shaka tribe. While saying, “It's still a short time since I got started, and I can't explain that teaching in detail...”
“Everything comes from a cause.
The embody of truth has already explained the cause of these.
They also explain their extinction.
Great practitioners have already preached like this”
I chanted a chant called. That Shamon was Assaji, one of the Buddha's first disciples, from Gohioka. Hearing this, Saariputta was greatly impressed and decided to become a disciple of the Buddha.
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Sonja Saributsu was struck by the splendor of Assaji's standing manner. I think there was something in Assaji that “the scent of good people smells even when they go against the wind.”

It's important not to take abusive comments. Senpai probably thought he was right, but I don't think at all that he had the right words and the right attitude. I think it's more important to be merciful than to complain.

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