I can't stop having an affair. I'm scared. but...

He's a cheater. That's because I haven't broken up with my wife.

It's a worrying message that holds you back and lures you out if you can't talk for a moment.
Let me have a scary romance, does he really love you?
It's hurting everyone involved.

Did he say he'd pick you up?

I don't want him to hate me. I don't want to refuse. One person is lonely.
That's not a healthy relationship. I want someone who wants me; I'm addicted to love.

I can't keep working either. Large alimony claims and debts due to them.
There is no happiness between the two of them in a relationship where they are subject to social sanctions.

If you're an adult man two times older, and if he really cares about you, you shouldn't go out with him this way.

Your wife and three kids will hate you.
You must take proper responsibility.
Whether it's painful, sad, or painful, breaking off a relationship is the answer to this romance.

This is how I will continue to listen to stories. Let's connect via Hasunoha so we don't feel lonely.

Thank you for sharing your painful feelings with us. It conveys a painful situation where even you don't understand your true intentions, and you are trembling with fear in complete darkness.

There is something called “orthodoxy (orthodoxy)” in the “Eightfold Path,” which is the teaching of Buddhism. This is the teaching of “not being biased and seeing things as they are.” Right now, you are in a state of love addiction, and I see that you have lost your cool due to your obsession with him and have lost sight of this “right opinion.”

I understand the feeling that makes you want to hold on to “he will help you,” but please stop and take a proper look at reality. If he really cares about you, why doesn't he want to protect you until he ends his own family? It seems harsh, but he captivates you with his sweet words, and he's just taking advantage of his own weaknesses. Having a relationship again after a settlement is an act that only pushes you towards ruin.

Every human being is a weak creature that makes mistakes. But when you notice it, it's time to come back to life. It may be as painful as thinking about death, but don't let the precious life you have been given be underestimated.

What you should do now is break this “bad relationship” completely. This is the first step in regaining peace of mind. If you gather courage and let go of a bad relationship that blocks both hands, a true warm love affair that can be called a “good relationship” will always revolve around that empty hand. Please take care of yourself.

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I'm in my late 40's, and if you don't care, you'll be 30 and 40 years old in no time.
If you can match with a better romantic partner during this period when your physical body is at its peak, there is also a possibility that your future life will be enjoyable.
It can be said that spending precious young time for that affair partner who has no future is a waste and a waste of time in life.
The partner of his affair is building a family.
However, when you continue to be his age, you may end up with nothing left on your hands.
Don't you think (he) is foolish and unfair?
Let's look to the future and think calmly about the merits and demerits.
By the way, it seems that retirement agency services, which are popular among young people recently, will flourish after Golden Week.
It would be nice if there was a farewell agency service for romance, but for example, you could ask a lawyer or the like to step in between.
Furthermore, Buddhism explains that “the mind is impermanent.”
Thoughts and feelings come and go from moment to moment, then disappear, and change, so every moment you are reborn with a new heart and a new you.
The past has passed away and is no more.
No matter what kind of trouble or homework they have, they should be able to enjoy the current and here hobbies in front of them, and relax and do the housework in front of them.
Try to replace it with a fresh mind so that your brain isn't dominated by delusional distractions about your affair partner for a long time.

I read it.
You were contacted by that person, so you couldn't stop the affair and you accepted the invitation, didn't you? Then your wife contacted you and you were billed for alimony, and you're having a hard time with your debts. I don't know the details about you, your affair partner, or your family, but I can tell you that you are suffering a lot. I accept your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
You probably think it's because that person invited you, but that person probably made a very bad mistake and betrayed and deeply hurt your family, and you hurt that family in the same way.
Now you are living well. Please calm down from the bottom of your heart and confess your thoughts as they are, putting your hands together with the Buddha, gods, and ancestors one by one. Please sincerely tell the Buddha, gods, and ancestors what you have done, reflect on your mistakes and repent. Also, let's sincerely apologize to the Buddha, gods, ancestors, and those you have hurt, even from the bottom of your heart. Also, please swear to the Buddha, gods, and ancestors that you will never commit the same mistake again.
Your relationship with that person is a bad relationship. That person came up to you because of his own desires. Many people experienced anxiety and suffering because of that person, and were condemned to misfortune. That person must sincerely reflect on their mistakes and make amends.
I know it's very painful for you too, but please never get in touch with that person at all, and let's break all relationships. And please try to live for yourself, for your own life, and for your happiness from now on.
Please let us know your thoughts again, and we look forward to welcoming you. We wholeheartedly agree