I can't trust others

Thank you Sumiso-sama for your consultation.

It can be said that the main cause of the thought “I am a person I am untrustworthy” and the threat feeling that “I am in pain because I am not trusted by those around me” is that I remember past failures and experiences (bullying and abuse) where fear was given, I feel threatened by everything, and undermines myself. Even if you're not aware of it, you gradually feel threatened by others.
However, this feeling of threat is an instinctive response to protect oneself. If you feel ashamed or threatened, you will naturally have a reaction of fight, flight, or freezing.
In other words, this mental habit isn't my fault. I'm not responsible, and I'm not at fault.
So, the first thing to do is think over and over that I'm not bad and that my feelings of threat aren't my fault. Tweet over and over again to reduce thoughts that discredit yourself.
Also, have time to feel safe and secure. Or it's important to go to such places and heal. You can also imagine a place where you feel safe. It is necessary to fully heal the mind and calm the hustle and bustle.
It is also effective to perform deep, relaxed, and comfortable breathing exercises.

In this way, let's be compassionate to ourselves, store energy in our hearts, gradually calm our feelings of threat, and create a relaxed, calm state of mind over and over again. A feeling that relaxes and warms my heart, and that I look at myself with tolerance and feel that I am an important person. Furthermore, let's have courage so that we can be kind to ourselves and others.
First, by looking at others with compassion and kindness, threat signals in interpersonal relationships will gradually fade. Eventually, you'll be able to communicate peacefully and with peace of mind. I think so.
Please refer to it. One bow

I read it.
I read that you are worried that your work won't last long because you have cornered yourself. I don't know the details about you or the people around you, but I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
I don't know the specifics of you or your relationships with people up until now, but you probably assume that you can't trust yourself, and you may be bashing yourself.

You may have gotten into the habit of thinking that way until now, but if possible, why not try resetting those thoughts and tendencies once. It can be hard to get away from your own thoughts.
Nonetheless, I don't think that's the case when it comes to only people you don't trust and people around you think or feel.
People around you probably aren't looking at you the way you think.
Each person has a different way of life, way of thinking, and getting involved, so feel free to take care of yourself little by little.
First, try freeing yourself little by little. And let's believe in ourselves.

I sincerely pray that you will be blessed with even more wonderful encounters and relationships in the future, and that you can freely get involved and deepen various relationships, and that you can understand, enjoy, and live a fulfilling everyday life with the people around you.
And I will support you from the bottom of my heart. We wholeheartedly agree

I read your profile. What was the cause of your depression? I think it may have been greatly influenced by human relationships.

That's why they don't have confidence, and they perceive the reactions of those around them in a distorted way. I think feelings of inferiority and negative feelings arise between us and others. You lose your confidence and your self-esteem becomes low.

It is said that the boundary is vague, but it was created by you in the first place, and if you don't confirm it with others, you won't know anything about the true meaning. In other words, maybe it's something nobody thinks about.

If that's the case, there's something I want you to put into practice in order to get out of this negativity. It's something I also keep in mind, and it means “I don't expect evaluations from others” and “I cherish my good points.”

Since you're living your own life, you can prioritize yourself over others. I don't think of anything directed at me as an evaluation. If you don't take care of yourself, who will take care of you?

It doesn't mean you have to live selfishly. Take care of yourself and find places you like so that you can live your life properly. It's increasing. In that way, let's improve ourselves rather than other people's evaluations.

Why don't you overcome your worries and complexes while checking with the monks of Hasunoha without having to deal with them alone? The monk Hasunoha is also a different person from your point of view. Check out the reactions of others. I don't think anyone would hurt you. Little by little, I want to be able to trust people while interacting here.

Aren't you worrying too much about others in the first place?
There is no need for work, such as what others think of you, or whether others are your enemies or allies.
However, people who only care about relationships and evaluations of themselves show up in their words and actions.
When that happens, people around you think you're a very bothersome guy.
Speaking of Doraemon, like Gian, people around you will have to worry about your mood and respond.
Therefore, don't worry about your own evaluations, etc., and don't think about separating others as enemies, allies, or likes or dislikes, and just use your thoughts (brain time and energy) only on the content of the work, such as doing what you need to do, what you can do or can't do, and how you do it if you do it.
Trusting people or not trusting them is a silly delusional distraction.
Each person has different abilities and values, so let's think that each person has different things they can do/can't do, what they do/don't do, and how to do it; it's the same as if there are various types of vegetables, and carrots aren't enemies because they are tough, and you just need to cook carrots as deliciously as carrots.
Trusting or not trusting people is an extra delusional distraction; if you think you can just do what you do, your relationship problems will go away, and if you don't care about relationships, as a result, you won't be bothered by people around you, and you won't be disliked.