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Will I meet people I don't like in this life in the next life?

I'm indebted to you. Will we fight in this world and meet people we don't like in the next life? There is someone who has been alive for 56 years and is absolutely unforgivable. He's not my father-in-law, but if I explain it, it will be a long time, so I'll say it I can never forgive my father-in-law, my friend who betrayed me 30 years ago, and a senior believer in a religion who joined 15 years ago. It caused a tremendous amount of trouble. However, I've heard that the reason we are deeply involved in this life is because we were involved in previous lives. If you do that, will they get involved with these guys in the next life, even if they change their shape? I don't want to get involved, and I don't want to meet people. I don't want to look at Zara either. Will I still meet someone I've been deeply involved with in this world, even if I have a bad relationship? Please answer.

5 Zen Responses

Naturally, the destination is different

I read it.
Something really disgusting was probably done, and since you still don't feel so bad, I imagine that something pretty terrible was done. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.

If you don't want to see them again, be sure to ask the Buddha, gods, and ancestors to save you when you have reached the end of your life. We wholeheartedly agree
I also sincerely pray that you will be saved by the Buddha, God, and your ancestors. We wholeheartedly agree

You will always be guided by the Buddha or God, and your close people and ancestors who went earlier will kindly welcome you. Then, you will be saved from any hesitation or suffering and will be pure, and you will attain Buddhism cleanly with your ancestors.

If you do that, the place you go to with those people will naturally change, isn't it?
I don't know what kind of faith those people have, but depending on what those people believe in, where they go next will naturally change, and I think you will be able to move away from the bad relationship you think.

I sincerely pray to the Buddha, gods, and ancestors so that you can get rid of such bad relationships and survive with peace of mind from the bottom of your heart, and fulfill the ten-life you have been given.

And I pray earnestly to the Buddha, gods, and ancestors that the Buddha or God will guide you and that your ancestors will kindly welcome you when you have reached your full life. We wholeheartedly agree

unwitting

 Mr. Chatra! After all, it's someone else's affair, and I haven't seen or know the afterlife.
In terms of Buddhism, this is the end of the answer.

There were a lot of difficult things in life, Mr. Chatra. Please take care of yourself first. There are a lot of people I don't like either. There are many people I like. There are many people who didn't like it but fell in love with it. There are also people I loved but didn't like. If you have lived as much as me in life, I think you've experienced a lot of things. But even the people close to me, the Usagaku family, become selfish. Aim for selfishness. If you aim too much, it may develop into DV. But I can't sue. Because it's my place of peace, it's my last place (probably). If you don't show up with your relatives, you don't have to get along first. We should meet remotely now. You can keep in touch via email. If it's a family, you have no choice but to kick out people you don't like or become independent yourself.
You may be in a position where people dislike you in the next life. I thought, but does the afterlife exist in the first place? I thought so. If there are religious people who talk about the afterlife, I think it's better to be a little wary. No one has ever seen it. I've never been there. I don't even know if there is such a thing or not, what hope is there in the next life? Now is the only time for me. The future cannot come without the present, and the future changes depending on how we perceive the past. I now think “a pinch is a harbinger of opportunity.” If not, time won't turn back. It's a waste of time more than thinking about the other person's bad things.
I experienced a funeral like this. The mourner was her daughter and father's funeral. At that time, when we said our last goodbye at the crematorium, I thought it would be a matter of collecting bones. Then I tried to just go home without collecting the bones. Strangely enough, my father gave me a so-called DV and told me that I didn't want to do a memorial service with such a person even after death. Without saying anything, “You did your best. That was tough.” I was only able to say that.
At that time, if what happened to being alive can't be solved while you're alive, will something like this happen? I thought so.
Have you ever thought about... if you were in the opposite position... If you always think and act like that, I think the first thing you do is protect yourself. That's all for me.

That's why I encounter salvation that frees me from this suffering

Being betrayed and unforgivable is something you can't forgive as long as you're alive, no matter how many decades have passed. Even after death, I probably won't be able to forgive, and I don't want to. It's probably us humans who think so. There are people I can't forgive, too, so your strong feelings are conveyed.

I can see the deep feelings of human obsession and hatred for the Buddha called Amida. Then, they join the pain and lament. That's why they pour out salvation to free us from this suffering.
It saves me when I want to get rid of my obsession.

At least after death, I can become myself without suffering and be born in Amida's Pure Land.
If you want that, I recommend living hand in hand.

You can't go beyond suffering with your own heart alone, can you?
Why don't you form a relationship with Amida for yourself? It will be an easier way to live and be saved.

To be honest, I have no choice but to answer “I don't know.”

Thank you very much for your consultation. The pain I received from my “father-in-law,” “betrayed friend,” and “senior religious believer” is deep, and I painfully understand the strong feeling that I can never forgive it.

Now, the question is “will they get involved by changing their shape in the next life?” But to be honest, I have no choice but to answer “I don't know.” There is a concept called “reincarnation” in Buddhism, but as a matter of fact, the Buddha did not dare to answer the question “what happens after death.” There is no point in worrying about an uncertain afterlife, and I came to think that how to resolve “now” suffering is more important than that.

Also, my personal opinion is included, but if we visit the Pure Land after death and become Buddha, feelings such as anguish and “anger (strong anger or resentment)” will completely disappear. Therefore, in the next life, you will never be reunited with them as “disgusting people” and be tormented. Please don't worry.

What I am rather worried about is the fact that the consultant is still deeply tormented by the feeling of hatred towards those people to the extent that they are worried that “we may meet in the next life.” The strong feeling of not being able to forgive hurts your own heart like a blade and binds you to a more difficult place.

It would be difficult to “completely forget” the terrible treatment of the past. However, in order to protect your own heart, try to reduce the time they occupy your mind even a little and consciously divert your gaze to other things. It would be too unreasonable to spend your precious current life spending time thinking about them. I hope that your heart will be at ease even a little.

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Engiji Temple Shakujo

It's impossible in real life, so don't worry

In Buddhism, a life that has died instantaneously arises in the next world as the next life. In that world, we will live as a new life. Also, what form it occurs in which world is determined by the state of the work at the time of death in this world.
Therefore, in order for the next life to occur in a similar form to the extent that relationships can be recognized in a similar world, lives that have followed roughly the same way of life in this life as a premise in the first place must end their lives around the same time.
Such things may hold true in delusions, but they don't exist in reality. Furthermore, it is thought that business from previous generations will also have an impact.
If you think about it this way, it is impossible for the lives involved in this life to get involved again in the next world.
There's no need to worry.