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Not being able to make the decision to leave the job

Thanks for watching.
I joined the company as a high school graduate and was a store manager for 2 stores at the age of 22.
However, I couldn't go to work due to power harassment and workload, and I couldn't stop my tears, I couldn't even contact them about my absenteeism, so much so that my housemates contacted me.
I started taking a break at the beginning of April, and my hospital teacher told me that it would be better to choose between retiring or extending my vacation.
I don't have the confidence to have 2 more stores myself, and since 2 stores are commonplace, the only way to keep staying is to have 2 stores.
Even if I know in my head that it's better to quit, even when I look at job offers, I feel like there are no jobs I can do, only my ideals are getting higher, and I feel like I'm out of the social circle, leaving nothing but impatience.
I'm afraid to let go when I think about various things such as getting into a major company or annual income and benefits.
I know my body comes first, but I can't make the decision to quit.
I feel uneasy and scared all the time when I extend my vacation like this.
What should I do to make the decision to quit putting my body first
I'm sorry for the poor sentence

5 Zen Responses

Work comes after two and three, let's prioritize you

I read it.
I've also read the questions from before. It really conveys that it's hard to decide whether or not to quit your job. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
I think it's reasonable for you to think so.
Please prioritize your own mind and body first. Work comes after two and three. I think it's okay to tell the company that you are in a very difficult situation right now based on a diagnosis from your doctor. I don't know what kind of company I'm working for now, and maybe there's a shortage of manpower, but that doesn't mean it's okay for your mind and body to be exhausted and deteriorate. Please tell the company's compliance department if possible, including the fact that you have been harassed by power, and first of all, please take good care of yourself and rest.
You are more important than your work at the company, and it is the company's responsibility that you are in such a state. Let's make sure the company takes responsibility.
You don't have to take any responsibility; please prioritize caring for and recovering you.
If possible, if you have recovered even a little bit, talk to a public institution.
https://www.no-harassment.mhlw.go.jp/inquiry-counter/
https://www.moj.go.jp/JINKEN/jinken20.html
https://www.gov-online.go.jp/article/201304/entry-8380.html
I think it's okay to consult with counselors from public institutions and receive various advice and support.
You are well protected. You can live with peace of mind without being harassed by such power.
I sincerely pray that you will first take care of yourself, rest well, and recover, that the company will deal with it firmly and responsibly, apologize to you, improve illegal acts, and that you and everyone can respect each other and live every day with peace of mind. And I will support you from the bottom of my heart.
Please let us know how you feel, and we look forward to seeing you. We wholeheartedly agree

Status and income are only useful when there is a foundation of mental and physical health

Thank you for contacting us again. You were able to share your voice well during this difficult situation. You've worn yourself beyond your limits until you couldn't stop crying. Your sense of responsibility and ability, when you were entrusted with 2 stores from high school at age 22, is truly amazing.

Now, it's natural to feel afraid to let go of the position, stability, and benefits of being a major company. In Buddhism, these strong feelings are called “obsession (obsession),” but letting go of obsession is by no means “losing” or “running away.” It's a precious decision to protect “your own mind and body,” which should be protected the most.

Status and income can only be used when there is a foundation of mental and physical health. If you overdo it now and your symptoms become serious, it will take even longer to recover. Your doctor's words are meant to save you. Right now, I would like you to give top priority to your own life and have the courage to “retire” to unload all the baggage you have once carried. This is because from the text, it seems difficult to take sufficient mental and physical care with “extended rest.”

You're still young, and you have a solid ability to handle that much work. Once you regain your health, you will surely be able to find a path that suits you again. For now, please just think about taking care of yourself.

Worship
Engiji Temple Shakujo

Be confident! Take care of yourself.

Ai-san, thank you very much for your consultation.
If you're in a situation where power harassment, workload, and tears won't stop,

Actually, it might be better to quit.

I've read all of Ai-san's consultations, and she's always working hard while caring about her surroundings.

Actually, everyone is afraid of that area, such as feeling that there is no job I can do, that only my ideals will rise higher, or that I am out of the social circle.

Ai-san isn't the only one.

But think about it carefully. The person who makes the final decision is not a parent or partner, but Ai-san.

Because it's Ai-san's life.

Major companies, annual income, and benefits may be important. But I can't stop crying already.

It's a cry from Ai-san's body and heart.

Let's put Ai-san's body and mind first and foremost.

While having fun, I will do a job with abilities that Ai-san can enjoy.

Don't be consumed by the world.
Please don't be taken advantage of in a good way!

Then, let it continue.

Why don't you change your perspective and think about it?

I also have a kind partner.
Please take your time and think about it.

Let's recover first

I saw your question.
Until now at the company I joined as a high school graduate
You've worked so hard that you've been tasked with 2 stores at age 22. I think that's why I was able to endure my mind and body to the limit.

Not being able to stop crying and not being able to get in touch is not “indulgent,” but a danger signal from the body. First of all, please accept that “you have worked so hard up to this point.”

In Buddhism, we don't respect continuing to overdo it until it breaks. What we need now is recovery to move on.

Please do not hesitate to use any system you can use, including employment insurance. Receiving support and taking a break is not about leaving society.

Please value “choices that don't destroy yourself” rather than deciding on the future now.
Your value isn't determined by your company or title alone.

The experience of working so hard is the strength and strength you have acquired.

are you alright? It's even in a state where it's not...
I have depressive symptoms caused by stress.

Work doesn't continue with conditions alone. After all, the environment and relationships have a big impact. Also, they're being harassed by power, aren't they? This has been hurting you all this time. Does holding on to this situation have a connection with society?

In this way, I'm also connected to my flatmates and Hasunoha who think of you. You're properly part of society.

The experience of working so hard since you graduated from high school is a strength and strength you have acquired. From now on, let's retire here once and rest your body while shifting to a job that suits you.
You've been working very hard until now.