I can't accept that others also have shades

Maybe it doesn't have much to do with Buddhism.
As written in the question, each person lives with their own values and worldview, and they may not be compatible with each other. I think it's also written that friction is particularly high in places where many people gather, such as workplaces and schools.
Changing people's thoughts or changing one's own thoughts is extremely difficult, and I think that there is also a limit to making sense in order to avoid trouble.
Sometimes, I think it's necessary to get away from that place before you're irretrievably exhausted.
One thing I think is important is that when you're feeling depressed, it seems better to avoid making important decisions that will change your career path or environment thereafter.
People's emotions fluctuate all the time, and their mood changes rapidly, as well as rising and falling.
When we're depressed, we tend to think excessively badly about various conditions and undervalue ourselves excessively. At such times, isn't it still difficult to decide things so that the future course is in good shape?
I think it's a good idea to carefully observe the ups and downs of your own feelings, and when you feel “I'm depressed right now” or “my thoughts are turning backwards,” I think it's a good idea to be careful not to decide anything.

Thank you for your question.

When people get hurt by relationships, they think “does this workplace fit or doesn't fit?”
However, work is not originally a place to fall in love with someone; it is also a place to play a given role.

The salary is not for “being able to spend time with someone you like,” and you are paid for continuing to work today and fulfilling what you have been entrusted with.
Also, by accumulating the work you have been given, little by little, trust from those around you will also grow.

Of course, you don't have to force yourself to like someone.
Even if there is someone I don't believe in, I'll try to fulfill my duties first.
In Buddhism, we carefully look at how we live in a world that doesn't turn out the way we want.
Please try supporting “were you able to continue today” rather than “it fits or doesn't fit.”

Thank you, Yuna, for your consultation.

It is said that there is an attachment disorder, and I presume from the content of the consultation that there is probably an avoidance anxiety type trend. This can also be said to be a personality that has been imprinted in the home environment.
In other words, it's not your fault.
Change jobs repeatedly. You are not responsible for moving away from black and white by thinking black and white. It's not your fault.
Nonetheless, it's still hard when an imprinted personality comes to the fore.
I think they are feeling very troubled and painful in their interpersonal relationships.
As a countermeasure, I think it is necessary to heal yourself, direct kindness and compassion towards yourself, and fully feel the warmth of your heart. I think it's important to soothe your irritated feelings and be calm.
For example, I use stuffed animals, etc., to remember my crying little self, hold the stuffed animal as if I were to hold that young self tightly and heal them, and say, “I'm not scared anymore. Try talking to your younger self, such as “You're living well, and you're always wrapped in kindness, so you don't have to cry.”
This is just one healing method, but trying out various things, filling your heart with kindness, and storing energy will help you keep working.
There's no need to be impatient. I think the future will be assured by slowly developing kindness and compassion until you can grasp the feeling that you are firmly independent on your own.
There are various ways to be compassionate, such as mindfulness meditation and mercy meditation, so please try working on various things. I'm sure it will come in handy. Please refer to it. One bow

Maybe it's easier to think that black and white can't be added to relationships. You may have had a bad experience, but there are probably people (women) who have had a positive impact. It's a personal relationship only at work, and even if it's compatible with your attitude towards work, being exposed to various thoughts and opinions gives you an opportunity to broaden your perspective and think from various angles. So it's not all bad things.

It sounds like past experiences have traumatized you. I think there is also a way to leave (change jobs), but if you repeat that, you will become worried like this one. Before that happens, draw boundaries to maintain yourself, don't be afraid that the relationship might deteriorate, and don't force yourself to get along. Up until now, that was getting tough, wasn't it? There are times when I want to speak ill or complain. If you don't want to listen, leave the place. Even when invited to dinner, they say, “I don't want to.” I'm in an exhausting relationship, so I don't want to bend myself. That too will be self-disclosure.

Change jobs repeatedly. Another job may be difficult to keep going on forever. If that's the case, why don't you act fearlessly in relationships within boundaries that protect yourself?

I'm putting it into practice too. Don't force yourself to get along, and don't accumulate stress on yourself. I'm telling them that people I don't like are people that have nothing to do with me, just because it's my job. It's also an easy way to get the job done.
Try incorporating what you are putting into practice.