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About the use of customs after visiting a shrine

Nice to meet you.
I think the content is very rude, but I'm helplessly worried and would like to ask you a question.
I'm going to Tokyo soon to take a job-related qualification exam, but I'm taking a day off until the next two days.
There is also the fact that I can go to Tokyo after a long absence, so there is a shrine I visited before and a shrine for the first time, and now I would like to split it into 2 days and visit each in the morning. I would like to say thank you for protecting me until now, and I would also like to ask for my mother's healing from her illness and my marriage.

After visiting the shrine, I also want to do sightseeing in Tokyo, etc., and at that time, I also want to use sex shops (content where you touch the body, not direct sexual activity). I myself have never experienced women until now, and recently there are times when I can't help but have a strong sexual desire, and I have a strong desire to touch women's bodies. However, if you are afraid of venereal diseases, I would like to keep direct acts (such as kissing) until the first time.

After all, is it disrespectful to God to use customs etc. after visiting a shrine? Personally, healing my mother's illness is the most important thing, but since my own desires are growing day by day, I also want to fulfill my desires.
However, in response to the sacred act of visiting a shrine, I wonder how it would be good to worship while holding these thoughts, and I'm even wondering if I am qualified to worship now.

I'm sorry for your busy schedule, but I would appreciate your reply.

5 Zen Responses

You should save them so that they can help girls in sex shops.

There are almost no sex workers who really want to do it.
There must be many children who have no choice but to do it because they need money due to family circumstances, have been scammed by bad people or are forced to do it. If so, customers like you are very welcome.
It would be nice if I scooped it up. I'm going to pray at a sex shop in the form of God and Buddha forgiving me.
For the men in the world, I'm really sorry that they healed and saved a man who couldn't help but break his heart. Thank you so much. On behalf of the men of the world, thank their children and do acts of salvation. Please respect the dignity of women and do all you can with kindness and human love without sexual activity. I'll rub my shoulders, listen to their worries, give them money separately, give them advice on ways of salvation, ideas, and the third way so that they can quickly get out of such a world, and give them consideration.
A long time ago, when he was an ascetic monk, it seems that a monk was taken by his bad friend and was forcibly taken to the red-light district of that time even though he didn't want to go. However, it seems that the monk, who had maintained a spirit of infidelity all his life, did not have sexual relationships with women even when entering a girls' house, and explained the teachings of the Buddha. * “Infidelity (fubon)”... In Buddhist terms, it indicates that a monk and a nun do not break the precepts, especially refraining from sexual relationships (fornication). Preserving this for a lifetime is called “lifelong infidelity.” It is also known in history that Uesugi Kenshin, the warlord of the Sengoku period, did not take a wife.
A monk also said he was taken to the Red Zone by his bad friend in the same spirit of infidelity for the rest of his life, but he didn't do anything. However, if you don't get the act from a woman, there's no way you can get money. They said they would be scolded, and they said, “If so, why don't you do the sewing?” It seems that they asked the woman to sew what she was wearing.
I thought men in the world were nothing but rubbish, but they were shown a way of life where everyone could put their hands together, not just women who had fallen into a difficult situation wondering if there were such people. Both monks became Zen masters at Eiheiji Temple and Soji-ji Temple of the Soto sect, were respected by many people, and were shown the way to salvation. Both women and Zen masters were able to accumulate good merits in a difficult world, and they were saved. When there was an ordinance to be given the Buddha's commandment, which is held once a year at a temple, as many as 6,000 devotees made a request to receive the precepts under a Zen master, and bosatsu, big sisters, and residents were born in the world at that time.
I wonder if it's rice that bows its head the more it bears fruit (Eb°)
worships

I read it.
Thank you for your question.
I don't think there's any particular problem. You probably have sexual desire.
If you feel uneasy, I think it's better to stop going to sex shops.
Please do your best with the exam first. I sincerely pray that you pass. We wholeheartedly agree

Thank you for your question.
Even if I go to sex in my 20s, it's just empty.
Let's use that money for local street parties and matchmaking.
Use it for your future girlfriend.
I put up with greed, so it's good to pray to God to heal my mother's illness.

It is good if it is an act that properly draws a line between life, actions, and feelings

It is also a natural human desire. That's because it comes down to mutual agreement. I hope I can find a place that suits me.

The feeling of visiting a shrine is also important. Within the domain, please sincerely pray for your mother's healing from her illness. I'm also thinking about it from here on out.

It is good if it is an act that properly draws a line between life, actions, and feelings.

I'm supporting you to take the exam. it's a fight~

“Even if you're still hesitating, you can put your hands together”

First of all, I felt that the fact that they were blaming themselves, saying, “I don't think you should visit the shrine while thinking about this,” is probably a very serious person.

Every human being has various desires. Appetite, desire to sleep, and sexual desire naturally occur as long as we live. Even in Buddhism, greed itself is not viewed as “something that should not exist.” However, I think it's important to look at whether to be swayed by that greed and hurt yourself or others.

So,
“I want to pray for the healing of my mother's illness”
“I want to express my gratitude”
With that sincerity,
“I want to touch women”
I don't think it's okay to think of the desire in your heart at the same time as something dirtier than necessary.

Visiting a shrine is not a place only for completely pure people. It's also a place where people with worries, doubts, and weaknesses go hand in hand. It said, “Am I qualified to worship now?” but I think it's important not whether or not you have qualifications, but the feeling of “I want to put my hands together.”

However, on the other hand, what I want you to be careful about is “will emptiness and self-loathing become stronger after satisfying desires?” People have high expectations when it's their first experience. However, in reality, rather than being saved the moment you touch it, there are many people who, on the contrary, feel more lonely.

So,
“What am I really looking for?”
It might be a good idea to stare at it a little quietly.

・Is it a longing for women's warmth
・Do you want to fill your sense of loneliness
・Do you want to be free from tension and anxiety
・Do you want to be accepted by someone

Once you notice what lies behind it, the way you handle your mind changes slightly.

If you are going to use it, it is more important than anything else to avoid illegal stores or dangerous acts, not treat your partner like a “thing,” and value your own mind and body.

When visiting the shrine in Tokyo, be sure to not only say “please,” but also express your gratitude for your support up to this point. I think it's okay to hold on to your mother's anxiety about her illness and your own feelings of loneliness and shaking, and put your hands together.