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Regrets about getting a job

I'm a working person in my first year as a new graduate after graduating from graduate school.
After getting lost in job hunting, I declined from a large company and joined a mid-sized company that I was interested in the job description.

However, after I declined, I realized that the treatment of large companies, brands, advantages in marriage hunting, and ease of changing jobs were more necessary for me than interest in work.

After working, I realized that I didn't want to work that strongly at my current company, and I regret my choice, which is really painful. I think I've done something irreparable. How should we deal with this pain?

4 Zen Responses

You'll regret it anyway

Even if you had a job at a large company, you might have regretted that “if I had joined that company, I might have been able to do a more interesting job.”
Also, if after you change jobs, your current company's performance grows and you are in the limelight, you may regret “I wish I hadn't changed jobs after all.”
Regret is a type of anguish (an evil heart that causes trouble and suffering).
In other words, regrets are unnecessary distractions, but people with personalities that are prone to regret will regret it either way.
You made an appropriate decision from the information available at that time, each time.
That decision was right at the time.
And now I've got some new information.
You also have the option of changing jobs, for example.
Let's keep walking brightly (out of the darkness of anger, sorrow, and regret) towards the future.
If you keep walking, you will always progress, so you will be able to encounter new information.
It can also be said that the reason you regret it is because new information has made you smarter.
“Regret is suffering. Worry is the cause of worry and suffering”
With that in mind, let's stop abstract regrets and switch our consciousness to concrete thoughts.

Face the work in front of you honestly and concentrate on refining yourself

I'm sorry for the painful regret. The pain of “doing something irreparable” is profound, isn't it?

However, according to Buddhist teachings, there is no “absolute right answer” to life choices. Even if they had chosen a large company, they would surely have had other regrets, such as relationship problems and pressures. The reason I joined my current company after losing my mind was because I had some kind of deep “relationship.”

It's only been a few months since I joined the company. The true fun and depth of work can only be seen after 1 or 3 years of earnestly facing it. The job description will always change as your career matures. Also, although they are concerned about advantages in marriage hunting, marriage is not a corporate brand. Relationships between people play a leading role, and what is important is not a sign, but your own humanity.

No one can redo past choices, but depending on how you live now, you can change the “meaning” of those choices to something better.

Stop getting caught up in regrets now, and focus on refining yourself by facing the task at hand sincerely first. That hard work will surely attract future careers and relationships with good partners.

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I don't think the company has gained any power yet.

There's no doubt that both have their appeal. It can also be lonely to lament without noticing it.

If you focus only on the merits of being a “large enterprise,” it becomes difficult to look at the performance, initiatives, ingenuity, etc. of the company you are currently in.
I'm already losing my motivation if I didn't want to do it that strongly.

However, if you are told that it is in an irretrievable state, you probably haven't gained any power at this company yet.

As I think about medium- to long-term growth in my life, I want to have an attitude of learning and deepening as a member of a company.

You can also hope to change jobs to larger companies. However, if you don't sell to large companies with your appeal and ability to contribute (make a profit), it will be difficult to get hired. This is because it should not just be a company called a “big enterprise.”

You're still in your first year. Why don't you take a good look at what's inside and grow?

The grass next door is blue, I think it's in condition

I read it.
You're sorry that you got a job at a mid-sized company and didn't get a job at a large company. I feel like I can understand that you think so. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
I can't say unequivocally how it is about small to medium enterprises and large enterprises, but when you work, each has its own merits and demerits.
I used to be an office worker, but I also worked for micro enterprises, small to medium enterprises, and large companies. After all, there are advantages and disadvantages. Conversely, not everything can be satisfied.
There are so many differences between them in terms of job content and treatment.
I don't know what kind of industry you work in, but there are probably advantages and disadvantages to each.
Either way, if you do a job, you'll be able to improve your skills as well, and I think it will be advantageous for changing jobs.
Right now, you're still inexperienced, so I think the grass next door is blue.
Please try your best by first facing what is right in front of you. Also, it might be a good idea to try changing jobs to a larger company.
I will support you from the bottom of my heart. We wholeheartedly agree