Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I'm ashamed of myself

I recently started my first part-time job. However, from the first time I went to work, I was frightened by the large amount of work content and things I had to remember. I've lost the confidence to continue for a long time. My friends and family told me it would be fine once I got used to...

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I'm worried about whether I should believe in Buddhism or Shinto.

This is my first time asking a question. I was hesitant about whether it was something I could talk to Gobo about, but since there were no other people I could talk to, I took the brush. I'm sorry if I've been disrespectful. Due to family circumstances, I have been interested in religion...

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Does choosing the path of ascetic practice prioritize oneself over the weak in society?

(I understand that this is not the case for all denominations) This is a question about how zazen meditation paves the way to enlightenment. Decades of ascetic practice and zazen meditation may certainly be a step towards enlightenment for that monk. However, in the meantime, there are many...

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Feelings of guilt for children born small

Hello. I'm the mother of a son who will soon be 3 years old. At the time of pregnancy, I was suffering from a neurosis called an eating disorder (overeating and vomiting), so I had almost no nutrition, and I was only able to gain 4 kilograms of weight even before pregnancy. As a result, my son...

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She worked at a sex shop

As the title suggests, it turns out that she works at a sex shop. Actually, it was discovered that they had worked in the sex industry once before, so we discussed it. At this time, the job advertisement that was posted at the store was false, pretending to be a normal part-time job, and since...

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I want to change my family temple

[Question] Can I move my grandfather/grandmother from my family temple to another temple? Consultant (me): W family, mother's parents' house: T family. Grandfather (mother's father), grandmother (mother's mother), uncle A (mother's eldest brother), and aunt A (uncle A's wife) are in the...

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I'm worried about my gaze.

I'm worried about my gaze. For some reason, they seem to glare at people around them. Because of that, people talk bad about it, saying “I'm glancing at you” and “it's disgusting.” I'm very concerned about the person who came into my field of vision I watch it even if I don't want...

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How to not succumb to fear and hesitation when committing suicide?

I plan to commit suicide in six months. I'm not going to change this idea. I'm tired of hearing advice like “talk to 00” everywhere. They are already receiving medical treatment. So I'm not asking for it. When I commit suicide, I want to know the Buddhist view of life and death in order to...

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The reason why they are being kept alive

I am saved by Hasunoha's answers every time. However, I have not been able to put into practice most of the advice I was given. Negative emotions are so big and heavy that they are crushed. I don't think it can be helped if people think they're being spoiled, but I just can't move. He really...

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Can I learn Buddhism on a site called the Buddhism Online Introductory Course?

There were a lot of things this year, and I experienced it firsthand, and I spent my days making my heart ache So, it feels like I got a lot of information on the internet and got confused and amplified my suffering Under such circumstances, I met here, had a few consultations, and I feel...

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What should I do at the end of my life

Thank you for your busy schedule My own illness (in my 40s) progressed little by little I think I have to put an end to my life Where should I start I don't know, I'm worried My parents have also been divorced, and when I was a kid I hardly remember visiting graves. I got married, and...

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About the business

I would like to ask you a question tonight. In Buddhism, there are bad causes and bad effects, and good causes and good effects The world deceives people with lies, exploits wealth from the poor, discriminate against races and ethnic groups, commit violence, incite wars There are people who...

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The abnormal complex of being inexperienced in sexual intercourse

I'm a 23 year old man. I will be a new member of society starting in April. As the title suggests, I have never had sexual intercourse with women (commonly known as a virgin). Also, I have an abnormal complex about being a virgin. At the same time, I have an abnormal longing for sexual...

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Is my son protected by someone

A year and a half has passed since my son committed suicide The smile on the day I last saw that girl When I think about it now, she had a sad smile saying something. But I couldn't notice anything, I couldn't protect them, I couldn't help them What kind of thoughts did I have when I reached...

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I just got a job, but I can't help but feel uneasy.

I recently graduated from a four-year university and got a job at a company. The seniors at the company are all cheerful and nice, and their salaries and benefits are pretty good in the industry/job category. However, I can't help but feel uneasy from the bottom of my heart about whether I can...

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I'm addicted to women's customs.

It's an embarrassing story, but the title says it. I went to a different place, but it wasn't good, and I did a lot of research, and since it became the current book nominee, I chose that person. I don't know if I like it or if I recommend it. I know it's work, but the compliments from him are...

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I can't play a musical instrument

I'm in charge of the saxophone in the technical college's brass band, and from a certain point on, it became difficult to breathe when I held an instrument, and I was struck by the feeling that it was completely dark in front of me, and I couldn't play. Even so, I liked the club activity itself...

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The teachings of the afterlife

Since I was a child, according to Buddhist teachings, if people were able to go to the Pure Land of Paradise after death, it would be fun to meet nostalgic people who were gone before. Or rather, I am practicing ascetic practices in order to serve the Buddha. I've heard a lot of rumors, such as...

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I don't have confidence...

I'm not going well with anything. Career choices, hobbies, romance... Even though it's my own decision, I get lost, and little things make me uneasy. I think the reason this happens is because I don't have confidence in myself. There's nothing good about me... I've only been able to see the...

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I regret naming my child

(I wrote my name on my profile) I regret naming my child. The reason I regret it is that I can't read it with guesswork. When I put it on, if I think about it now, it's no wonder why I didn't notice it, but for some reason I didn't notice it, and since it was described on the...

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