I want to control my anger against my mother-in-law

You've been having a hard time. The fact that a deep wound in your heart comes back to life as fear or intense anger at people is proof that you have endured it to the limit. Please don't be impatient to force yourself to let go of your anger, but first acknowledge your own pain, saying “I was hurt so deeply,” and take care of them.

Temples are originally places to be close to people and preach mercy. The fact that there are acts in the family that denies personality is not something that can be overlooked even as a Buddha's path.

In order to get out of this suffering, it is necessary to have the owner, who holds the key, face the situation firmly “as a monk and as a husband” without holding it alone. What's right and what's wrong. Let's honestly communicate your current state of mind and have your husband take a resolute response (initiative) against unreasonable behavior.

If that doesn't change your partner and the situation doesn't improve, physical distancing is also a valid choice to protect your own mind and body. There's no need to force yourself to respond to unreasonable words. Please make restoring your own peace of mind a top priority.

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Engiji Temple Shakujo

Anger pauses during the time when the heart of mercy is activated.
So, let's be aware of compassion, saying, “Even such a mother-in-law is cute if you look closely, isn't it?”
Also, let's be aware of the four immeasurables of mercy and devotion in our daily lives.
For example, I think it's okay to try searching for “meditation on mercy” on the internet.
Also, we have an instinct for self-defense. I'm worried about pride, isn't it?
When we try to protect ourselves (including protecting our honor and pride), we feel afraid and upset.
However, Buddhism explains that the “self” that should be protected in the first place is an illusion.
There is no need to protect it, and reopening it by saying “after that, become a field, become a mountain,” will also lead to a reduction in fear.

What happened?
Denial of personality, taunts, and horrible harassment... that's already violence.
she's a terrible mother-in-law, isn't she?

You should say it back. If you don't tell them what you can't forgive or what you don't like, your mother-in-law like this won't even notice.

You've been hurt, and you've become afraid of meeting people. How does your husband feel about his parents after destroying you? Are you protecting me?

When I think about the future, what I should rely on is a young couple. Even when it comes to temples, you become the master. As my mother-in-law gets older, I need help from others. Even so, what do you do when you bully your wife? It's only because I take care of you. she's a stupid mother-in-law, isn't she?

As a bride from the same temple, please also complain and talk here. Let's get stronger while getting angry and encouraging each other together.

This house is your home. It would be nice if you were imposing. If you don't feel well, your husband will support you. That's fine. Build your own style. Above all else, you can give it the highest priority so that you can live with peace of mind.

(Even if my mother-in-law gets old, I don't know), you should keep in mind.
My husband is there too, so let's leave it up to him.

I read it.
Your mother-in-law said such terrible things to you, and you've been hurt so much that you're still getting angry, and when dealing with people, you think back and can't handle it. I don't know the details about you, your mother-in-law, or your husband, but it really conveys your painful feelings. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
I don't know what kind of person your mother-in-law is, but I'm not allowed to criticize you like that or say bad things. My mother-in-law is committing evil and crimes herself.
Please tell your husband about your feelings one by one without saving up for yourself. And let your husband accept it. Also, let's ask my husband to tell my mother-in-law not to do such a terrible thing.
Also, your feelings won't subside easily, so please sincerely convey your feelings to the Buddha, God, and your ancestors. Please confess your anger, hatred, and suffering to the Buddha, God, and your ancestors as they are.
The Buddha, gods, and ancestors will kindly accept all of your feelings. They are close to your heart, and they are kind to your heart.
You're never alone, are you? That's because Buddha, God, and your ancestors will always kindly watch over you and everyone.
Your mother-in-law will sincerely apologize to you, sincerely repent, and sincerely pray to the Buddha, God, and your ancestors so that you and everyone can live every day safely and healthily while respecting and caring for each other. We wholeheartedly agree