A child was born, but he is reluctant to enroll and has fun

I have two small children, and I appreciate how difficult it is every day, with daily childcare and anxiety about the future.

As your parents said, the time has come to let go of your obsession with Mr. C. Buddhism values things called “relationships,” but there are also “bad relationships” in the world that wear down the mind and body. Captured by the outside world's honor (SNS, volunteering), my child, who has a high fever, and he who turns his back on you, lacks awareness and compassion as a parent. Breaking this bad relationship isn't an escape; it's a great decision to protect you and your children.

But leaving the relationship and shirking him from his parental responsibilities are completely different things. In Buddhism, there is a teaching called “causal retribution (cause and effect).” Since he created the “cause” that he gave his life, we must make him accept the “result” of child support. Please never cry and fall asleep, consult a legal expert promptly, and proceed with legal proceedings. Strength to stand resolutely against unfairness is also necessary to protect oneself.

I'm saying it's a bit tough, but there may have been a point where you were a little lacking in prudence yourself in this relationship. However, please use this deep suffering as a lesson and use it as food for determining a truly sincere “relationship” in the future.

If you let go of your expectations for him, unnecessary daily food expenses and worries will disappear, and there will always be room in your mind and life. I sincerely hope that a peaceful and healthy future for the three mothers and children will be built in this new space.

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Even from the perspective of the same man, I think it's impossible and the worst kind of man who has children but doesn't get married, doesn't raise childcare/nursing, and doesn't pay living expenses. For now, I recommend that you say goodbye to him and go out with someone who takes good care of you and your children and acts from now on. If you don't meet good people, I think it's better to just have a mother and child than go out with a bad man. A mother's smile is necessary for children to grow. May your children grow up bright and healthy.

Maybe his parents don't like their son marrying a single mother.
There is also a possibility that your partner's parents think that you are deliberately creating children and trying to parasitize on your son.
Of course, it goes without saying that he's irresponsible, but what attracted you to him?
For example, if you have something in common with your father's weaknesses and his weaknesses, psychologically, there seems to be a pattern where you unknowingly become attracted to him.
In that case, there is a possibility that your luck with men will deteriorate, so be careful.
Even he has a wonderful charm! If that's the case, I think it's okay to keep waiting patiently.
Even if you break up with him, you're still a father to your child.
Let's make promises of child support and visitation.
They recognized it, and there is a possibility that his grandfather's inheritance will go to your child decades from now.
Anyway, even if you don't get married to him, let's just keep in touch, even if it's small, as the father of your child.

You've worked hard up to this point. It must have been difficult to give birth while carrying an older child. How do they live their lives while raising children even now?
Kids are cute, aren't they? The presence of the baby is adorable, too. I wonder what Man C is doing while being close to such a parent and child.

I don't think there is any future even if you live half-cohabited with this ambiguous man who irresponsibly imposes only burdens, and your attitude towards your parents and children is also disorderly.

Let them properly promise future guarantees for your kids too.
Have you received child support from your first-time husband? Man C is also aware of it, so it's a legal parent-child relationship. In other words, there is an obligation to pay child support.

It would be difficult to get Man C to change his behavior. First of all, I don't care about you or your child. However, they are just living here to eat a meal.

This is the kind of life you are living now, so you don't have any expectations from him who doesn't have a sense of responsibility, do you? As it is, I don't think the situation will change even if I go out with a slur.

In such cases, women are always forced to bear the burden. That's why you should get the right information and consult with experts. You can do up to 3 free consultations at Law Terrace, so let's discuss the future. It's important to guarantee child support. With expert advice, Man C may also decide to prepare. Why don't you talk to an attorney without worrying about it alone?

Rest your body too. Don't overdo it and take a rest with your kids.