Bereavement acceptance and how to relate to others

In Zen Buddhism, people are sometimes taught to be the protagonists.
It's my unmistakable self that I'm living my life, so I'm taught not to let my guard down by checking every once in a while to see if I'm living my life as myself.
This protagonist is slightly different from the main character in novels and dramas.
People often have stories creeping into their heads from other places. When such beautiful music comes from the radio while driving, it's similar to feeling like you're running on a highway in a resort area even though it's just a country road.
It often happens that everyone thinks “this is my life,” but in fact, it's not a reflection of the life itself that they are living, but they have taken a ride on a fairy tale made by someone somewhere.
There is also a main character in fairy tales, and many side roles for good and bad characters appear. If you keep getting caught up in the fairy tale, people around you will look like you're acting on your side without permission.
Actually, such fairy tales are illusory, and people around you don't have side roles, but in the eyes without noticing that you've been caught, people who are convenient for you seem like good side roles, and people who aren't convenient for you seem like side roles for bad guys.

When the monk Zuigan from the Tang dynasty woke up in the morning,
“protagonist” “yes”
“Are your eyes properly open?” “Yes.”
“Don't be fooled.” “Yes, yes.”
It seems that they made it a routine to ask themselves questions alone.
Here, being deceived may be the case for others, but first and foremost, it's myself. It means that you must not be fooled by yourself whether you are inadvertently getting involved in a fairy tale or that your eyes are open enough to see yourself.
If you know that you are the main character, I think other people will also know that they are the main characters of their own.

Two years have passed since that day, hasn't it? Thus, in the background of consulting with Hasunoha, your “I want to live!!” I can sense that energy. I have lived with childhood paralysis, so I can imagine for a moment the mountain slope of the life you have walked through. The subtlety nurtured in it, the warmth towards people, and the depth of suffering because of that...

You're tweeting, “How should I live alone...” Certainly, having gone through a break up with him, you are alone. This is because it is difficult for a “person with whom you can have a close and important relationship,” to quickly appear. But you're not alone. The fact that you have lived for 2 years since that day is proof that there are people who support your daily life.

The Buddhist phrase “one life, one life, one death, Dokko, Dokko, Dokko, Dokko, Dokko, Dokko, Dokko, It is a phrase that expresses the truth that “humans are originally alone,” “no matter how important the relationship is, we cannot understand everything (with each other),” and “we must break up with someone we love.” But it doesn't end there. It is precisely because of “one life, one death, Germany, the Lord's mercy,” that “the wisdom and mercy of the Buddha” has reached me as a function of not letting that life be alone. Furthermore, it can also be accepted that this relationship unknowingly spreads to the surroundings, like the scent of incense. That is the word “altruism.” I think the fact that you worried about him and asked for help from people around you is also a scene of “altruism.” Sadly, only Buddha who has attained enlightenment can practice complete altruism. Well then, we... “While being aware that it is imperfect, we continue to search for altruism without despairing about it. “With the Buddha as the ultimate model,” I accept that this tough yet deep life is the way I lived when I met Buddhism.

You can live by supporting the words “I want to meet you 100 years from now,” which is his will. One hundred years can be read as “such intense days.” Having received his will, you are no longer alone. This is because wills support the lives of those who receive them and have the power to expand and deepen their horizons. That power probably invited me to this Hasunoha. I always remember the days I walked with him, find food for life in those memories, and I want him to survive strong and supple. If you have any further questions...

I read it.
I read your thoughts and that person's way of life and thoughts. I don't know the details about you or that person, but I accept your thoughts.
That person was thought of as that person in relationships with you and many people and things, and lived through that person's life and life.
So you, that person, and the people around you are neither the perpetrators nor the victims. There is no need to evaluate it as good or bad, there is no denying or affirming it; it is about treating it with respect as that person.
I'm sure that person will be happy that they acknowledge themselves.
Also, since the people around you are not that person, they cannot replace that person, and you are not dependent on them.
It's enough that that person is very important to you.
I'm sure that person will always welcome you when you have reached the end of your life, and they will surely be delighted to be reunited with you.
The relationship between you and that person will continue for a long time to come.

I sincerely pray that you will continue to cherish your relationships with those people and things around you, cherish the life and life you have been given, and that you will be able to live a truly rich and happy life with everyone in the future.

And I sincerely pray that those people will be guided by the Buddha and God and be kindly welcomed by their ancestors, and that they will be saved from any hesitation or suffering.
Also, when you have a full life, the Buddha or God will always guide you, and I sincerely pray to the Buddha, God, and your ancestors so that you can be kindly welcomed and rejoice at the reunion.
Shishin Gassho Nanmu Amida Buddha Namu Amidabutsu

I also read my profile. It's a sad reality. No one knows what the correct answer is, right? The feeling you want to support is also because you think of him. He was also worried about what and how he should live, and the hand he extended was the Buddha's hand, wasn't it?

I guess I'm the only one who can live my life. Nor can we do it for you. It's just about living close to each other. And I decide how to finish. He probably made it through life in a hurry.

The person I met and loved. People who have had an impact on you. They are still asking about your “life.”

There is also the sadness of breaking up, but I think they also felt the joy of meeting each other. People probably look at life while repeatedly meeting and parting ways. This grief is not eternal. Why don't you continue to depict your life while being given (while being influenced) with hints and power to live by the people you meet in the future?

“I want to meet you 100 years from now” is a message with a future, isn't it? Your presence was power and light in his life, wasn't it? One step ahead, you'll be in the Buddha's world of light. While hoping to meet him too, let's put our hands together and think about the world of the Buddha where he is. Hasunoha is also associated with the Buddha. You're not alone.