He has a habit of getting along and is also an insane person

Thank you Azuki for your consultation.

That habit, which you avoid by making decisions on the spot, you learned somewhere that you had to do it. It's imprinted on it.
From an early age, experiences such as kindness or warmth of heart, or few opportunities to feel encouragement or affection during difficult times, strict discipline, or being bullied by someone have had an impact. It might have felt like neglect.
I'm sorry for the speculation, but when we spend time in such relationships, our relationships with others are still unstable and we don't manage our sense of distance well, and we suddenly become estranged, and we want them to connect again. My heart is always rustling and I can't calm down. It's restless, so we have no choice but to rely on the judgment at that time.
But these unstable conditions aren't your fault. You're not bad. It's not your fault. The influence of others from an early age is simply an influence on the environment.
So, from here on, it is useful to learn and practice developing compassion for oneself.
When someone said kind words to you, when words of encouragement were said to you, and when you felt the warmth of your heart, you didn't make quick judgments, had no black and white thoughts, just wanted to immerse yourself in it, felt grateful, and even had courage for yourself. Let's remember the warmth of that heart and say words of encouragement and kindness to who we are now.
By continuing to give compassion to oneself in this way, your mind will be healed, your mind will be calmed down, your compassion will be directed towards others, and you will also be able to honestly receive compassion from others, and your behavior will change.
This is how you think “behavior that thinks about people's feelings and has common sense” is born.
Why don't we raise them together? Be considerate of yourself.
I think so. One bow

Is it “relationship reset syndrome,” where relationships don't go well and people impulsively break relationships. There is also a possibility that developmental disabilities, mood and personality disorders, etc. are hidden in the background.

The cause is that relationships don't go well. I'm not good at reading the air or sensing the other person's feelings. They make the other person angry or misunderstood by saying things that aren't offensive. I'm not good at controlling impulsive words and emotions. Isn't there such an extreme thought... like 0 or 100?

When something doesn't go well, isn't it more tempting to erase everything rather than choose to repair the relationship in an attempt to rebuild it?

Why don't you have a medical examination first? By getting diagnosed, you may be able to find the right medication, training, and treatment.

If it's something you can do right now, put it on hold for a while when you “want to break the relationship.” Also, try to calm down by keeping your distance. Let's talk about Hasunoha too. By listening to other people's opinions, your point of view of thought will change.

Also, the act of breaking a relationship is felt by the other party as “rejection” and “rejection.” That just makes me feel disgusted. You, too, will be in a difficult state due to a very strong drain of energy. For both of them, breaking up a relationship means losing one's place to live.
From now on, let's continue to nurture a heart that we cherish.

Thank you for contacting us, Azuki. My name is Otetsu.
Looking back on your own past actions, you feel intense self-loathing and fear. First of all, I would like to express my sincere respect for the courage of putting those painful feelings into words without hiding them.
Now, the fact that I'm “afraid of my own actions” is the best proof that Azuki seriously hoped “to become a person with common sense,” and has begun to change. There is no need to despair.
The bottom line is, no one can fully understand someone else's feelings 100% right from the start.
Every human being has an egocentric mind that “I am the most important.” The reason why normal people seem to be watching their surroundings is simply because they have accumulated many mistakes and regrets in their lives up until now, saying “if you do this, they will hate you,” and they have learned while feeling pain. Azuki-sama, that “time to learn” has just come around now.
◆ “3 prescriptions” to become a person with common sense
① Please be aware that there is an intermediate option (gray) of “running away habits” and “black and white thoughts” that Azuki herself has noticed, not 2 choices of “continue or stop,” but “keep at a distance of about 50 and continue with just the shape for now” and “keep a little distance and watch the situation.” Let's make a habit of taking a breath without rushing to answer.
② You can't imagine people's feelings overnight. First of all, before thinking about “what your partner will think,” concentrate on the “action brake” of “not impetuously touching your smartphone or making a foul break up.”
No matter how much remorse you express to someone who has been confused once, it will become scary for them. “Do nothing and keep it quiet” is also a good act of compassion as an adult and has common sense.
③ Beside the monk, I have dealt with many people as a care worker, and humans can change anytime from the moment they notice it. Let's change the energy of blaming our past immaturity into energy that nurtures our future self.
What is important in matters involving people is not being perfect, but “if you make a mistake, stop and look back at your feet.” Azuki is looking closely at herself right now. Don't be impatient, why don't you start by spending the day peacefully today? I'm rooting for you. That's all for me!
Gassho

I read it.
Until now, you've been acting on a whim without thinking ahead or thinking about people's feelings, and you've broken relationships with people.
You're regretting that right now, aren't you? I don't know the details about you up until now, but I feel like I understand your feelings. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
I think the reason you feel that way now is due to what you have done until now.
I think you are now aware of the circumstances of how people felt and thought because of what you did, what they thought they would do about you, and what happened to you.
What would you like to do in the future? How would you prefer to live for that? How would you like to live with the people around you?
What would you think if you were in the opposite position? Please take your time and look back at yourself.
There is no need to be in a hurry, and I sincerely pray that you will be able to look closely at the past and future, reflect on it, and live the life you are aiming for.
And I wholeheartedly support you. We wholeheartedly agree