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I changed jobs, got sick, and worried about the future

Even though it's only been a few months since I changed jobs, my mental and physical condition is getting worse, absenteeism has increased, and it's very stressful and painful to be in a situation where I have to decide whether to continue or retire.
I've managed to live my life with the help of my family, but I'm impatient that my work isn't going as well as I'd like to even though I want to cherish her.
My boss is getting colder and colder, and absenteeism at work is increasing, causing trouble, my mind and body don't keep up, and I feel helpless.
The number of times I talk to my family and to my girlfriend about things like I'm tired has increased. I don't want to drag the mood away. My boss tells me that I'm a little bit spoiled, and even though I think that's true, it hurts my heart somewhat, and it makes me think it's hard.
My mind was more stable when my job was stable, and since I haven't lost my mind up to this point, I don't know if it's my lack of effort or indulgence.
I think the current work environment is well-structured and comfortable to work in. It takes 2 hours or more to commute, and since it's a busy site, I need to catch up on my own, and the days of being talked about so hard continue, and I get tired. I managed to do the work itself, and although I received a certain amount of evaluation, I felt that it might be difficult to continue.
There are times when I don't feel well on my days off, and I can't fully enjoy it even when I go out.
Job change activities were also quite difficult, but it soon became like this, and now I can't think about what to do in the future. The company also told me that I should take a break and think about the future.
I am aware that they are being spoiled, but I would be happy if you could give me advice that will make you feel better.
I've always looked at this site and relied on it during hard times, and it helped me. Case by case, the monk is polite and I know it will be very difficult. I would also like to take this opportunity to thank you. Thank you very much.

4 Zen Responses

comedy lol lol lol what do you think lol. it's grass. What is grass all around

This is a booming heart that precedes the human mind that it should be like this, ah, and that it should be done.
who is that guy?
Even if it appears within me, the voice is louder and louder than this one, which is the main body. Moreover, it has had a huge impact on my brain, mind, and myself.
It's as if they keep a domestic dog, have a cat, and even though the owner takes care of them, they bite their owner and scratch them. 🐱🐩👿👹

“I think” lol

Thoughts are subs.
Humans have a sense of self-preservation, and people who have had a hard time tend to develop a sense of habitually trying to protect themselves.
Rather, isn't that thought driving you down and giving you stress?
What should I do when this happens, what should I do if that happens, what should I do if people around me think that way, what should I do, what should I do, what should I do, but there is no need to be frightened by something so vague and unclear that “how” it is superfluous and unclear.
All of them are just weeds that my self-defense mentality has silently mocked 🐄.
There's no such cow anywhere. There's no grass growing either. It's not real.
I think it would be good to give such grass even to people in Saitama prefecture. (We are from Saitama Prefecture)
The fact that people in Saitama prefecture eat (ha) grass from all over the country has already become known all over the country. When you search for restaurants on Google, riverbeds and parks are displayed in search results. If we go to class, we will arrive at a state where “after all, the grass growing along No. 16 is exceptional because the exhaust gas spice works.” If it were Takahito Saitama, delusions and weeds would line the table. Even things that people in the world are delusional about or think are weeds can be transformed and used.

“I think”
Worries, delusions, anxiety, imaginations, images, cases, have grown in the brain lol.
These are all grasses. It's a thought. Something that grows without permission. You don't have to eat everything. I'll give you a Saitama cow to your heart, so please name it and let that cow eat the grass of unnecessary delusions and anxiety.

The reason I got sick was also one of my own inner feelings. grasses
It's a delusional thought that people might think this way. grasses
anxiety and fear... lol 🐄

So how should we approach that infinitely growing grass?
Yes, let's make tempura.
Yes, let's go to Saitama. (JR Tokai style)
That's right, it's a comedy joke. lol

Let's take care of you

I read it.
You've gotten sick and you're in a situation where you can't help but take a break. I can tell you that you are feeling very uneasy. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
I don't know your specific situation or workplace, but I think your mind and body are exhausted. If possible, why don't you take a good rest and heal your mind and body? Let's take a good rest and feel refreshed. Let's switch our mood by not resetting work.
Rather than fumbling around with this and that, let's take care of yourself and heal!
You can think about work later. You may be told a lot by the company, but I think you can accept that and prioritize yourself.
I also have work timing, so there are times when it's not right for me. Please don't be too cranky and take good care of you.
I will support you from the bottom of my heart. We wholeheartedly agree

First of all, taking a break is the top priority

Thank you very much for your consultation. We deeply understand the overlapping painful situations, such as mental and physical disorders after changing jobs, anxiety about the future, and sorry for your family and girlfriend.

Your boss says you're “spoiled,” and they blame you for your lack of effort. However, each person's “tolerance” to stress is different, and it is impossible to determine “definitely like this.” In an environment where the burden of commuting and harsh language continue, if a situation that exceeds your own limits continues, it will hurt your body and heart. The current state of affairs is definitely not a matter of indulgence.

Right now, there is probably a strong feeling of being impatient if you have to decide “continue or retire,” but as the company says, taking a break first is the top priority. This is because it is difficult to determine the right course in the midst of a storm where the mind is exhausted.

If you think it's “impossible” on your own, you should consider taking a break or changing jobs. Also, if your “mental condition” is bad, such as not feeling well on holidays, I think it is better to see a psychosomatic medicine as soon as possible in order not to wear yourself down any more.

Please stop blaming yourself and just think about healing your body and mind for now. Once the energy returns, you will naturally be able to see the way. I sincerely hope that healthy days will return.

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Engiji Temple Shakujo

I'm going to go out with myself. I'll love myself as I influence and respond.

I also read my profile. Even though we've come this far, we've been able to make adjustments while responding to changes.

Thinking about your hard work, being called indulgent is a very harsh word, and it's frustrating not being able to say anything. You've probably been most concerned about yourself. It's not that I'm being spoiled, I want to work! I want to do my best! I've been trying to do that, hasn't it? It's more frustrating than anything else that it doesn't come to my mind.

Have you had a medical examination? The body is complex and delicate. Everyone is probably searching to adapt to society while managing their own pace and physical condition. The anxiety you have felt at work this time is also a sign of SOS that your body has given. Overlooking it or overdoing it will have an impact in the future.

I feel that work is necessary in order to survive, but it is only when it suits me. It's probably ideal to adapt to changes according to the environment and conditions, but it's quite difficult to successfully meet the work environment, isn't it?

Getting along with yourself is probably a hint of how easy it is to live. Let's love ourselves, too, as they influence and respond. Instead of adapting to work, let's search for a place where you can spend your time with peace of mind while being in line with your own body and mind.

If you're in a relationship with your current company, you might need a day off too. After receiving a medical examination, the medical approach may be effective. By asking questions to Hasunoha in this way, you may be able to face it. The more ways to prepare you, the better.

It's not indulgent to rest yourself. I care about you.