I was told that my father didn't attain Buddhism

I was surprised.

First of all, I would like to say something.

Whether they have attained Buddhahood or not.

Who is going to judge that?

No one can see the world after a person's death.

I can't hear it.

I can't even prove it.

and yet,

“I haven't attained Buddhism”

“It will follow me for the rest of my life”

If you say that, it's natural to feel uneasy.

Moreover, the consultant had a painful childhood experience.

Memories I've tried to forget come back to life, and it's no wonder it's painful.

But I don't think I need to be swayed by such words.

A fool is a monk of the Jodo Shinshu sect.

I believe that with the salvation of Amida Nyorai, people will surely pass away in the Pure Land of Paradise.

So I

When people I've been in a relationship with have passed away,

I work believing that I will surely pass away in the Pure Land of Paradise.

It's the same for dad.

And let me say one more thing.

The world of enlightenment is a world without hesitation.

Confusion is something that is born in the mind of the consultant himself.

“I wonder if they really haven't attained Buddhism”

“Shouldn't we do more memorial services?”

The more I think about it, the greater my anxiety.

Please don't worry.

The funeral and ossuary have been completed.

I also have a feeling of gratitude.

That's enough.

If you feel like putting your hands together,

“Thank you”

Please tell your father.

That's enough for a memorial service.

My father always passed away in the Pure Land of Paradise.

I believe so and have no doubt about it.

Please cherish the peaceful everyday life between your husband and child.

Gassho

Jōkōji Shaku Yasuaki

The word attaining Buddhism used in the world is used in a secular way and is different from the original attainment of Buddhism.
Actually attaining Buddhism means literally becoming a Buddha, becoming a wise person, and fulfilling the function of one's own Buddha, so saying “those who died haven't attained Buddhism,” which is common in the world, isn't it true that living people who have died have not attained Buddhism? It looks like I'm thinking. The fact that negative feelings about the deceased father continue means that when you think of your father who died on your side rather than on the side of the deceased, those negative memories often accompany and cannot be resolved.
First, there is the fact that your father did bad things to you as a parent and child during your lifetime, and that remains as a negative memory even within you.
If I'm alive now and there is a place where we can have a proper discussion, Dad would apologize. If I were there, arbitration would commence.
If you don't lead something that should be vague or careless as a person into a proper form, it's natural for something to keep getting caught in your heart.

The Chinese medicine doctor probably tried it out to you that if you talk about your father not attaining Buddhism or something like that, they believe... I don't know they talked about that kind of thing as a way to trick people who are easy to trust 🦆.
However, since your reaction was more realistic than you had imagined and unexpectedly, you probably refrained from that kind of sloppy theory and talk about attaining Buddhism because you were worried that it would be rather complicated.
It means that people who want customers to spend a lot of money at health food and folk medicine stores use special psychological guidance to make them dependent, and there are also people who plot to pull out a lot.

In the first place, attaining Buddhism in Buddhism is attaining Buddhism according to Buddha's teachings that one looks at oneself, finds the true form, and attains Buddhism.
The only reason I think your father hasn't attained Buddhism is that you have negative feelings about your father, and that is still unsettled.
If you want to overcome the negative trauma of the past, ask the monk who did the funeral if it is a reliable monk, and have them lead them in a ceremony of repentance to forgive each other so that they can enter into arbitration so that they get rid of each other's rut. (Actually, it should be at a funeral) If that person doesn't have that ability, it would be a good idea to have someone more humane lead them.
If you really want to attain Buddhism, seek teachings to help you attain Buddhism.

According to Buddhist teachings, when life in this life runs out, it will occur in the next world as the next form of life depending on the state of life (karma) at that time. This is thought to happen almost instantly. This is called reincarnation.
Obsession with something also affects reincarnation as part of work, but it is only related to reincarnated life itself, which is what kind of world and shape the next life will occur in.
Reincarnated lives do not maintain their personalities and memories as they were in previous lives and continue to exist anywhere in this world, nor do they use mysterious powers to work from another world.
When all humans come into contact with information that is unknown or difficult to understand, they tend to try to accept it by creating stories related to other matters. There is a tendency to try to be convinced by linking ○○ with △△, and □□ and ◇◇, which probably don't really matter, saying “the reason it's ○○ is △△” and “◇◇ is necessary to seal □□.”
As you can see in your question, inspiration businesses in the world make good use of these trends that everyone has.
In this way, there is no such thing as continuing to suffer any kind of inconvenience due to the obsession of the deceased person. Also, no matter what the circumstances were in the past, they were able to properly arrange the funeral as a family, so there is no problem.
I don't think it's a cause for concern.

That Chinese medicine doctor is a scammer. It's a strategy to raise anxiety and make them buy expensive products. So throw whatever you're told to do in the trash. You must never meet that person again. You also held a memorial service for your father, and Buddha, Bodhisattvas, and countless ancestors will protect you, so don't worry.

Terrible Chinese medicine doctor. I wonder if they are still driving people in distress.
There are monks who don't give any consideration to the environment you've lived in or the position you've been in, spit out unfounded rants, and can't be made to attain Buddhism...
I can't forgive you for hurting and frightening you. Also, the work of the Buddha, not a monk, leads to attaining Buddhism. Therefore, I said that the Buddha had no power. The Buddha must have lamented.

The Buddha will take good care of you when you get hurt.
The funeral was over. A memorial service is also being held. There is nothing wrong with saving the Buddha. Let the Buddha take care of your father. The Buddha will follow you. You don't blame yourself for being hurt; just accept the kindness in front of you. Your husband and children who give you love are your peace of mind, aren't they? We care about you, too.

I believe that each person lives in a different world.
What you see is different, and so is what you feel
So I'm not foolishly denying the spiritual world.

That's why
Was what that Chinese medicine doctor saw really there or wasn't
I have no idea.

I can't even say “it's definitely a lie” because I can't see
Conversely, I can't say “absolutely correct.”

However, I can say one thing for sure.
The result of listening to that story
Has Anzu's heart calmed down now?
Were you relieved?

or
Has it become painful
Has it become frightening

If it's the latter
I don't think those words were a good match, at least for Anzu-sama now.
In Buddhism, depending on its teachings and words
People's hearts have become even a little lighter
Whether or not you can live your life facing forward is important.
no matter how many mysterious powers you have
If it hunts people down, makes them anxious, and binds them with fear
I'll take a little distance and think about it.

And I don't think the human mind is that simple.
In my head, “you don't have to worry about it.” “That's probably not true.”
Even if you think about it, anxiety that has entered your mind once comes to light up by accident.

At night, I remember it and think I'll be alone.
It's definitely not because it's weak.
Humans are like that.

So, if you are concerned about Anzu-sama,
You might as well offer something your father liked.
You could put your hands together and say, “I will live my life.”

Conversely, put things your father didn't like around you,
It might be a good idea to laugh, “You won't be able to get close with this.”

What matters is not whether it really works.

Anzu-sama's own heart says, “I've made it this far”
I'm convinced of that.

People don't live by reason alone.
There are feelings, and so are fears.

That's why, instead of forcibly suppressing anxiety,
I think it's also important to set your own boundaries.

However, this method never has to be to pay a large amount of money.
You don't have to depend on someone with special powers either.
Anzu-sama herself sets a break in a way that Anzu-sama is satisfied with.
Wouldn't that be enough?