Taking care of parents

I was the only one to take care of my father and mother among my siblings.
They both died at the hospital, and my mother was the only one to take care of them.
However, some people have heard that watching a parent's death is the greatest form of filial disloyalty.

I was in a relationship with my father to the extent I could, and I took over the management of the factory, but at that time it ended with self-bankruptcy due to the recession from the cage, and my mother and I worked desperately hard while getting lost on the road, but finally my mother also passed away at the place, and a sense of defeat was attached to it, saying, “What did you live for,” and when I did something, I felt, “If I cross this wall again, I'll be dropped into a deeper abyss,” and “I It makes me think, “They're clowns of gods and Buddhas, and they're happy to be unlucky enough to go around.”
My colleagues even say, “Once you crawl out of a hole, you don't fall into a hole again, it's normal.”
I was seriously injured when I was young, I was hospitalized and discharged until I was in elementary school, and I was disliked without meaning in elementary school, no one called friends, no relationships like that, and the exact opposite of that, my life is stable, and I think so especially when I watch my cousins, younger brothers, and younger sisters.

Thinking about that, I wonder if taking care of my parents until the very end is unfaithful to my parents.

4 Zen Responses

Being taken care of by a parent is not filial piety

Being taken care of by parents until the end of their lives is a good act, and it is not a bad act called filial piety.
Buddha taught that “the existence of life is painful.” There are various forms of “suffering” in reality, but basically every way of life is a series of things that don't go the way you want (as desired). Even though it may seem like smooth sailing, in reality, everyone lives with their own hardships.
Buddha also taught that “suffering can be destroyed.” That method is not about getting rid of money or thoroughly eliminating someone who is in the way. I am taught that it is about becoming aware of the root cause of one's suffering by acquiring correct wisdom and observing oneself correctly.
If you are interested, I think it would be nice if you could listen to stories about family temples and temples you have relationships with, and search for books that look good and read them.

I offer my condolences. May your mother be at peace. We clap hands.
By the way, it's good to see your parents die. It's the opposite of unfaithful parenthood. You did a good thing. That's because there are a lot of people who regret not being able to see their parents die.
Also, they were probably being nursed and visited not only when their parents died, but even before that, so I think they were doing a very good thing. I think my mother is grateful in the other world too.
Also, any job directly or indirectly supports someone's life somewhere. So I think it's a good idea to live your life thinking that whatever kind of work you do is beneficial to people. I think my parents will feel safe if I turn half of my feelings for my mother and half for the rest of the world from now on.

You did the best act of filial piety.

To a fool, that's all I can think of.

There are times when I hear stories about parents being unfaithful when their parents die, etc.
I don't think so.

rather,
Cuddle until the end,
send-off,
Taking care of everything after that is
Isn't that a big act of filial piety?

You became your father's conversation partner, and even the factory where your father was left behind was taken over. Then, management became difficult, and even though they had a painful experience of self-bankruptcy, they continued to walk with their mother.

I don't think it was an easy life.

That's why now

“What did you live for?”

“Even if I try hard again, I think I'll fall into the abyss”

It probably makes you feel that way.

However, there are things you can understand only after experiencing that suffering.

People can't avoid losing.

You will lose your parents, your wealth, and your job someday.

Nevertheless, people support others, and live while being supported by others.

Idiots also run companies, and they were driven to the brink of bankruptcy due to the COVID-19 pandemic. I also took care of my parents and saw them both off.

Looking back, I think it was a great experience to be able to take care of people.

Money can't buy experience.

It is an asset in your life, including suffering and sorrow.

I'm sure your parents were relieved to see you by their side at the end of the day.

Please keep up your heart.

You're not an unfaithful parent.

He is a splendid filial piety who stayed close to his parents' lives until the end.

Please shake your hand and move on with your life.

I'm drawing my life over and over again. While people living today are connected to each other in this way

Watching death is painful and sad, isn't it? They've been by my side since I was born. It was probably both a support for our lives together, and it was also a goal.

While being greatly influenced by the times and social conditions, you were taken over by your parent's work. No matter what kind of situation we were in, we were able to face it. It was the best act of filial piety, and it was probably the way you chose to live. The path of self-bankruptcy was fulfilled, and since it was taken over, the responsibility to end it was also fulfilled. Someday... all of this won't last forever, is it? You've been doing your best.

Family members and siblings have also made their own choices. There are good times, and everyone is different.

I want to take care of my parents until the end of their lives. They want to live together until the end of their lives. I want to keep a close eye on every end. There are so many things I want to tell you. This is how they became parents and children due to a strange relationship, but I want to say thank you for the life they were hoped for.

That I was able to work with you. Your parents must have been happy. Taking care of them must have been burdensome, but my parents were able to survive with peace of mind. You've been able to do filial piety.

Right now, you've lost your parents and factory with whom you shared your life, and I think you're filled with a great sense of loss. Still, why don't you draw your life over and over again in order to live on? While people living in today's world are connected to each other in this way.

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