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I want the bureau's report to come soon

The bureau at work is tough.

Because of her, one of the people at work became depressed and almost quit.
She is the one who has been victimized by moving or quitting, and it is unreasonable that she doesn't move.
Even though they are disliked by other classes, there's nothing to be done about it.

I've also been made to cry so many times, so I try not to get involved. However, at the office, if things don't move through me, I get grumpy, so I'm being watched.

I'm a new graduate, and when I listen to other people, I get unreasonably angry, such as not letting that person take their time. If the bureau makes a mistake, it will be taken lightly.

Everyone doesn't like the office, but in front of the office, they are friendly and work through the office so they don't dislike it. It's also frustrating that it might change if we all raise our voices.

If you say it's because of society, that's up to that point, but aren't there any quick punishments for a girlfriend who looks down on people and makes hurtful remarks, a girlfriend who professes that she only says things to people who can't do it, and a girlfriend who ignores them?
If I don't punish her soon, I'll be sick next time.

5 Zen Responses

Misconduct increases distress (cause of stress)

For example, we kill mosquitoes and cockroaches, etc., and we are also doing worse killings than that bureau.
Our afflictions are further strengthened by these misdeeds.
Worry causes worry, suffering, and stress, so the reward for doing something bad always comes back as the person's stress.
That bureau is twice as worried as people, so the bureau itself is always suffering due to worries such as greed, anger, laziness, pride, etc., and that's why they hit others in eight.
However, as I wrote at the beginning, we are also committing worse crimes, so there is also a part where we are each other.
In that case, after all, the rule is to eat the weak and the strong.
“Strength” in this case also includes numerical strength, good escape, etc.
Opposing with social rules (democracy, power of numbers) such as laws, internal regulations, and compliance is also one of our “strengths.”
In other words, just like wild animals, we have no choice but to punish our natural enemies by ourselves, rather than silently becoming victims, such as fighting and winning or fleeing and hiding well, and weak people oppose them with group action.
However, countermeasures involving misconduct such as killing, lying, and stealing have side effects that reinforce our own worries, so it is best to fight in accordance with the law and morals.
Complaining about power harassment at the upper management falls under that, isn't it?
That station is like catching a cold due to a virus called anxiety and spreading the virus to others by coughing or sneezing.
The person himself has already been punished and is suffering, and he is in a pitiful state.
However, I also feel that “don't let other people take time” can be solved depending on ingenuity such as when to listen.
For example, if you ask a question via email or LINE, you can see the other party at a time convenient for you. That's because on the phone or in person, the other person will be robbed of time at your own pace.

Learning from people I don't like, “my way of life” from now on

Yume shed tears over and over again during the period when she was just an uneasy new graduate, and she was able to endure it really well. It's natural to feel unreasonable and irritated by situations where adults around you pretend not to look.
For those of you who are being cornered to the point where you think “I wish she was punished soon,” let me ask you a very important question, although it may be a little tough, as a monk and as a senior in life.
“Do you have confidence that in the future, when you reach the age of that bureau, you will never do the same thing?” “Aren't you unknowingly taking the same attitude towards your family and people close to you right now?” Everyone is sensitive to their opponent's misdeeds when they are victims, but when they become strong, they have the weakness to repeat the same mistakes. Actually, I must have hated adults who have bossy attitudes, but before I knew it, I had become a “disgusting old man.” I was really embarrassed when I realized that.
Even if you wait for the bureau to be punished, your heart won't be saved. The most important thing is to have a strong determination that “I will never do to anyone else what I didn't like being done to me.”
Right now, the bureau is risking their lives to show you teachers (bad examples) on the other hand of life who “shouldn't be like this.”
“I don't look down on people like that”
“I will be someone who is close to the pain of those who can't”
Make up your mind and change your own behavior. This is one way for you to not be crushed by an unreasonable society and grow beautifully as a human being.
Please keep your involvement to a minimum now and protect your own heart first. The tears you shed will be an important seed for you to become a kind senior in the future.
Gassho

P.S. It's a waste of time to get involved with people like this. So-called “let's be stupid” and “let's pretend to be stupid” so that we can take time for ourselves. “Ah, sorry! I'm immature, so I'll be careful. Well then, excuse me.” I immediately left the place. This is fine. On the other hand, be careful when they start saying that.

Will I be rewarded

I read it.
I feel like I understand your feelings. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
That person is probably receiving that reward little by little. The people around them probably treated that person as if they were touching something sunny. In other words, I think everyone is separated from that person. That person will probably be separated from now on, and if you quit your job, your relationship with that person will already break up, so I think that person will have a slight idea of what kind of life they will live, or rather, every day in their future lives.
Look at people's faces and turn yourself around again, right?
Let's calm down, calm down, and respond. I'm sure you only have a small amount of time to get involved with that person.

The Curse of the Back Boss

The bureau chief is the back boss, isn't it?

I was unexpectedly excited as I read the questions. Apparently there are people like this in every workplace.

A long time ago, I was also really disliked by this “back boss.”

An indication or disgust like pecking at the corner of a heavy box. I was a general manager, but my partner was an older general employee. Also, several young staff members are surrounded by them.

It really was a state of “don't stop by, don't touch, don't get close.”

As a result, I was judged to have “no management ability,” and I was seconded after a year and a half.

However, the person who came as my successor became mentally ill less than half a year later and was forced to take a leave of absence.

So the pain you are feeling is definitely not because of your mind.

However, looking back, the real problem wasn't just the individual bureau.

Organizations that leave such situations unattended are also responsible.

It is also the organization's role to protect the mental and physical health of employees. Originally, staffing, guidance, and in some cases attention and intervention should be carried out.

Also, I understand the feeling of “I want punishment to be dealt with quickly.”

Unfortunately, in the world, causal retaliation does not always appear in an immediately visible form.

Rather, by continuing to think only about that person, my heart gets tired first.

So right now

* Don't try to change the office too much
* Don't get any closer than necessary
* Record your words and actions
* Leave materials that you can consult with your trusted supervisor, human resources, and compliance desk

That's important.

And above all, please change your mood even a little bit every day.

You don't need to give that person enough value to break you.

I myself thought it was unreasonable when I was blown away. However, after that, I obtained the qualification, which led to my current job and life.

Looking back, I don't think they won against that back boss, but “not having that person controlled your life” was a win.

Please don't give up your heart for the office. The first thing you should protect is yourself.

Your heart is important. Let's talk to a public consultation desk.

I'm going to be sick next...
It's already at its limit, isn't it? With this, going to work every day is depressing, isn't it?

It's called the bureau, but is he someone with any position? Do you have any other bosses?
As far as I've listened to your advice, power harassment is happening, isn't it? There are people who have quit, are showing symptoms of depression, and are being transferred. Despite this situation, why doesn't the company take precautions or improvement measures?

I don't know what type of workplace it is, but if you don't work in a cooperative system, such as reporting to the headquarters, appealing to your boss, or consulting with a senior who is on your side, it's scary even if you are alone in retaliation.

They swing around in a mood and unreasonably bash their anger on their opponent. It's strange that such a person can work without problems. My surroundings are atrophied, and my heart is being worn down.

If the company isn't working, talk to a public consultation desk.

・Mental health portal site for workers “Mental Ears” and “Mental Ears Email Consultation” (Ministry of Health, Labor, and Welfare Internet information desk)
・Harassment Concern Counseling Office (Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare)
・General Labor Consultation Center (Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare)
・Harassment Concern Counseling Office (Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare)

There are such things. You can consult anonymously, so please discuss your situation in detail. Your heart is important, isn't it?