Should I move on or let go
I have a lover that I've been dating for 3 years.
When I'm with him, I feel as natural as my family. There's a sense of security that they accept whatever kind of person you are, and it's fun to be with them. In fact, even when we kept our distance once, I missed my time with him, and we finally got back together.
On the other hand, there is hesitation when thinking about it as a marriage partner. He is stubborn, but he doesn't have much determination or initiative, and I almost always take the lead when deciding something. Rather than thinking “I want to follow this person,” I feel like “I have to support them.”
I don't have much respect for him, and I'm also aware that I'm unconsciously looking down at him. There are parts that are a bit misleading, and I don't have 100% respect for human nature. It doesn't look like a type either. Therefore, the feeling of demanding “I want you to do this for me” becomes stronger than the feeling that I want to do something for him.
During the period I kept my distance, I also talked with a man who had more respect than him. However, I couldn't completely let go of his existence.
Currently, about half a year has passed since they got back together, and I'm worried about “should I continue to think about the future with him” and “should I look for someone I can respect more and naturally want to act for my partner?”
I don't even know if I like him or if I just rely on his sense of security.
It's not that he has any major flaws. Even so, since we continue to hesitate, should we end our relationship for each other? Or should I take good care of my relationship with him, who cares for me all the time?
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