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Should I move on or let go

I have a lover that I've been dating for 3 years.

When I'm with him, I feel as natural as my family. There's a sense of security that they accept whatever kind of person you are, and it's fun to be with them. In fact, even when we kept our distance once, I missed my time with him, and we finally got back together.

On the other hand, there is hesitation when thinking about it as a marriage partner. He is stubborn, but he doesn't have much determination or initiative, and I almost always take the lead when deciding something. Rather than thinking “I want to follow this person,” I feel like “I have to support them.”

I don't have much respect for him, and I'm also aware that I'm unconsciously looking down at him. There are parts that are a bit misleading, and I don't have 100% respect for human nature. It doesn't look like a type either. Therefore, the feeling of demanding “I want you to do this for me” becomes stronger than the feeling that I want to do something for him.

During the period I kept my distance, I also talked with a man who had more respect than him. However, I couldn't completely let go of his existence.

Currently, about half a year has passed since they got back together, and I'm worried about “should I continue to think about the future with him” and “should I look for someone I can respect more and naturally want to act for my partner?”

I don't even know if I like him or if I just rely on his sense of security.

It's not that he has any major flaws. Even so, since we continue to hesitate, should we end our relationship for each other? Or should I take good care of my relationship with him, who cares for me all the time?

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4 Zen Responses

When you're at a loss

When I'm at a loss, I think either one is fine.
Since there is no decisive information, it is an incomplete quiz state where accuracy or inaccuracy cannot be determined.
If you still need to make a quick decision, you can even decide with dice.
That's because no matter how much you think about it with just the information we have right now, it's just a blessing of thought.
If you don't need to make a hasty decision, take a step forward to get new information.
Take a look at information on other men on matching apps, etc., try to see if you can choose yourself from other men in the first place,
It's also a good idea to meet your current lover's family.
Your life would also be fun if his family were wonderful people, if his family were nice people, they were actually rich, they could help each other by caring for future parents because they have siblings, and being supported by parents-in-law when raising children because their parents' house is close.
I lost my mother early.
On the flip side, there is a possibility that my wife married me because she knew she didn't need to worry about her daughter-in-law issues.
Even if it's not a high income, it might be an excellent property if it's “no idiot with land with a house.”
If you haven't gotten engaged yet, I think it's a good idea to join a matching app or a joint party.
If you go one step further, the scenery (information) will change, and if the information changes, you will be able to encounter new ideas.
If you have gambling, debt addiction, alcohol addiction, domestic violence, moral harassment, or child abuse, it is better to break up right away.
Trying to live together will also lead to new information.

Let's take a leisurely look

I read it.
You're worried about your relationship with him, aren't you? I don't know the details about you and him, but I can tell you that you are very worried. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
What does he look like to you?
Please take your time to look back and think about it.
You and he probably met and interacted during a strange encounter and formed a relationship. As the relationship deepened, they naturally began to understand each other, and they probably came to understand various aspects as well.
And I'm sure we'll get to know each other even more deeply from now on.
Please calm down and think carefully about things up until now, yourself, and him.
There's no need to be in a hurry. Also, if you have any ideas, try talking to him with respect.
And please face the future yourself.
I wholeheartedly support you and him in the future. We wholeheartedly agree

Even though I'm still dissatisfied, can the two of us overcome the future

If you're unsure, I don't recommend it.
Of course, he also has his merits. That's why our relationship has continued up to this point, hasn't it? If you're in a relationship, that's fine. You can meet up whenever you like and enjoy your time together.

However, when it comes to marriage, people who are dissatisfied or uncertain now don't change even after marriage.
People who are struggling with marital relationships or marriage often say it. “I believed that once I got married, they would change. I expected that once they had children, they would be aware and prepared.”

As a married couple, they live together the whole time. Now more than ever, I can look at everything about my opponent. I also socialize with my family, my neighborhood, and my relatives. Once a child is born, many discussions and decisions come up, such as child-rearing, education, insurance, etc.

Even now, I'm dissatisfied with what you support, but can the two of us respond to future problems and overcome them? Even if the present is perfect, various problems will occur, but if you already have doubts or worries now, it will definitely not work.

There are problems similar to yours, and there are many consultations that it won't work even if you get married as it is. So please be careful.

Hope it goes well ⭐️ ^_^

I saw your problem, Mr. Raccoon Dog.

It is said that they have a lover that they have been dating for 3 years.
Being able to be as natural as family, there is a sense of security that they accept whatever kind of person they are, and it's fun to be together.
→That's awesome! I think they go well together
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I missed my time with him even when I kept my distance once, and we finally got back together.
→I think the atmosphere with the other person is also good

He doesn't have much decisiveness or independence, and the raccoon dog takes the lead
→Wouldn't it be easier to get married that way?

“If I don't support you,” it can also be called motherhood.

It bothers me that there are cheating parts, but there are no people in the world who don't cheat at all.

I wonder if the appearance has nothing to do with the marriage partner.
I feel like those who aren't my type are likely to last longer.

I couldn't let go of his existence completely.
→I feel like it's fate

I don't know if it's just a matter of reliance on a sense of security.
→Isn't it okay to depend on it!

It's not that he has any major flaws.
→That's awesome. It really is the middle world.

Should I carefully nurture my relationship with him who cares for me all the time?
→We should continue to nurture them.

There aren't many couples who have this feeling.

When it comes to marriage, I have a feeling that things will go well.

The reason is that I can't see a reason why it's not going well.

Isn't the uneasy part the two of us can spin from now on? I felt it.

I want to raise my hands and agree and support their marriage 📣.