Time goes by and I'm worried about love

I'm sorry. There may be times when I am a little affected by the trouble at the street party the other day, but I would be grateful if you would listen to my worries.
I went to a street party the other day, and at first, the tempo of conversation with the number one person I met at that time was amazing, and it was a lot of fun. It looked like I liked, and after being alive for 30 years, I think it was probably my first love at first sight. I have hobbies and conversations, so I thought I could go. Also, the number one person (I also received a good first impression card that I could send to those who wanted to talk more), and I did my best in my own way during the second conversation, but my nervousness and feelings of liking came to the head, and the tempo of the conversation dropped slightly. After all, there was no coupling. A little time has passed, but it's hard to sort out my feelings within myself. I wonder if I was able to have more conversations, how could I have a better impression of the other person, etc. I'm worried, worried, and I can't stop fiddling with my head and feelings. If you think about it, women who have felt good since they were students have made similar mistakes. I became a member of society, and it was a similar failure at my previous company. (I was consulted 10 years ago.) I know in my head why there are only these same mistakes, but I hate myself for not doing well. How can I walk facing forward? Will I stop failing?

I don't know if it's okay to ask or think this, but hopefully, I want to meet the number one person again. I know it's difficult, but she still has feelings inside of her. I know it's disappointing, but it's hard to give up. (Right now, I'm just living my life without forgetting the feeling that I thank her every day for liking and being interested in me, even just a little bit.)
I'm sorry for the incoherent sentence. I think there are parts that are difficult to understand, but how should we deal with them from now on? How should I feel about attending street conferences in the future?

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Hit by a few shots

Basically, I think you can hit it with just a few shots.
However, it's easier for people to choose from their opponents when they're young (youth is a weapon after all).
No matter how much you liven up the conversation on the spot, you need to show your true self when you're actually in a relationship.
So, you have no choice but to handle the numbers until you meet someone who can accept your original conversation pace.
Also, if your partner is attractive enough to fall in love with at first sight, there will be plenty of rivals.
Outside of conversation, where do you beat your rivals?
If you don't have one, it's better to train to make it.
For example, there are many people whose stomachs come out after age 30.
If you maintain a youthful structure under such circumstances, you can beat your rivals.
Even if you can't beat rivals in your 20s, you can beat rivals in your 30s and 40s.
In order to catch a woman that you will fall in love with at first sight, it is better to prepare something that will catch your eye because you are someone else.
So, one thing you can do without spending money is to keep your body healthy.

Please polish yourself and gain confidence

We have received your consultation, Mr. Hamaguri.
What kind of feelings should I have when I go to a street party, and how can I form a couple with a woman.

First of all, I think a sense of cleanliness is important.
Also, if you have a fashion sense, hairstyle, or glasses, choose nice glasses (I also use them for image changes. (When choosing, ask a female staff member or a nice male staff member to choose.)

Train your body; if you're fat, lose weight. Whiten your teeth. Remove hair. Take care of your skin. Permanent eyebrow makeup if needed.

First of all, appearance is a game.
By making the appearance beautiful, sincerity towards the other party is also conveyed.

They like anime and movies, and they also seem to have a sincere and humble personality, so if the visuals are right, I think women will be interested due to that gap.

First of all, people are called hearts, but in the case of a joint party, let's do our best from the outside.

Once you like it, take your time, take a breath, and have a conversation without getting bogged down.

A smile is an important element for both men and women.
Please also read lots of books to make an intellectual appeal.

If you refine yourself, you will naturally gain confidence.

Please try your best.
I'm rooting for you.

Communicate with an awareness of being a good “listener.”

The conversation was exciting, and we both had a good impression, but they didn't continue. If possible, I'd like to become more intimate and develop into a love affair.

If the conversation was exciting, then the next challenge...
Let's focus on listening. Men who have a lot to talk about are also fun, but I also like people who listen to me properly. My partner feels that they are interested in me, that they want to know about me, that there is a sense of security even when talking when they nod and listen, that they want to talk again, and that it was fun.

Maybe you just talk about yourself because you have to entertain your partner? Are you interested in the other person's topics and hobbies? The appeal is to listen to what the other person is saying.

Let's communicate while being aware of being a good “listener.”

Let's have various encounters and study from now on

I read it.
I read that you are very worried. It really conveys that you are worried and sorry about what to do, including questions from before. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
I had a very good impression of the person I met at that time, and I can't forget that person. I feel like I can understand that you think that.

It's very painful not being able to have a relationship with someone you like, and I think it's only natural for you to think so.

I don't know if I'll be able to meet that person again, but if you want to be that way, I think it's okay to improve yourself even more.
I think it spans a wide range of relationships, conversation methods, topics, values, hobbies, etc., but let's actively move on your own in your future life, gain various experiences, and learn and absorb firsthand within yourself.
When it comes to conversations with people, I think it's important to take the other person's story firmly first, and it's also very important to expand the conversation from there.
To that end, it is important to have an attitude of sincerely respecting the other person.

Your life is about to unfold. Let's cherish every day, experience encounters and events with various people, and expand your own capacity.

I sincerely pray that you will be blessed with wonderful encounters in the future and that you will be able to have relationships with people you like, and that you will be able to respect your loved ones and each other and live a compassionate and happy life.

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