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I just can't get out of my fear of death

It's been a while, I've recently become afraid of death, so I'm posting
It's now 25, but I'm getting more and more scared because I thought it would be a 60th birthday in the second half, and I felt that the years were fast
I wonder what will happen when I die, will I go to paradise, go to hell, or wander around the earth, and eventually I'll lose my memory due to reincarnation, and I'll lose my own thing
When I see passers-by or middle-aged or elderly people appearing on TV, I think it's 20 or 10 years, or the near future, and it's so scary
There's no point in talking to people around me or thinking about it now, so I came back to accept it, enjoy the present, or go back to sleep and feel refreshed, but it calms down once, but then it comes back over. After all, scary things are scary
I'm still doing this now, death is getting closer little by little, and the moment I'm alive is scary, how on earth can I get out of this agony
Or is it funny that I think this way

4 Zen Responses

From Kara Nembutsu to Jitsunenbutsu

 Good evening. I also read the previous questions and answers. The title is “Nembutsu Nembutsu, but...” There was talk about Kara Nembutsu or something that was out of place.
It's been about 30 years since I was certified as a monk, and to be honest, when I asked if my nembutsu was actually kara or something real, that probably wasn't the case at first... I was born in a temple, so I've been in contact with Nembutsu for a long time, but what kind of thoughts and wishes were put into it? Speaking of which, it was suspicious.
However, now the 60th birthday is actually right around the corner, and I'm quiet with the thought, “Oh, the guarantee for the biggest problem in my life is here, isn't it?”
There is a saying “if the end is good, everything is good,” but nembutsu is an act that guarantees a “good end.” I keep quiet with the thought, “Please take care of the Buddha when I pass away.” How is Kairi doing?
There are many ways to do nembutsu, but what is most important in practical terms rather than doctrinal is the method of “praising Nembutsu no matter how many times you feel like it.” When the thought “Oh, I'm afraid of dying” comes to mind, I quickly quiet down. “Buddha, please come and pick me up when you leave this world. Isn't it true that you yourself declared that? He praises Namu Amida Buddha in his mouth with the feeling that “Please protect it even when it's my time.” As many times as you like until you feel better. It seems that some people praise it tens of thousands of times a day.
They say, “If you sleep, you'll feel better for a while,” so I'm sure nembutsu will also ease your feelings. Once I've sensed that, that's all for now. It doesn't cost money, and it doesn't bother anyone.
After a while, when fear strikes again... it's the same thing over and over again. The important thing is to have countermeasures and implement them, even if you think it's “scary scary.” I don't think this is better than doing it every time. The Buddha knows that “humans are afraid of death,” so if you can praise Nembutsu at that time, the Buddha will also be happy to say “oh, you understand.” Practice is important. And I'm doing the same.

Try to find reassuring stories and values that continue beyond death

At the young age of 25, being able to deeply imagine the “loss of existence” that lies ahead of death is proof that your thoughts are extremely sharp and that you are facing life so seriously. It's not that you're funny. Many of our ancestors struggled with the same questions and spent their lives searching for answers.

Buddhism explains that the reason we fear death is because we stick to our self (the entity called ourselves). However, the anxiety you have is probably an expression of strong vitality that you want to cherish “this moment” if you turn it around.

It's scary to think of death as an “end,” but try to think of it as a “place of return” in a long history. I'm based at “Nembutsu,” but please try to find a reassuring story or value that lasts beyond death.

Death always comes, but it may be “tomorrow” or “decades from now.” What I can say for sure is that now you are alive and have time to think like this. Try channeling the energy of worrying about an unknown death little by little into the small joys that are right in front of you right now or actions for someone else. That accumulation will one day change the fear of death into a gentle sense of “fulfillment.” Don't force yourself to give an answer right now; let's just walk carefully through today's day.

Worship
Engiji Temple Shakujo

Death is horrible

I read it.
I read you're afraid of death. I think I can understand very well how you feel. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.

Even if I usually live casually, when I think back again, it's still scary to think that day by day I'm getting closer to my own death. It's definitely not just about you. It's something everyone thinks about, and everything is about facing each other. No matter what kind of creature it is, it is instinctive to run away in fear of one's own death.
So it's natural to be afraid of death. Me too.
Death is unsettling and frightening.

The Buddha will save and resolve such fears of death.

If we sincerely ask the Buddha to save me and be sure to guide us when we die, the Buddha will surely save us.
Namu Amida Buddha (Namu Amida Buddha) means please save me, guide me, Amida Buddha.
The Buddha saves all those who sincerely wish to be saved.

If you don't mind, please be saved by the Buddha, ask him to save you from fear and suffering, and please be quiet with Namu Amida Buddha Namu Amida Butsu.

I pray with all my heart that you will be saved from the fear of death. Shishin Gassho Nanmu Amida Buddha Namu Amidabutsu

Every time I recite Nembutsu, my fear is relieved. Let's all go to the same pure land.

I also have a fear of death. Not only “death,” but now is changing, losing, moving away, having a breakup, and maybe not understanding yourself. Everything feels scary. I'm sure it's because I feel at ease “now.”

That's probably why they're afraid of not knowing what's going to happen, and about changing themselves and their surroundings. It's fine as it is! It can also be called an obsession that makes you think about it.

However, since I was able to encounter faith in this way, I rely on the Buddha. Therefore, I understand that it is certain that I can be born and go to the Pure Land after death. Even so, I also have a great feeling that I want to stay like this. I'm greedy even though everything is impermanent.

In your case, you're afraid of what will happen to future generations after death. There was no way to confirm whether it was paradise or hell, or if it would be gone. That's why living in the present is scary, isn't it?

People around me were told that they had no choice but to think about it, accept it, and enjoy the present to the fullest.
But your question is important ◎

Even if you have no choice but to think about it, someday you have to think about it at the end, so it's safer to know the answer clearly now, isn't it? Also, I want them to accept that accepting is not anxiety, but that they have peace of mind. What kind of peace of mind is that the Buddha's salvation has already reached you. They have promised that they will definitely save you. I'm saying Nembutsu, which I believe in the Buddha's salvation and asks me to chant it. I am happy and reassuring that this is a promise to save me. Therefore, there is no need to worry after death, and I can live with peace of mind even now.

No matter how you live, no matter when it ends, if the Buddha swears to save you, why don't you believe it with us? Nembutsu is the voice of a promise from the Buddha. Every time you recite Nembutsu, your fear will become relieved. Let's keep listening to the Buddha's voice, even if it's painful. A voice that saves you to the Pure Land.
Together with Mutsu Nana Amida. Let's all go to the same Pure Land.