I'm angry at my parents about raising children

I painfully understand your parents' pampering and anger at the sudden shift of responsibility. You've been struggling alone until now, and you've been able to do your best really well. However, the flames of intense anger first deeply hurt your own heart, and cast a dark shadow over your relationship with your precious child. Please take a deep breath now and restore peace to your heart.

Your parents doted on their grandchildren because they wanted to “make them happy” and “to be liked,” and they probably had no intention of blaming you. Since they are not direct guardians, they probably prioritized the feelings in front of them. Even if we pursue past responsibilities, we just lose heart to each other. Instead of confrontation, let's return to our common desire for “children's health and future happiness,” and stay calm and seek future cooperation.

Also, avoid speaking ill of grandparents in front of children. If you're in the upper grades of elementary school, you're at an age where you can fully understand the good, bad, and reason of things. There is no need to give up saying “my personality won't change anymore.” On the surface, children always feel the deep love of their mother, who seriously thinks about their future and sometimes conveys deafness, even if they adore their grandparents who pamper them.

If you don't get emotional and convey your unwavering love and correctness as a parent, little by little, your child will develop the ability to regulate themselves. Let's move forward little by little without being impatient.

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You tell your parents that it is the parents' responsibility to pamper their children and raise their children. I think it's reasonable for you to feel angry at your parents' attitude. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
Your parents probably feel comfortable loving their grandchildren when they raise you and don't have parental responsibilities anymore. I think it's reasonable for you to get angry at your parents' irresponsible attitudes and actions.
With you, you have a responsibility to raise your child, and you scold and be careful about your child only because you sincerely love and worry about your child.
Why don't you calm down and talk about your feelings to your parents.
If there are people on the main island who understand raising children, I think the way they respond to children will also change as they think about children and the future.
Even if you tell them like that, if all you do is pamper them, you may have no choice but to limit contact with your child.
Nonetheless, their parents are also old, so they may not stop pampering them by being in a pretty nice place. I think it's quite difficult.

My wife and I have both lost their parents, so our kids never met grandpa and grandma in person, and they weren't spoiled. So I think I'm a little envious of your house. It's a limited life, and since it's a life, of course, the period we can live together is limited.

I sincerely pray that parents don't understand raising children, and that you and everyone help each other grow healthily, and that everyone can get along well and live a happy life. We wholeheartedly agree

That's frustrating, isn't it? Grandparents care too much about their grandchildren, don't they? So much so that they talk about life and education, so much so that they talk about life and education.

I wonder if they aren't aware. There is no unity between loving and pampering, and grandparents act whatever they want. And yet, I blame you for being too selfish or overweight. You're probably not conscious of the fact that it's driving you down and hurting you as a mother.

Grandparents say their role is to pamper them, but they don't have that kind of role. Grandparents everywhere are cooperative in raising children while caring for their grandchildren and parents. They don't even understand that, so it's hard to be in a relationship, isn't it?

I think your parents interfered too much when it came to you. You've been swayed by your parents even from past questions, haven't you? I can imagine interfering with children (grandchildren).

It would be nice if we could keep a physical distance...
From now on, children will be actively involved in school events such as clubs. I think my time with my grandparents will decrease. That's natural. Even though they are influenced by their grandparents, their growth will grow while being greatly influenced by future social relationships, the environment, education, and human relationships. You'll notice that just being given and pampered is not joy or love.

Also, if you want them to be firm and stop interfering or interfering, let's stick a nail on your parents.

We accept your inquiries.

It is said that grandchildren are irresponsibly spoiled.
It's just because it's cute and nice.
This is because there is no responsibility for education.

When parents are in their 70s, they also start having conversations that are the opposite of their own words and actions.

If it's going to be stressful no matter what
There is also an option not to deposit.

Wouldn't it be a little easier when you leave your child?

There are also cases where children grow up more actively if they have a place to evacuate.

It's an absolute ally, isn't it?

I think it's about which one to take.

After that, I feel that it is also important to properly tell them that you are really in trouble.

It's said that grandpa kids and grandma's kids grow up feeling good emotionally, right?

Certainly, I feel that kindness is ingrained in children who are loved by the elderly.

Properly tell them that they are too cute

It would be nice if you could have a good balance.

Good luck raising children!