When I talk, the air in the place gets bad for some reason

I read Sakura Sora's story.

The first thing I want to tell you is that I didn't feel like Sakurazora-san was trying to hurt people.
Rather, I think they are people who try to abide by the rules, communicate what concerns them, and act because they think it's good.

That's why “why am I the only bad guy?”
That feeling is born, isn't it...

However, I was reading this incident, and there was one thing that bothered me.
That is, Sakurazora-san was able to see “what she said,” but I felt that “how she sounded to the other party” had become difficult to see.

From Sakurazora-san's point of view, “This is how we do it here.”
Maybe I just told you that.

However, from the opponent's point of view,
“Cautioned”
“Blamed”
There is a possibility that you felt that.

Of course, there must have been a problem with how the other party received it.
However, in relationships, correctness alone does not decide things.
No matter how accurate the words are, they can be taken as an attack by some opponents.
I'm not saying it's your fault.

Rather, I think it is precisely because I have been hurt a lot over a long period of time that I have lived by valuing correctness twice as much as anyone else.
However, people open their hearts more when they feel understood than when they are told the right thing.

So from now on, “is this what I should say?”
Please take a breath and ask, “Should I leave it to the staff?”

I think that alone will change our relationships.
Also, as to whether or not to quit the facility, I don't think it's necessary to quit right away.
At the end of the sentence, “Actually, I don't want to lose the feeling of being alive while talking”
It was written.
I felt Sakurazora-san's true intentions there.

It's not that I don't like people, it seems like I'm tired of how to interact with people.
If so, you don't have to try to get involved with everyone
It's OK to have a day where you just talk to people you're on good terms with.

The sense of distance between people is learning not only by getting closer, but also by moving away.
It seems to me that you have carried too much on people's feelings and the atmosphere of the place until now.

Therefore, from now on, I think it will be important to draw a line of “my role up to this point, and the role of my partner and staff from here on out.”

Please don't blame yourself too much.

I read it.
I see, such a thing happened. It really conveys that you are very anxious and worried. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
The people inside that facility have also become quite sensitive, and I think they are overreacting to what you said. Even if it's a trivial matter, I think there are times when the person himself feels that he has been denied and becomes emotional due to his self-defense instincts.
If so, I think it would be better to calm down, take a break, and keep watching calmly. I think it's better to calm down and listen to what the other person says instead of uttering words unnecessarily.
You probably won't just keep saying bad things forever, and if you only talk bad things, the people around you will walk away too.
Don't be in a hurry, try to calm your mind and respond while listening slowly without forcing yourself into it.
You can play what people say. You don't have to accept everything.
You're not bad at all. Let's listen to the story calmly.
I sincerely pray that you will be able to live your life peacefully, that you will respond calmly while listening to the people around you, and that you can live every day with peace of mind. And I wholeheartedly support you.

Thank you very much for your consultation. The sentences convey a sincere desire to cherish the “living feeling” of everyday life while being warmly involved with people. It's definitely not a bad sentence, so don't worry.

There is nothing wrong with what you pointed out when you told me the rules in this case. However, when it comes to communication, humans are creatures that have various emotions not only from the correct words themselves, but also from the “wording” and “tone” at that time, and the timing of speaking.

Furthermore, unfortunately, there are people in the world who have little tolerance and can only accept it in a narrow way. However, no one can change someone else's heart itself or erase the other person's worries.

Therefore, what is important is devising ways to reduce friction even a little. Specifically, try to “use more polite language” and “respond in a way that is close to the other person's feelings.” This is by no means “acknowledging the other person's selfishness” or “you break down and put up with it.” It's smart “wisdom” to protect your own heart and make things go more smoothly.

I think it's still too early to think about quitting the facility after being disliked even more. Please don't give up on your current precious feeling of wanting to get involved with people, protect that “wisdom,” and face yourself and your surroundings little by little.

Worship
Engiji Temple Shakujo

That made you feel bad too, didn't you?
In terms of events at facilities for people with disabilities, there are also cases where users connect conversations and take it as their own affairs.

Even in this case, the case where the rules were told and the case (content) of small talk are completely different stories, and I'm not talking about the user. So I'm not talking about who is at fault.

However, since some users who go to facilities for people with disabilities may be criticized, blamed, or misunderstood and overheard about themselves, it is probably better for you to be careful when having conversations.

However... even though it's a normal conversation, I'm not convinced that the other person is misunderstood and scolded, and it's not comfortable when the air becomes heavy. You don't want to go to places that make you the bad guy, do you?

I wonder if the staff won't come in between.
If users are each other, there may be people who have a sense of opposition to you. There may be times when it is difficult for someone who pushes you anyway to correctly receive your statement.

When you feel that's too unreasonable, protect yourself by just adding an explanation, “What I wanted to say is 00,” and leave that place. Let's protect our own heart by not crossing the line between our partner and ourselves.

Even if you talk like this, I understand your explanation very well, and it comes through really well. So maybe the environment of the facility doesn't suit it. You want to have more casual, fun, and chat, right?