not taken care of

If I were to take my example, I'm definitely not a pretty boy.
It's a parent's inheritance, so parents aren't beautiful men or women either.
Also, when I thought of my parents, I thought, “Even those parents were able to get married, so there's nothing I can't get married either.”
The question isn't limited to romance, but it's basically the same, and there is a possibility that people on the same level or lower as yourself will take care of yourself.
If you are not at the University of Tokyo graduate level, you will not pass the recruitment exam for central ministries and agencies, but even high school graduates can pass at local government offices. This is because, for example, the ratio of test takers is different.
For example, even if people share common interests, it would be difficult to become friends if there is an age difference.
There are cases where it can be repelled even by appearance, clothing, body odor, and bad breath.
For example, an old man with a shaved head before age 50, like me, wouldn't be able to make friends with a high school girl, even if he had the same hobbies.
However, if you are a 70-year-old grandpa and a lonely person, they might take care of me.
Unfortunately, there is a difference in “magnification” there.
If you aim for targets with low magnification, your opponents are also valuable to you, so they may take good care of you.
In terms of Buddhism, the obsession of “wanting to be taken care of by others” is also one of the causes of anguish (worry and suffering).
I think that not being taken care of is just a matter of “magnification” after all, so I think it's better not to place too much importance on it.
Also, value cleanliness and friendly language (smiles and kind words), and have positive conversations in conversation (for example, if the topic of ramen comes up, talk about the merits of ramen, and don't talk about denying ramen).
If the response is positive, the conversation continues, but they say, “I don't like ramen. You gain weight and have a lot of salt, don't you?” If you shut it out quickly, the conversation won't continue.
Praising others without denying what they like makes them happy.

At our first gathering, they paid close attention to their surroundings and worked hard to liven up the place. Even so, I feel lonely, and I can painfully understand the feeling that “I want to be taken care of too.” It's a very natural and lovely feeling as a human being.

When 3 or more people gather, small groups are naturally formed due to “getting along or not getting along.” This is not the superiority or inferiority of human nature; it is simply a collision of “relationships.” Also, nowadays, the appearance of being careful and doing your best may be misunderstood as “there is no gap” or “stifling because it seems to be partitioned,” and even shunned by them.

Human relationships and situations in this world are “impermanent.” It is something that changes constantly over time. If you become obsessed with one place or “you should be rewarded like this,” and results that don't go the way you want, it will only wear down your own heart. Please put aside a little effort to entertain those around you and try to relax your shoulders.

Relax, and when you naturally spend your time “here and now,” you may suddenly run into new relationships that resonate with that inbuilt charm. You're still in your 20s, so there's no need to be impatient. Instead of waiting for the distant future, please take the most care of yourself and you from this moment on.

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Engiji Temple Shakujo

I read it.
You did your best to speak with care at that gathering, but it got passed through, and you felt very disgusted by your friendly attitude towards people who didn't do anything. I don't know the details of the scene, but it really conveys your thoughts. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
I don't know exactly what those gatherings and places are like and how they are managed, but I think that acting like that to you means that it's not a very compatible place for you.
There may be cases where attitudes change due to something, but I don't think it's necessary to pay too much attention to that and put effort into it.
Each person is compatible, and since they have different senses and values, there are things that just don't suit them. So I think it's okay to quickly fade out.
Also, there will be places that are more fun and meaningful for you, and there will also be people who are compatible with you.
Let's move on to the next without getting too caught up.
I sincerely pray that you will be blessed with wonderful encounters and relationships from now on, and that you will be able to get along well, have fun and fulfilling time with compatible people, and that you can live a rich life peacefully. And I wholeheartedly support you. We wholeheartedly agree

It was probably an off party as a hobby. You didn't disturb the atmosphere of the place and spent your time paying attention to your surroundings. While there were people who were just laughing, you've been involved with everyone in a big way... It's sad not to be invited.

How did you get connected in your hobby area? Maybe even during the first time we met, we had many exchanges, and there were also people we were closely connected to. So maybe the next appointment went smoothly.

Also, there is a feeling in this kind of place, so even if you were able to enjoy talking, you don't know if it will lead to the next one. Even though they were attentive and smiled with everyone, there were times when they couldn't become the person they were looking for.

I don't know what caused it because I'm not there, but even if I'm an adult and can get through the situation well according to my partner, the comfort is unique to that person, such as the person's atmosphere, gestures, voice, and speed of speech, etc., and there are people who leave the impression that I want to talk to them again ~ I want to meet them.

I'm not saying you're lacking. However, people who are always surrounded by others may have that kind of aura. It would be nice if I could prepare for myself while observing such people.

Just because the atmosphere of this place was like that, doesn't mean you aren't attracted to it. Not only are they waiting, but they are also calling out with the momentum of the place, “Join me too.”