A fight with my boyfriend

The reason I hide things is because they will get mad at me if I talk to them. I can talk to anyone who doesn't get angry no matter what you say. Don't get angry, don't ask private details, don't ask questions, and don't look at your smartphone. I want you to have a big, kind heart.
When he was out in the middle of the night, he yelled, “Where were you?!!!” Not that, he said in a worried voice, “It's dark at night, so be careful. Drunk driving is no good.” Let's say that to them. If you've been fighting since before marriage, your marriage won't last.

I don't want to fight or fight with anyone. It is said that it is still less than a month since they started a relationship, and if two people who have walked in different environments until now begin to get deeply involved, it is natural for them to cross paths and differences in values. Please don't blame yourself, saying, “I wonder if my organ of mind is small.”

Buddhism teaches that everything changes and doesn't turn out the way you want it to. Even if it's a loved one, or even if they get married and become a married couple in the future, they are “separate people.” No matter how many words you use, you won't be able to grasp everything from the other person's actions to the depths of their heart and do what you want. Letting go of expectations and excessive control over one's partner and acknowledging the boundaries between oneself and others is the first step in building relationships.

The relationship period is a valuable period for determining how two people can face such differences in values and feelings of incongruity, and to calmly determine whether they are really suitable as future marriage partners. So it seems like it's still too early to make a black and white decision about whether we should say goodbye right now. First, let's try conveying your own uneasy feelings without getting emotional.

However, if hidden things or events where you feel you have been lied to continue to overlap frequently in the future, it is necessary to stop at that time and reconsider the relationship. This is because if you think about marriage, you should choose someone who will be your “peace of mind and support” above all else. Please don't be impatient and try to figure out the path where you can stay at peace of mind.

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Engiji Temple Shakujo

I read it.
I see, we got into a fight because we shared information such as schedules and reports with him, and we had a different idea with you. If you do that, you feel very uneasy about him or think you can't trust him. I don't know the details about you or him, but I can tell you that you are so worried. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
I feel like I can understand very well how you feel. It's natural to want to get to know the other person even more after dating, so I understand that when it comes to you, you want him to tell you appropriately.
I don't know about him, but I think he wants to tell you in no small measure. Nonetheless, there are still individual differences in how much they think is appropriate.
If you end up reporting too often, it may feel like a job and feel like you have to report all the time, and it may become like coercion.
Each person's differences and balance are probably different, so why don't you try to get the right balance while listening to his talk?
If it becomes coercion, if there is no report, it will only cause anxiety and pain for you.
If you have a close relationship, I think it's very important to respect each other and have an appropriate balance.

I sincerely pray that you will continue to further deepen your relationship with him while sincerely respecting and understanding each other, and that you can live a good and healthy life together.
And I'll support you and him.

You know, it's “dating abuse.” It refers to violence between lovers.
Even if it's a romantic relationship, no matter who you meet or play with, you don't need a report or permission from your lover.

I want to know my partner! Because I love you so much. I also want them to share their plans. That's trust, isn't it!

Exactly, what you're doing is “dating abuse.” Coercion and moodiness. Over-understanding. Restrictions on behavior. It's “mental violence.”

Don't restrain someone just because you like them. That's not love.
He's not hiding or lying. You're just listening intently. There is no need to make a report, so why is misleading a “lie”? Why don't you notice your own act of driving him into not wanting to say it to you? That's your problem.

Everyone has boundaries where they value themselves. Even if you can't see it, if you respect the other person, you won't threaten those boundaries or forcibly enter them.

I am taking a class on dating violence in middle school to teach life and build better relationships. By knowing “violence,” you can notice that you are being victimized and that you are being violent. If you don't know what violence is, it will destroy important relationships. I learn about that from middle school.

It's impossible to fight more than once in a month. I'm just saying that if I were on his side, we should break up as soon as possible.

I want you to reflect on your actions. This isn't limited to lovers. That's because it applies to any human relationship.