When I saw someone thinking about suicide on SNS

Previously, there was a person who decided the day to die on SNS. I didn't profess that day. I had nothing to do with that person, and I just happened to see the post.
However, I have talked to the police because I thought I had to do something, and if I could stop it, I had to stop it.

However, I felt that the people I saw this time (those who left comments on one post, although they are not looking for suicide companions) sometimes think and are thinking about taking their own lives. No specific dates or methods were entered.

But I'm worried, and don't I have to do something to them myself? Isn't it bad to do nothing? Am I not guilty? Shouldn't we tell them about life consultation desks, etc.? I was thinking about things like that.
However, there are many people in the world who comment or post things such as thinking about suicide... I also think it's normal that there are many people who see it and choose not to do anything...
Recently, I don't understand normal, and am I overreacting? Just thinking too much? I was also thinking about things like that, and at that time I was tired from the day, so I fell asleep without doing anything...

Also, I'm curious about them, and when I'm searching for what to do after waking up in the morning, people who have committed suicide and failed ask questions, and I've arrived at a question site that also has questions related to suicide, and I think I have to say something to that person too?
I'm afraid that the number of people I have to call out to will increase steadily, and I get tired just thinking about it... so I just looked at the title of the question and didn't look at the content. I took action to protect myself.
But do I have to do something? Wouldn't I be punished by law if I didn't do something? If I didn't do anything, wouldn't I be doing something irresponsible?
That comes to mind. But honestly, in the midst of a situation where it's difficult for me to live, isn't there any need to worry about thinking about other people I haven't met even though I can't keep up with myself? etc. also came to mind, and I also feel like I'm the worst person...
Am I allowed to do nothing? Is that normal?
I'm sorry for the difficult sentence to understand this time too... I would appreciate it if you could answer something...

3 Zen Responses

Don't forget your calm self

I have read your consultation.

Actually, I used to think “I want to save something,” and I was a person who jumped right in.

If someone is in trouble, don't leave them alone.

I want to help in some way.

That's the nature.

However, as a result, I have been pushed to the limit both mentally and physically.

At that time, I suddenly remembered the words of a judo teacher.

“Even if someone is drowning in an ocean or river, don't go there alone to help them. You too are going to die.”

I laughed when I was young.

“Teacher, aren't you strong like a gorilla? It'll be fine.”

Then the teacher said it with a serious face.

“I don't understand. People who are drowning risk their lives. How much power do you think it has.”

“Has the teacher ever gone to help?”

“It's there. I almost died too. We were rescued on the verge.”

At the time, I was listening as if it were half a joke.

But now that I've had life experiences, I understand the meaning very well.

People who are on the brink of life are hungry for straw.

Sometimes even those who try to help sink down together.

So don't hold it to yourself.

Asking for help from the police, specialized agencies, and people around you is also an important “way to save.”

Also, you don't have to be burdened with things you can't do anything on your own.

The teacher finally said this to me.

“Miura, I'll say that in particular because you're a friendly person and well-mannered.”

I still remember those words from time to time.

Helping people is a precious thing.

However, if you drown yourself, no one can be saved.

The first thing to do is stand on the shore.

I think that is also the wisdom necessary to save people.

PostScript

Thank you so much for your reply.

The life of someone who is thinking about suicide is also a precious life.

And your life is just as precious as it is.

When I saw someone suffering on SNS,

Are you alright?
Please don't overdo it.
Please connect to a place where you can talk without holding it alone.

I think one way is to make a short voice like that.

However, you don't always have to speak out.

There are many people who are suffering on SNS. No one can handle all of them.
Do what you can to the extent possible.

I think that's enough.

Gassho

If you don't mind, please let me know

I read it.
If you see people who think that way, please speak up to them to the extent possible.
And why don't you listen to them to the extent you can. Please tell me if you don't mind, please let me know the story.
You may be confused at first, but they may not talk about it at some point.
It's not your fault, and it's not your responsibility.
Please cherish your relationship as people who live together.

Alternatively, you can introduce me to this place, and I think it's okay if you can refer me to another consultation desk for your concerns.
https://www.lifelink.or.jp/inochisos/
https://bouzsanga.org/letter/
https://www.kyoto-jsc.jp/

Alternatively, we are asking for individual consultations here as well. Naturally, it's anonymous, so you can talk with peace of mind.
If you don't mind, please let me know.

I sincerely pray to the Buddha, gods, and ancestors so that people who are struggling will connect to various people, share their thoughts, and feel at ease little by little, so that they can live through life with true peace of mind while caring for their lives and helping many people.

There is peace of mind that comes from thinking. There are times when connecting can help.

I wonder what I can do...
I think about it too. It's the cry of a suffering person, isn't it? Your heart is shaken, isn't it?

However, the message makes me wonder what kind of situation they are in and what they are thinking, but with some messages, it is difficult to grasp everything.

Hasunoha also receives questions about how they want to die and their suicide attempts. In addition, we are holding support and location meetings for people who think about despair. It also cares for families who have died by suicide. It is precisely because we know both feelings and suffering that support can be connected and protected by knowing the involvement of companion support and many support destinations.

Thank you for caring about someone's voice. Even if you can't do anything, there's peace of mind that comes from thinking. There are times when connecting can help.

If you feel in danger, please let them know where to consult. Hasunoha is fine too. We also want to listen carefully and stay close to our precious moments.

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