About a 20-year-old only daughter

I would like to express my sincere respect for being able to raise my daughter alone until now. A mother's attitude of believing in her daughter's independence and trying to support her is never “lacking” as a parent. Please don't worry.

Being given a new car in place of college expenses is a sign of great kindness, and above all, my daughter cooperated with the household budget as a member of society and was able to save 1 million yen in just over a year. If you have that much planning and execution ability at age 20, the roots of independence have grown enough.

It is natural kindness to be worried about lack of housework experience and financial hardships. However, it is only by experiencing actual “hardships” and “inconveniences” that people learn their true power to live. No one can do it perfectly the first time. Repeated trial and error in a hectic lifestyle is also an important “life practice” for growing richly as a human being.

Buddhism explains the importance of “letting go of obsessions.” It is the deepest form of love for parents to let go of excessive worries and interference with their children, believing and sending them out as adults. It seems that people around you say a variety of voices, but there is absolutely no need to be misled by the public body or the values of others.

Continuing to be a warm and secure port, saying “come back whenever you have trouble” is the best support a mother can provide. Please take pride in your own thoughts and send your daughter off on a fresh start with a smile.

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Engiji Temple Shakujo

I read it.
I read your thoughts.
It is very precious and I think it is a very good thing for you to send your daughter out without preparation so that she can come back anytime.
My daughter is no longer an adult, has done her job, and lives as a single member of society. It's not until you've lived alone that you'll know how grateful you are for taking care of and nurturing me, and you'll first know that you have to do everything.
I think it's probably very difficult to learn how to cook, but since I lived alone, the need to learn finally came up, I think it was a great opportunity.
My daughter will meet and experience various things from now on, and she will really grow.
Please keep a warm eye on them.
I sincerely pray that your daughter will have wonderful encounters and experiences from now on and that you will be able to live every day peacefully by gently watching over your daughter, and that you will also be able to sincerely share your happiness and survive in relationships with many people. We wholeheartedly agree

Mimi I saw your consultation.

I've been living with my daughter, and it's been 2 years since I got a job.

I gave a car as a gift with Mimi's savings, commuted to work in that car, and my daughter saved 1 million yen in 1 year and a few months.

My daughter also includes 20,000 yen a month for living expenses.

What an ideal and strong parent and child.

The daughter has taken a proper look at her mother's steady lifestyle and is planning her life.

There was also a greeting from him that made a good impression,
My daughter lives alone.

I think it's a natural progression.

Housework etc. will be inconvenient if what your mother used to do until now disappears, but I'm sure they'll be imitated by watching.

There's no right way to do housework, and you'll probably make ends meet by imitating your mother.


I bought a new car because of my mother's love.
Because of that love, I was able to save money to live alone, and I became independent faster.

I think they are also worried about the opinions of those around them who are conservative, so I don't understand it.

But, as you said, this is my daughter's life.

Rather than ruining the efforts of the two of them up until now, rather than ruining them by opposing each other, I'll send them off comfortably

I'm sure it will be for my daughter's flowers.


As you said, only when you're in trouble

I also think it's good to always have a place to come back and go home at any time.

Unbalanced nutrition due to lack of housework is also a part of youth.

If you eat your own food that's less tasty than your usual home flavor, you'll understand how many delicious things your mother has made and fed you until now.

Mimi isn't wrong at all when it comes to general.

Please let my daughter leave comfortably and become independent.

I sincerely pray for your daughter's independence and that Mimi's future life will shine 🙏

You're a good, understanding mother. I, like you, would push a child's back.
You've been raised up to this point in a single mother's environment. It's admirable. The daughter is watching her parents too. It won't make you sad or betray you. This is because she is a daughter who is well-communicative and reports properly to her mother. You seem to be in a serious relationship with him, too. I want to watch over the two young people.

Once you start living alone, you'll probably cook your own meals. Housework and work will also be balanced. Even when life is at the last minute, you will be able to devise ideas. Since you're put in that situation, it's something you have to do to learn and learn.

I think the sense of distance between parents and children will create a good relationship again. You'll also feel how grateful your parents are, and I think they'll enjoy living alone. The time to think is a good time for independence.

Maybe you, too, graduated from raising children. From now on, please take good care of your time.