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I don't understand the meaning of being alive

Nice to meet you.
My life was already coming to an end, and I couldn't find any hope in my current life where there were no happy times, and I often thought about self-exhaustion.
I have many illnesses and live in hell every day, and my life with my husband, who has been very violent for many years, has reached its limit a long time ago.
I recently lost an important friend, and there's no one around me anymore.

I often hear that people who have taken their own lives will suffer even more in the next world even after they die, but is that true?
If possible, I would like to destroy all souls, but is that also impossible?
If there is a way to avoid suffering even after self-exhaustion, please take care of the professor.

6 Zen Responses

According to the Buddhist way of thinking, there is no way to not suffer even after self-exhaustion

Based on the Buddhist way of thinking, it cannot be asserted that “people who have taken their own lives will suffer further in the next world even after death.” What kind of world and in what form we will be born next after this life has run out depends on the “work” of each life. Since what kind of karma each life obtains differs depending on countless causes and relationships, it is impossible to unequivocally say “people who took their own lives...”
However, since taking one's own life is considered a very serious misconduct, it may be possible to say that the possibility that the next life will suffer major pain will increase relatively.
“I want the whole soul to disappear” is also a fundamental issue in Buddhism.
In Buddhism, the best comfort is to be in a state where reincarnation is never repeated. This is called “liberation” or “nirvana.”
In order to gain nirvana, one's own devotion (devouring) creates karma. I endlessly crave what I like) (I don't like. Endlessly avoid things you don't like) (carelessness. I am caught up in my own colored glasses and cannot correctly recognize myself and others. It is necessary to stop the afflictions called the Three Poisons (which are also the foundation of greed and despair).
The Buddha showed the path leading to nirvana in a way that anyone can practice, but in reality, it is necessary to learn, learn, and practice it.
Everyone encounters all kinds of difficulties and suffering in their daily lives, and dealing with them correctly without being swayed by those individual concerns is also this practice itself. You cannot obtain it by momentarily cutting off your own life due to your own convenience.

If you do nembutsu, you can pass away in the Pure Land of Paradise

The Jodo sect believes that anyone who chants Namu Amida Buddha (Namu Amida Butsu) and Nembutsu can pass away (reincarnate) in the Pure Land of Paradise by the power of Amida Buddha.
Namu Amidabu Namu Amidabu
Please chant Nembutsu at your favorite tempo.
If you do that, even if you give up yourself, you can live a happy life in the Pure Land of Paradise in the next life, and become a member of the Buddha's apprentice.
The light of Amitabha Buddha illuminates every corner of the world and saves those who practice nembutsu.
I pray that you will believe in a happy ending in your life and that it will make your everyday life feel easy and paradise.
Worries such as greed, anger, laziness, pride, etc., and delusional thoughts about the past, future, and oneself and others amplify worry, suffering, and stress.
In such a case,
Namu Amidabu Namu Amidabu
Then, let's return our heart to Nembutsu and calm down.
And namu ami dabu namu amidabu
Let's imagine the Buddha taking a shower of light along with the rhythm of it.
Now, if you are being assaulted by your husband, please talk to the government office.
That's because there are also shelters that hide DV victims in the world.

Please try “The Path to Protecting Yourself and Regaining Peace”

Nice to meet you. I read your inquiry with a feeling of tightness in my heart. The suffering of your illness, years of violence from your husband, and the loss of a precious friend. It's not hard to imagine how much despair and loneliness you are in.

But please let me just tell you this. With modern medical care, it is quite possible to ease the pain and slow the progression of your illness. Also, your husband's violence is definitely not something you should put up with. You have a legal right to make an immediate decision to leave and claim damages or alimony. First, in order to protect yourself, please consult an expert such as “Law Terrace.”

The question is “will we suffer in the afterlife?” but no one knows the world after death. However, Buddhism teaches the correct way of life called the “Eightfold Path,” which leads to peaceful enlightenment, and taking your own life is contrary to this. That's why, as a monk, I will do my best to hold you back. Unfortunately, there is no “way to avoid suffering even after self-exhaustion.”

They say, “There wasn't a single happy time,” but there must have always been a trivial moment where I felt at ease when I saw beautiful flowers and tasted delicious sweets. Right now, it's just that memory is being covered up by so much pain.

There is no going back from suicide. Please test the remaining “path to protect yourself and restore peace” before taking your life. There are many monks on your side here at “Hasunoha.” Don't hold it alone and don't hesitate to rely on us.

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Engiji Temple Shakujo

While sharing your thoughts

I read it.
I read that you have lived with great pain until now. You were deeply hurt by your husband, and you were also living in agony, didn't you? I don't know the details about you, your husband, or the people around you, but I really understand your suffering.

Please talk about your suffering and your feelings of not being able to find meaning in life here as well. This is a safe place for you. Please don't worry and talk about your thoughts.
Also, please join hands with the Buddha, God, and your ancestors and confess all of your thoughts from the bottom of your heart as they are. Please tell the Buddha, God, and your ancestors all of your hurt and suffering up until now.
The Buddha, God, and your ancestors will kindly accept all of your thoughts, and they will gently accept your heart, snuggle up, and comfort you. And he will save you from that suffering.
Please don't worry. Then let's talk about your thoughts and share them.
You're sick right now, aren't you? Please take good care of yourself and heal yourself by taking good care of yourself at a medical institution or nursing care. Then, please get proper treatment and recover.
You are a very important person; you have received an irreplaceable life in the midst of various encounters and are living now. You can live peacefully and happily with the life you've been given. It may not be easy for you to feel that way, but please take care of yourself and live every day.
The Buddha, gods, and ancestors will kindly watch over you anytime, anywhere, and in any situation.

I sincerely pray to Buddha, God, and your ancestors so that you can always be watched over your future by Buddha, God, and your ancestors, and live every day with peace of mind, so that you can live by caring for each other and sharing happiness with those you really care about, and that you can live through the life you have been given healthily.
And I wholeheartedly support you. We wholeheartedly agree

Nori is not alone

Nice to meet you, Nori.

It's called Ayamitsu (fight).


You've made it this far very well.

Among Nori, you feel that your life is coming to an end.

It hurts my heart just to imagine how difficult and intense the life of Nori, who says there wasn't a single happy time, was.

Are body aches okay?
Have you gone to the hospital properly?

Even if you go, it's hot, so be sure to take measures against heatstroke.


Your husband has been abusing you a lot of violence over the years, hasn't he?

If you have physical strength, why not contact Law Terrace and get divorced?

We also use a lot of national systems, and I want Nori to have an easy life from now on, even a little bit.

You've lost an important friend too, haven't you? It's painful, isn't it?

But I think the fact that I'm alive now is because God and Buddha are also saying, “Please live.”

Don't overdo it, but so that the environment is comfortable, even if it's just a little bit,

Why don't you just move around a little bit?

The fact that you've been betrayed also means that you've been kind or nice to your partner.

God and Buddha will never abandon Nori!

Also, we are on Nori's side from now on!

Please calm your mind, stay hydrated, and enjoy your time.

I'm going to start supporting Nori!

By all means, it doesn't matter if it's little by little,

Slowly, let's improve our body and mind.

I want to do my best until I can see Nori's smile!

Please reach out for support. I'll post support destinations here

I also read my profile. years of violence?... you've been subject to DV, haven't you? That was painful. It's hell even if you're alive, isn't it? The reason they couldn't get divorced was probably because they didn't want to make waves, they were afraid of retaliation because of their children, etc. It's a tough society for women to get kicked out of their homes and support children, isn't it? So you've been able to endure up to this point, right? It was painful, wasn't it?

It's great to be able to raise a child. However, the reality is that the two of them continue to live with their husband. You've been within your limits before, haven't you? I'm also worried about your physical condition.

You are a DV victim. A society where victims are unable to live. In the current situation where you are being driven to the point where you choose to die, why don't you get out by a method other than dying? We want you to live a safe and secure life.

I work as a support worker at the government's women's consultation desk on a daily basis. There are many DV support desks, and support varies depending on the situation. If you're a DV Advocate, you'll even be accompanied by accompanying support.

Please reach out to help. I'll post the support recipients here.

・Consultation desk for women with difficult issues (Women's Counseling Support Center)

・Women's Counseling Support Center Nationwide Common Dial #8778(はなそう Nayami)

・"Your Mikata” Ministry of Rehabilitation, Labor and Welfare website
https://anata-no-mikata.mhlw.go.jp/

・DV Navi's nationwide phone number “#8008 (Haleleba)”

・Police consultation dedicated dial #9110(24時間対応)

・Law Terrace Crime Victim Support Hotline

Everyone has the right to be respected and happy. Together with our support staff, let's think about your peace of mind.