How to think it doesn't matter

I read it.
You think you don't care about everyone or anything, and you want to face what you want to do. I don't know the details about you or the people around you, but I feel that it is very important for you to think so. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
Well, when you're alive, there are times when you're influenced by what people say, do, and feel, and walk away from what you want. Or there are times when I feel like I'm wasting my time because I have to do something I don't want to do. I know very well that you think so.
As humans live, they are involved with various people and things, so they are inevitably dragged in.
If true, you'll have to get involved in things that aren't really necessary.

It may be quite difficult, but it's about keeping a distance between yourself and the people and things around you as much as possible. Then, maybe it's about calming down and looking at your surroundings objectively before making decisions.

If you look closely, you'll faintly understand whether it's important to you or not, and you'll also be able to see if it's necessary to get involved.

Don't be in a hurry and check your own stance.

I sincerely pray that you will be able to live your desired path without being bothered by unnecessary things in the future, and that you will be able to live through your life without being bothered by unnecessary things from now on.
And I wholeheartedly support you. We wholeheartedly agree

Thank you for your consultation. I think the feeling that you want to improve your own life is a wonderful attitude.

Being concerned about others' words, actions, and evaluations; emptiness, anxiety about the future, and anger about past events build up. These are called “afflictions,” and they are something that every human being has, to varying degrees. However, if it's too strong, it will interfere with your daily life, and it will be painful, right?

As for “a state where you think everything 'doesn't matter',” we in the Jodo Shinshu believe that it is almost impossible to completely get rid of worries and obtain satori with only one's own strength. Therefore, there is no need to force yourself to “overdo it to get rid of your worries, let's not worry about it.” We value a way of life where you know your own limits and leave it up to Amida's original power.

Buddhism has many paths, and there are also sects that prepare the mind through ascetic practices such as zazen meditation. It's not about which one is good or bad; in short, it's a “middle way” that is extremely unbiased.

Strongly thinking “I must become a person who doesn't care at all” also creates new suffering. Instead of forcibly cutting everything down as “I don't care,” please acknowledge the shaking of your own heart first, saying “it's natural to be concerned because you're human.”

There is no need to overdo it. However, when anger or anxiety springs up, I objectively look at it just a little bit, saying, “Right now, I'm being swayed by worries,” and take a breath. That alone will make your mind much easier. I hope you can spend peaceful days without being impatient.

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Engiji Temple Shakujo

Thank you for your question.

“I want to be able to think that everything doesn't matter.”

Maybe my heart is tired the more I think so.

This is quite a difficult question.

Actually, I think there are almost no “people who don't care about anything.”

Me too, later

“Yes, I should have done it.”

“I should have said this.”

There are times when regrets rush in like an avalanche.

Even now that I've become a monk, that's true.

In “Rinzairoku,” which is a Zen book,

“If doubt arises in your mind, it is evil.”

There is a word.

If you keep thinking the same things over and over in your head, your mind will be controlled by those thoughts.

I've been reading these words for close to half a century, and I still haven't learned them.

So it's not easy to say “don't worry about it.”

However, there is only one thing I have put into practice.

Once you've thought about it, it's about moving your body.

walk.

run.

Do the cleaning.

I sweat.

Strangely enough, while I'm moving my body, the majestic circulation in my head calms down a little bit.

If it's a tiring day, there's no need to overdo it.

Sit back in a chair and watch a movie while drinking tea.

Listen to music you like.

Sleep early.

It's okay to have a day like that.

I don't think it's ideal to think “I don't care.”

Rather, wouldn't it be enough if I could become “the person I'm worried about but not swayed by it.”

A person cannot get rid of feelings.

But little by little, you can learn how to deal with emotions.

You don't need to be impatient.

Today was another day, and I lived well in my own way.

I think that going through the days that make you think so day by day is a shortcut to a peaceful mind.

Namu Amida Buddha

The words and actions of others directed at you are worrisome, aren't you? And anxiety and fear of not being able to see ahead may be an endless and bottomless swamp if you think about it.
It probably applies to everyone who wants to live with peace of mind and be happy. It bothers me too.

Does coming to think that everything “doesn't matter” mean “I don't care” even being alive? It also sounds like they have no expectations for the future, and it's empty.

I want you to feel the joy and happiness of living.
It will be easier to live if you have a “don't care” mentality that you don't care deeply about things you don't like or worry about.

Obsession with worry is a kind of suffering that you cause yourself. It's not because people around you give it to you; it's because it creates an obsession that you become obsessed with.

I value what I “like” and what is “important.” No matter who understands you, you should take care of yourself! It's something like that. Then, no matter what people around me say (there's no way I understand), I'll run out of giving up, and since my feelings of “love” and “importance” won't change at all, I won't even care about my surroundings (I don't care).

Let's cherish “your special” so that no one bothers you.
We all live in society, so let's rely not only on our own anxiety about the future, but also because we all live in society. You also have Hasunoha. If you can find someone else to rely on, I think your anxiety will be relieved little by little.