I don't want to let go of my worries.

It's a consultation with no parents or children, but I don't want to throw it away because I think my worries are part of me. It makes me think this way, so I haven't been convinced by the Buddhist way of thinking for a long time, and I'm stuck.

My grandmother, who passed away, liked the temple and went there often, and she had a strong relationship with the temple, so it was a very warm funeral. That's why I don't want to somehow change my funeral or religion to Buddhism.

When I thought about my life and personality, I was greedy, and had a strong sense of ambition and loss, but I think that's why I managed it. Without it, we would have succumbed to adversity. Even though my father paid for pachinko, I went to high school on a scholarship and covered my school term and lessons while working part-time. But that's why I became an autonomous way of thinking, and I was also taught social common sense through part-time work. Even after I went out into society, I was working hard because I wanted to spend more money on my hobbies.

When I think about my own life like that, dying, becoming a Buddha, and being freed from my worries is scary because it seems like I'm not who I am. Wouldn't it be possible to just be greedy and watch over your descendants from paradise?

4 Zen Responses

In the Pure Land of Paradise, there will be no attachment to the self

According to the sutras, it is said that if you pass away in the Pure Land of Paradise, you can gain supernatural powers.
Therefore, I think it is possible to watch over bereaved families etc. from the Pure Land of Paradise.
However, since the Pure Land of Paradise is an environment where Amitabha Buddha was created, it is easy to understand, so it seems that the attachment to self will disappear, and the feeling of discriminating against oneself and others will disappear.
Since there is no anger or sadness, the worries, suffering, and stress associated with it go away.
Since you can also obtain supernatural power to remember memories of past lives (countless reincarnations), memories of countless families, countless friends, and all family members from the past where they were fish, the past where they were gods, and the past which was hell may also come back to life.
If that happens, the feeling that only the current family is special and that only humans are friends will disappear, and it may seem that all living things are equal.
It's not scary, and it's so easy, so I think it's called the Pure Land of Paradise.

The important thing is not to worry too much

The Buddha is asking monks to eradicate all worries, but he is telling lay believers to reduce and suppress their worries.
In other words, the important thing is not to worry too much.
As you have pointed out, the reason you have been able to bounce back from adversity in your life up until now and have worked hard in your studies and work is probably because, as you have pointed out, you have had strong ambitions and a strong sense of losing.
If you're satisfied with your life, your worries seem to be just the right amount.
Please continue to have moderate worries from now on, and be careful not to make yourself or others unhappy by having too many worries.
As for after death (I think there are ways of thinking of various denominations), the Buddha is not saying that his worries will go away just because he dies.
It is clearly stated that as long as there is worry, reincarnation will be repeated.
I myself think it would be more attractive to many people to be reborn again as a person after death, but what do you think?

Please consider it carefully

I read it.
I read your feelings. I read that you don't want to let go of your worries and desires. I respect your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
As long as humans live, their worries and desires will not go away. It's very difficult to let go of worries and desires in this world. I think it's almost impossible.
Originally, Buddhism teaches that letting go of worries is precious. Beyond that, there is peace of mind, and the path to attaining Buddhism opens up. However, it is an extremely difficult job.
There aren't many people who can completely abandon their worries, no matter how good and noble they are.
I know things you don't feel like letting go of your worries easily.

Nonetheless, when you pass away, you will abandon all of your body, possessions, position, power, and property. So it's completely different from the state we were in when we were alive. At that time, the three major desires will disappear.

Please take time to reflect on yourself after you have passed away, face yourself, and think about your worries. There's no need to panic.

I sincerely pray to the Buddha, gods, and ancestors so that you can live a rich and fulfilling life from the bottom of your heart for the future. We wholeheartedly agree

Save them as they are, and make them Buddha wishing for descendants. The turn of Amitabha Buddha.

I see, the desire (desire) called worry has inspired you up to this point.

Worry is not evil; it is an emotion (greed) that springs up and cannot be thrown away. Therefore, not all humans will be able to throw it away until they die. And worry is probably the motivation and energy to live.

However, being swayed by that worry and suffering are the result of my own worries. It also creates joy and fun, but it also sometimes causes anger and hatred. This control is difficult to keep from running amok, isn't it?

The Buddha doesn't blame people who have worries. However, we must not leave our suffering alone. “Isn't it you who is hurting you?” It makes me notice, and it asks me how I should live. My grandmother probably visited the temple to see the Buddha because she knew the will of such a merciful and warm Buddha.

There were times when they put their hands together, illuminated my path of not being able to let go of my worries and getting lost. While dealing well with worries, I look at my own way of being. This is my way of life.

You've been encouraged, supported, and helped you live. I'm sure the Buddha is also watching with peace of mind.

“Stay greedy” is really true. That's what makes us human.
Amida probably knows that people who cannot give up such wishes and feelings are human. They will keep it as it is, save them, and make you a Buddha wishing for the descendants you care about. This is also the conversion of Amitabha Buddha.

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