Do children choose their own mother to be born?

According to the Buddhist way of thinking, what form and what kind of world life will be born in the next life is determined by each work. Also, it is thought that there is no such thing as a unique ego where memories and consciousness continue throughout past, present, and future lives.
Therefore, from a Buddhist point of view, it cannot be considered a fact that “children are born by deciding their own mother before they are born.”
If you observe in detail, it may be possible to say that life that lives this way of life in this life will increase the possibility that it will be born in such an environment in the next life. However, even so, I don't think it is possible to say that individual lives can be born by individually selecting the mother fetus for the next time they are born.

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If you hear the story “children choose their own parents before they are born,” those who grew up being abused may be deeply hurt.

In Buddhism, reincarnation and causality are explained. But that doesn't mean they “chose their own parents to be abused.”

Shinran Shonin is in “Takaso Wakan,”

“I've passed away three times and it's lukewarm and now it's easy to get prickly”

It is written as.

People are living this life while being reincarnated over and over again. However, it is not explained that each and every one of those lives will turn out the way you want.

In Buddhism, this Shaba world is also described as a place of ascetic practice.

There are also people who are blessed with good relationships and grew up in loving families. This is sometimes called “good luck.”

On the other hand, there are also people who are born into families with constant strife and suffering. This is sometimes described as an “opposite relationship.”

However, it cannot be said that a good marriage is absolutely good, and a reverse marriage is absolutely bad.

There are also people who know people's pain through reverse relationships and become kinder people than anyone else.

There are also people who hurt people while growing up in a friendly relationship.

Therefore, the value of life is not determined simply by “which family you were born into.”

Also, it is impossible to assert to a fool that “they are born by choosing their own parents.”

If you say that is true, abused children may be taken by abused children as “you chose it, so it can't be helped.”

That's just too bad a story.

At least, Buddhism isn't a teaching that blames those who suffer.

It's a teaching that values how to stay close to that suffering and live from there instead of saying “it's your fault.”

Therefore, rather than continuing to think about “whether or not you chose your parents,” I think that how to live from here and now is more important than continuing to think about “whether or not you chose your parents.”

You can't change where you were born on your own.

However, while having that experience, you can gradually cultivate what kind of life you go through in the future.

Even if you have a painful past, it doesn't mean that it will determine your future.

Buddhism is not a teaching that blames the past; it is a teaching that values “now, this step.”

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Spiritually involved people and psychics say, “Every child is born by deciding their own mother before they are born.”

This is what I think.

In order to release karma that could not be fulfilled in previous lives, to have a relationship as a child again, and to help the mother,

In this world, they say they were born as children.

I don't think children are necessarily below their parents.

I feel like it's an interaction.

There are also parent-child relationships where parents don't notice it.

It is a pattern where children have completely accumulated more virtue than their parents.

Assuming reincarnation in order to get rid of a parent's criminal disorder,

There may also be a possibility that Midori was baton-touched by a causal relationship from her ancestors that her mother was unable to resolve.

Maybe it's going to be a generation that completely changes from Midori's generation, where she can take a calm and objective view.

It's hard to forgive the past and live in the present, but Midori still has a long future ahead.

Please overcome it and let your life shine.

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If it is true that “children are born by choosing their parents,” a miscarriage or stillbirth would be a life where neither parents could be chosen, nor was it possible to be born...
Also, if you choose, the current situation where you have been abused by that parent will prove that you are an entity that is unwanted and cannot be loved...
Is it okay for such cruelty to happen?

That's definitely not the case, and it's not that kind of interpretation. You must have been deeply hurt by these words. As someone who has closely cared for stillborn parents and children, it is a word that hurts both children and parents, and it is unfortunate to think that a monk conveyed it that way.

Any relationship, even a parent and child, is not determined from the beginning, and relationships are built with each other from scratch. That's why the fact that you sought peace of mind and love from your parents was harmed by violence even if your parents didn't give it to you probably caused great suffering and despair.

I also read the words of thanks for the question. The influence of the environment you grew up in is the trauma that still bothers you today, isn't it? it's painful, isn't it?
There's nothing wrong with you. You are not someone who is oppressed; you are someone who is cherished and loved. From birth, life is precious. My parents weren't able to build it up.
The Buddha will surround our lives like this. Even if they are connected by a network, they simply don't notice it, and everyone is blessed with a life where they are loved and happy.
You and I have already received mercy from the Buddha. They are exclaiming, “No matter how painful it is, the Buddha is by your side.”

Let's accept the warm words and kindness addressed to you. What led to Hasunoha in this way is also the relationship you got your hands on. I'm sure you'll also find relationships that lead to peace of mind and happiness. Let's keep an eye on future relationships.