A relationship that crosses the line with a man who has a girlfriend

I have read your consultation. You've been tormented by a sense of deep regret and remorse for months. Your suffering is proof of your true sincerity. As someone who is a Buddhist practitioner, I would like to talk a little bit about it.

First, let me start by saying that you are by no means a “scum” or a “fundamentally dishonest person.” Buddhism explains that every human being is an imperfect being with a weakness called “affliction (bonno).” When there is a shocking event, and reason fluctuates when the mind is weak, it is definitely not something that has been praised, but it can happen because of human weakness. Even so, you declined to have sex at the very last minute and put the brakes firmly on with your own heart. Your firm sense of reason remained there.

You don't need to get caught up in the words of the person who called you “scum.” The way he acts according to his own desires and imposes that responsibility on his partner is an expression of his own weakness and immaturity. Deciding not to get involved at all in the future is a very good choice to protect yourself.

In Buddhism, there is a teaching called “repentance (sange).” This is to clear your mind and move forward by honestly acknowledging past mistakes and pledging never to repeat the same mistakes again. You've already fully reflected and decided on a course of action for the future. Your repentance has already been fulfilled within you.

Just one mistake will never let the precious good deeds you have accumulated, such as volunteering, come to naught. Rather, only people who know their own weaknesses can have “true kindness” that is close to the pain and weakness of others. Don't keep blaming yourself. Please use this abominable event as one of your life studies, take good care of your own mind and body, and continue to live proudly for others.

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Engiji Temple Shakujo

Saki, I would also like to consult with you.

It's about having an affair with a man who has a girlfriend, right?

First of all, I think there will be plenty of invitations from men in the future, but try your best by planning a strategy so that you can get through it somehow.

Involvement with a man in an absurd relationship

There is also a possibility of getting cervical cancer, and above all, if you have an abortion, the possibility that it will happen when you want children decreases.

Let's take a closer look at the concept of protecting the body, which is more important than emotional regret.

Things that have passed can't be helped, so let's make sure nothing is the same from now on.

There's no point in being called “scum” by an opponent who has attacked that much.

Even now, a few months after the incident, Saki still regrets it every day.

Please stop doing things you regret and take good care of yourself from now on.

Volunteers are amazing!
Saki isn't dishonest or anything.

However, I think men will continue to ask for it a lot from now on.

Let's learn how to say no.
You just don't have to repeat it.

Don't let it be played.
Let's go out to eat with a man who takes good care of me and only sees Saki.

I'm praying that Saki will smile as soon as possible

Whether you play or go out drinking with a man who has a girlfriend, I think that's fine, but if you trust them too much, it may be a source of trouble. I'm not sure if she got permission, and it would be bothersome if later she told me it was an affair.

And even though there was a reason they listened to the story, if you drank it until you missed the end point, then it would be taken home. We're both adults, so we're free, and if we can take responsibility, we're free to do whatever we do... but behavior at Necafe isn't clean. I wonder if it became a nuisance to those around me.

It's probably because of drunken momentum or being swept away, but choose a man who treats you with a little more care. What's more, people who say they're scum are terrible, aren't they?

If you don't protect yourself well, nobody will protect you. Women who follow right away will be thought to be light, so be careful. I want to be able to take responsibility for my own behavior. I'm so frustrated that I've been hurt, so let's make myself grow. Let's cultivate a clear eye for seeing through our opponents. Let's do that and become wonderful women.

I read it.
I read it, and I think you are very sorry for what you did. I don't know the details about you or that person, but I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
It's probably very regrettable that this kind of trend led to such an act, but it is thought that person followed such a trend because of their own desires. In other words, I think that person guided you with no small amount of calculation.
And since it didn't go the way I wanted, I think I spat such bad words at you.
So it's not that you are “scum,” but that person's thoughts, words, and actions are “scum.” That person is a bad match for you, and I think it is desirable to stop being closely involved in the future. There are actually quite a few people like that. Let's use this as a lesson and be careful about our relationships with people.
If you have deep regrets about what you have done, please sincerely join hands with the Buddha, gods, and ancestors to confess and repent, and pledge to the Buddha, gods, and ancestors that you will cherish yourself from now on.
The Buddha, gods, and ancestors accept all of your feelings and watch over you.
Please continue to do your best in volunteering etc.
I sincerely pray to the Buddha, gods, and ancestors that you will be blessed with truly wonderful encounters and relationships in the future, share your happiness from the bottom of your heart, and live through with your loved ones. And I will support you from the bottom of my heart.