A senior at work who looks like a moral boyfriend

I have read the consultation you received. While I feel that my new workplace is rewarding, my seniors are swayed by intense emotional ups and downs, and I can see that their worries are constant. It's really exhausting every day to care about someone who is in a good mood and changes their attitude.

In Buddhism, there is a teaching called “Onzō Eku (Onzō Eku),” the suffering of having to be involved with someone you don't like. Workplace relationships are exactly like this, but confronting them directly with anger can result in unnecessarily exhausting your own mind and body. It is important to have a sense of distance to not rise to the opponent's playing field, to draw a line in your mind that “this person cannot control himself,” and to have a sense of distance to accept it.

My boss listened attentively and showed a certain understanding, saying, “I want you to continue for a long time.” It's been 5 months since I changed jobs, and while I feel that the job itself is fun, I feel a bit unfortunate to give up at this point. Before you reach a limit saying “it may be impossible” and decide to retire, why don't you ask your boss once again for a stronger response, saying “the work environment is hindered, so I want guidance from the company.” It is impossible to change the fundamental character of others, but if guidance from the organization comes in, there is a good possibility that they will suppress their behavior.

However, what is more important than anything else is your own mind and body. The situation hasn't changed even if you do everything you can, and if you feel that your heart will be broken any more, don't hesitate to have the courage to evacuate (retire) yourself. Please don't overdo it and always give top priority to protecting your own mind and body.

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They shout in front of everyone because of a misunderstanding statement. How unreasonable is that? Not being able to control your emotions and being swayed in a good mood is also harassment, isn't it?
Does the fact that women don't get involved in conversation create the same kind of atmosphere for people around them? It's uncomfortable, isn't it?

It's been 5 months since I changed jobs. You'll also be able to see relationships in the workplace. Are there any people who keep a certain distance from senior women, or who give opinions to senior women?

There's no doubt that you're being treated unfairly by her, but she doesn't seem to have the ability to listen to correct opinions and suggestions, so rather than telling them from you and making waves, let's search for a reasonable distance with her while consulting with someone who is on your side.

Get into the other person's pocket with a sense of selflessness and read their psychology.
It's about forgetting age, position, and company relationships.
My opponent is also the same person.
Let's think that your opponent is just in trouble, and you're in the mentality of a hungry ghost world full of yourself. People who are calm and have peace of mind will not be disturbed.
The more mentally cornered people are, the stronger they are towards others.
Or, it is based on many unhappy experiences and anxiety in the past, and they just have a 👹 scary attitude 💀 towards people, but the person himself is unaware of that bad feeling.
There's not that much room.
In other words, it looks like aggression towards others, harassment and mounting behavior against you, but it's simply a mentality where you don't have room for yourself.
Fear and instability have first arisen in the opponent's psychology.
Self-preservation is basically strong, and the mentality of protecting oneself is fundamentally strong, so when risks and burdens are placed on oneself, they do 💣 bokan 🔥 based on other harmful acts, exclusivity, and anger.
Therefore, when dealing with such people, they become selfless, abandon any standing position, and take on the challenge with a large net, a sieve, and a hole in the butt 🎏 carp streamer that penetrates everything. Let's treat poor people with the mentality of Mr. Jizo, who helps poor people without confrontation.
Let's say you worked at a facility for the elderly as a job.
Even if you're over 80 years old and quite a bit older, it won't be a job if you take it as if you were scolded by Pumpun.
A good caregiver says, “Yes yes, just like taming a fierce dog. I'm not saying it like that.” It is something that skillfully returns the opponent's smashes and attacks and makes them head in a good direction.
It's like humans don't have age.
That person is burdened by that and just needs help and support.
Therefore, I also see that the other person is bothering is something they don't like, that they are burdened, that they are in trouble, and that they need help or support.
The station staff who work at the station don't have an “me” due to Nagi's mentality when it comes to Demon Slayer.
When you don't have an “I,” it's not about losing yourself; it's about not putting these rules and assumptions ahead of time.
Your opponent is also a tough opponent, so I think you're on alert, but since you also have dignity, please dodge well without losing your mind in times of emergency.

I read it.
I see, you feel uneasy because there are people like that. I don't know the details about you or your workplace, but it really conveys your feelings. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
Please be sure to tell your boss and the HR department that you had a very hard time because of such a thing. I think it's probably not just you, but many other people feel very uneasy or bothersome.
Also, if that person bullies or harasses you, immediately consult with the HR department, general affairs department, or compliance department to seek a prompt response and have them make improvements.
There is probably a possibility that that person will do the same thing again. So let's ask the company to respond appropriately.
I sincerely pray that you and everyone can work with peace of mind so that they can receive proper guidance from the company and correct such bullying and harassment. We wholeheartedly agree