How to endure dislike

It's painful.

They are of the same sex and are close in age. However, my opponent is a senior, and this is a junior.

There was a really difficult time when the fool was also an office worker, receiving slightly detailed guidance from the so-called “office manager,” who was about two times older.

I was a general manager, and she was a general employee. However, regardless of such differences in positions, etc., it was done thoroughly.

At first, I thought I wouldn't be able to do it, so I did the work carefully one by one. Then, this time, another point is pointed out.

At the end of the day, it's a way to push a stamp.

“I'm asking my boss, so I lean slightly towards my boss and push him.”

I thought in my heart that I'd come that far.

“Mr. Office, you're my subordinate, aren't you?” and (lol)

This is not instruction. It's simply that this person doesn't like me.

“Let me check the right method for the future”

In this way, try not to respond to emotions and just check the details of the work. They replace dislike with “business questions” and return them.

Briefly record the date and time of what was said, what was said, and how you responded. If the same thing is repeated and it seems to interfere with your work, you can talk to your manager.

The important thing is not to let that senior occupy your mind until outside of working hours.

The fool simply calmly put up with it during work, and when work was over, he sweated at the sports club, went jogging, and forced him to switch his mood.

Thanks to you, after a year and a half, that person was transferred to another department.

There was probably a slight problem with leadership skills (laughs)

Honestly, I did my best.

Let's take only necessary indications and return unnecessary emotions to the other person.

“This person is hitting me with his lack of room right now, isn't he?”

Look at it to that extent and don't take it head-on.

It's not because you're immature that it's painful. They have already endured enough while thinking about their opponent's circumstances.

Please don't take patience out of work. Move your body, write on paper, and take a walk alone. It doesn't matter what. Rather than holding back anger in your heart, let them escape to the outside in a way that doesn't hurt anyone.

If it continues to the point where your mental and physical problems still occur, don't put up with it and choose to talk to your boss.

The company may be an ascetic dojo, but it's not a place to continue penance.

Thank you for your question.
One of the things that surprise foreigners when they come to Japan is “seniors” and “juniors.” It seems that they say “senpai” and “kouhai” as they seem to be concepts and words not found in English. What I want to say is that you don't have to be flustered just because you're a senior. As a part of Japanese culture, I have a sense of respect, and I'm grateful for teaching me, but if you're not convinced by that, you can refute “I don't think so,” or you can comment “I think this is better.” Be sure to also treat them as an equal person. Let's think “I won't accept it, I'll give it back” when it comes to disgust or bad speech.
Also, I think the information you can get will be unbalanced if you only talk to seniors, so I think it's better to have conversations with other people without worrying about gender or age so you can get more information. (However, old men from the Showa era tend to make slightly sexually harassing remarks, so please be careful and ignore them. Also, watch out for bad men.)
It's good to separate work and private life, but once in a while, I think it's a good idea to socialize with seniors over meals or karaoke. Maybe disgust will also decrease.

That's exhausting, isn't it? It also reduces motivation, doesn't it?
Communication is necessary for work, but if people say something bad about you every time, it's likely that you don't like your seniors.

However, Senpai doesn't seem to notice that it's straining the relationship, and it takes energy to talk back and forth, and they think they'll be in trouble even if it becomes difficult to do their job in the future, so they've been putting up with it all the time.

However, it has gone so far as to endure anger. That's quite stressful, and going to work is depressing, isn't it?

I want you to develop “through skills.” ① Don't get emotional, shut up and force the conversation to end. ② Reply “Yes” in a flat tone. ③ Shut up and look back at your opponent's face.
Even with this alone, you can lower the shutter to a distance between you and your opponent. I've experienced it too, so it works.

After that, get used to your work and gain strength so that you can work smoothly even if you don't get advice. It's a strategy to reduce disgust.

Finally, when you build a relationship with your seniors, you'll be able to say “that's too much” in response to disgust.

Don't lose while understanding that it's just for a rookie now.

I read it.
I read that you are very worried about not getting along well with that person. I don't know the details about you or that person, but I feel like I understand your thoughts. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.

Maybe that person is also stressed because their work isn't going well, but it's not a good thing for them to say such things to you. There are times when you say no to that person outright, but if you say so, the relationship may break down and you may not be able to work, so it might be worth leaving it alone.
They may not be very compatible with that person, so I think it's okay to keep a reasonable distance and wait and see.
I'm probably only going to work with that person for a short period of time, so I think they'll leave each other eventually.
You and that person will be able to live your own way of life and path from now on. Please don't worry too much about it, take time off from work and spend every day peacefully.
I sincerely pray that you will be blessed with various encounters and relationships in the future and that you will be able to live a fulfilling life.
And I will support you from the bottom of my heart. We wholeheartedly agree

Overseas, if you let your guard down a bit, your smartphone will be stolen or your child will be kidnapped.
There are few good people and many bad people in the world.
Humans, like wild animals, eat the weak and the strong.
Senpai doesn't seem to be a good person either, but even if he just hasn't committed a crime, he's a better person among all of humanity.
Moreover, since they are people who choose the same workplace as you, they may originally be a category of people with similar values etc. to you.
If you think so, don't you think Senpai is a little cute too?
Senpai dislikes you because they are dissatisfied with you, in other words, it may be because you annoy your senpai.
Why don't you complete a week of perfect work that will satisfy your seniors and make them smile?
Your job is to earn money by selling your workforce to companies.
In other words, if you take an expanded interpretation, everyone at the company, including your seniors, is your customer.
By showing off professional work that doesn't make customers feel bad, in other words, they solve problems by doing their work without blaming relationships (because of the seniors' personalities).
In my experience, people who struggle with relationships tend to accumulate stress.
It's stressful to think that the problem (being said disgusting) is because of humans (seniors), so I recommend that you don't hate people, love them, and do it while enjoying professional work casually.