Autumn worries

I read your consultation.

Just because one dream is unlikely to come true doesn't mean that the meaning of life is lost.

You were alive even when you didn't have that dream. I'm alive.

Dreams are not fixed and immutable, tangible things, so they change. Depends on how you live from now on.

You said you've made people around you unhappy. Isn't it because we take care of those people?

Marriage is probably not the only way to do that.

Take each one seriously and sincerely. May the accomplishment of something not be a joy, and may you find meaning in yourself now that you are trying to do it.

Since you exist as you, there are endless possibilities for that meaning.

It's not something that is forced upon anyone, nor is it something that is innately given to you.

Doing, meeting, and accepting. Something I feel in various relationships. Something to discover. Something that makes you notice.

If your regrets are clear, the first step is to stop it, then review it step by step.

I read it.
I read that you have dreams for the future ahead. But it's not easy to make dreams come true. You're worried and sorry about yourself like that, aren't you? You want to know the meaning and reason for your life, don't you? I don't know the details about you or the people around you, but I understand your concerns from the bottom of my heart.

Right now, your dreams aren't coming true, things aren't going the way you want, and you're probably wondering why you're living. The answer is hard to understand. Everyone in their lives is worried and lost like that.
Nonetheless, there is a meaning and reason for your life. You have been blessed with many relationships, and are now living in the midst of various circumstances.
I don't know how you will live from now on, but you will be blessed with many encounters and you will be able to live your life in relationships with various people and things.

Even if you don't have an answer for yourself right now, I think you'll be able to see your own unique answers as you live from now on.

Also, why don't you go ahead and participate in various meeting places to the extent possible. There are various events at many shrines and temples now, and relationships with many people are connected. I'm planning a “temple and shrine party” for my friend.
https://jisyacon.com/
Please feel free to join us if you like. Also, let's interact and form relationships with many people.

I sincerely pray to the Buddha, gods, and ancestors that you can continue to live a fulfilling life that is unique to you while being blessed with many encounters and relationships, so that you can find the meaning and reason for your life and live a rich and happy life with your loved ones from the bottom of your heart.

And I wholeheartedly support you. We wholeheartedly agree

Worries, suffering, and stress will decrease if you stop worrying about the meaning of being alive or the value of your own existence.
If you learn Buddhism, there is a possibility that this way of thinking about your own worth will change.
If you have delusional thoughts about yourself, others, and the past and future, it also causes stress.
If you can spend one second of the “here and now” right in front of you happy, you can live for the next second.
Now, if you want to meet people from overseas, it's better to live overseas or work in a store etc. in an area where there are many foreigners.
I don't know where you live, but for example, there are a lot of foreigners in places like Yokosuka. Why don't you go sightseeing?
Now I can fully communicate with smartphone translation apps, so I think there's a chance to meet people.

The marriage you've been dreaming of. There's a reason I'm attracted to that, isn't it?
The reason I want to go to a manners course is to get to know the other person's culture and preferences and become a balanced (chosen) person.
If you have such strong feelings, I definitely want to get to know them.

“Becoming a balanced person” is not about forcibly adapting to the other person's conditions, but rather arranging one's own inner world and life, and creating a relationship where we can respect each other.

So that you can show off your appeal. Also, having a connection with the white community is essential, isn't it? You won't visit even if you wait. I have to join the community myself.

As a familiar community, there are also social media and online connections. Why don't you expand your circle of interaction without drastically changing your environment? I think that will also expand your horizons and the world.