The meaning of being alive

Ultraman

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

Since the meaning and value of life is different for each person, it is not something that can be definitively said “this is it,” and it also changes depending on various causal relationships (causes and conditions).

Therefore, if an appropriate good causal relationship is adjusted, it has a good meaning and value, but if it is not adjusted, it is difficult.

Therefore, in order to have a good meaning and good value, I would like to continue to arrange good causes and relationships for that purpose as much as possible.

Even if I don't have money, I think there are things I can do for my kids.

In Buddhism, there are “seven acts for nothing” as good deeds that can be done without money.

They are listed below, so be sure to check them out.

Eye care (eye care)... treating people with kindness and a kind gaze.

・When you meet children, please treat them kindly.

Japanese Face Pleasure Treatment (Japanese face treatment)... Treating people with a peaceful smile and a smiling smile.

・Please treat children with a smile.

Speaking kindly (speaking with love)... treating people with kind words. There are also harsh words of love with scolding and encouragement.

・Please treat children with kind words. Sometimes even harsh words from love.

Sacrifice (sacrifice)... self-promotion of help and service that can be done using the body.

・Please use your body to play with the children. Play catch, play soccer, practice jumping rope together, etc.

Consideration (consideration): Be considerate of the other person's heart and treat them according to the TPO.

・Please be close to the children's joys, anger, and sorrows. Please always be on the side of the children.

Bed-sitting (sitting): Giving up a seat or place for the elderly, pregnant women, sick people, etc. Sharing and compromising.

・Please share the amount of money, food, sweets, etc. that you can afford with the children.

Bosha: Providing one's own housing and providing hospitality.

・When children come to your place, please entertain them.

I pray for good deeds.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

Even if you don't find the meaning of life, even if you don't have the courage, you are still alive.
It's such a painful feeling that not being able to find the meaning of life is worth death.

I don't think either one is false.

Feelings above the neck aren't the only ones that control life.
Even though I have a lot of thoughts going through my head, my body is trying to recover and get in shape during sleep.

Before looking at the path you walked or the world
Please cherish the physical preciousness with which you have treated me until now.

Even if you don't hurry, the chance of someone dying is 100%.
What is it thanks to that body that has survived until now?

The point of view of what to live for often creates emptiness in the head, hesitation, and suffering
It's easier to let go of your obsession with yourself and focus on work other than yourself if you think about what you've survived thanks to.

First, take a deep breath.
Take good care of your breathing.

Ultraman
Nice to meet you, my name is Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an.

You got divorced for the second time a little over a year ago, didn't you?
They have a former wife and a former wife, and they have 3 children in total.

You yourself are currently working alone as a temporary employee, and you feel sorry for not being able to pay child support in these tough times. I felt sorry for my children, and I thought it was no wonder that they even wanted to die. It seems that my heart aches when I think about how much pain I am struggling with.

Certainly, right now, I may be in a state where I can't do anything for my wife and children who have broken up with me. It's also true that without money, you can't do anything you can see. But I think it's only when we're alive that we can do something that we can do.

In Buddhism, the world is described as “impermanent.” It's a world where everything continues to change, so happiness can also disappear. However, I think there is a possibility that one day you can do something for your wife or child. No, even if you can't do anything specific, I think there's a possibility that your presence has meaning.

The nickname was “Ultraman.” Maybe your wife and children have a desire to become “Ultraman.”
Even Ultraman lost to Gomorrah and Zetton. If we weren't heroes, there would be times when we crawled to the ground.
I want Ultraman to have the courage to live, not the courage to die.

Ultraman

I've seen your concerns, but you're having an indescribable pain.
If you don't have the courage to die, give up on having the courage to die.
Even if you think about it, impossible things are impossible, and that's fine, isn't it?

It's not easy, it's living. It's painful.

For the three children, I think there is a possibility that the “existence” of Ultraman, the father, will become one of the things they “want to know” as the three children grow up.

The various circumstances of not being able to hand over child support are certainly one major cause of Ultraman's heart distressing, saying “painful” and “pathetic.”

Ultraman has a “meaning of being alive.”
If your parents are alive and well, you'll probably feel sad if something that takes your life before your parents do. I think you understand that best. It's the same thing.

I think it also makes sense for you to “live” as a father of 3 children before Buddhism or anything.

I don't know when the next day will come when I can meet my kids face to face.
However, if Ultraman isn't alive, you won't be able to meet “children” even if they want to meet them.

Paying child support may also be important, but isn't it more important “for children” to spend every day while suffering without getting sick or injured yourself? Maybe he's not cool as a father, and maybe he doesn't have a single good thing. If you look at other happy parents and children and think about them, you'll have a really hard time.

However, it's a story about “only if you're alive” and “only if you have life.”

I can't imagine the suffering that Ultraman will face in his future, but like all the other monks who answered, “I want you to live” for your children and for yourself. I hope so too. I can't help you in any way, but as one of the monks, I said a word. Gassho

If you need meaning in your life, you don't need life without meaning. There must be times when you can't find meaning in a life where there are many things going on. In such a case, I think it's enough just to keep walking until the meaning comes out.

When you don't understand the meaning, let's spend time not understanding it. It may be a misunderstanding, but I read English books as a hobby, and when there are words I don't understand, I skip reading them. Then you gradually understand it. Even if you don't understand it from that book, there are things you can understand while reading a different book. If I really care about it, I use a dictionary, but as a lazy person, I don't often do the act of reading that dictionary. In a sense, they may be looking for a relationship where they can understand the meaning of words.

Being obsessive is bad for your body and mind. As the previous monk wrote, feelings above the neck aren't everything. I won't be able to turn my neck. I've experienced this too. My neck is ticking. I understand the meaning of not being able to get bogged down in debt. Also, the meaning varies from person to person. Walk around until you find the one that suits you.

Right now, I don't need to get in touch with my previous wife, and if I can't pay child support, it can't be helped. If you don't have one, you won't be able to swing. I don't have anything to do for my kids right now, but if I want to do something for them, let's aim for a situation. To that end, please find something that will change your full life to something that isn't.

I hope the feeling of fullness in your life will diminish.
Have a good night.

　I read the question, the other answers the monk's answers, and thanks for that.

I see. I can't even help my children financially. We can't even meet. It's hard.

OK, let's pray at times like that. So that children can live healthy and healthy lives. So that we can overcome many difficulties.

Is there no point in praying? That's not true. The act of “praying” has been carried out continuously among humans since before the advent of Buddhism. If it had no meaning, the act of “praying” would have disappeared from history. Humanity continues to pray because it has meaning.
Actually, there are also experimental results showing that illness was improved by having people pray regardless of distance. I don't know the mechanism, but it seems that praying is effective even from a distance.

Happy are people who have someone to pray for. You can save your children and make them happy by praying.

With little effort, I am praying that you will be able to meet your children and that your children will live a healthy and healthy life.

The dispatch system is a constant state of poverty, isn't it? It is a system that causes many people to live in poverty. Modern Japanese society, where no possibility of a comfortable life can be found, has created poor people like slaves and is hunting down citizens. Capitalists around the world seek labor that can be used cheaply in poor countries, and they embark on underdeveloped countries, and when they gain strength like China, they reach out to other countries because they cannot obtain flavor. Everything eventually lost its flavor, so what caught my eye was the enslavement of workers in our own country. That is the dispatch pinhane system. The 100 million total active society is more accurate to say a 100 million total enslavement society. The politics that support that kind of economy are making you suffer. There are a lot of people who feel like they want to die. It is moving in the direction of ignoring it rather than a policy to bail it out. Your awareness of incapacity is not your intention to die; you must have a fighting spirit against anger. Poverty is a condition. It's not something that has become constant and you can't escape. I have experienced poverty for many years, just like being poor, but when I can't defy it, I give up and endure my old feelings to survive. If you live your life with your eyes wide open, there will always be a chance to escape from the bottom line of life.
When you can't make a remittance, you can't help it. It's true that children grow up without parents. I don't know what kind of work they do as a temporary worker, but they work twice or three times as much as people by working hard at everything, even at 3k. It's too shallow to just die and run away from your child's dependents.
Poor people can relax if the situation changes by putting in a reasonable amount of effort. If you do your best with good intentions, you will surely be able to seize the chance that your destiny will open up.

The name of the Buddha seems to be left alone, but the one that is not left alone is Buddha. Please visit a nearby temple every day before you go to work, and then work hard. You will soon be able to open the way if you are guided.

I understand your concerns. What are you doing that doesn't work. A pessimistic view of the world that there is no choice but to live like this. It's painful. However, I feel a huge contradiction. They say they want to die while saying they won't let me meet because of their child. If anything were to happen to you, imagine how sad the three children left behind would be. Alleviating your pain now will cause a great source of sadness for your child. How much heartbreak do you think I'll be in the future? So, you should never die for your child. Don't you have to survive to fulfill your duties as a father? Also, will it be easier to die? It might seem like a liberation of mind for you right now. The soul is immortal. They are reincarnating and turning into death. You will accumulate major regrets and major causes of interrupting your life along the way. I don't know if it's next or what's ahead, but I have to carry that baggage on my back and live. If you don't like it, will you stop again? Or will they survive well this time around? It's up to you. I won't let them meet because I don't have any remittances about work. I would like to express my sympathy. There are times when you can't earn money depending on your job. Why don't you sincerely apologize to your former wife, talk about the facts, and let them meet? When I read your sentence, they say that if you don't send a remittance, you won't be able to meet them anyway, but can't you honestly expose yourself, apologize to the fullest in your life now, and ask for forgiveness? It concludes by denying and denying my life and the environment around me, that it's no good anyway. They push themselves in, so they don't do anything, can't do anything. That's not the case, and if you don't have any money, think about ways to make money. If you want to meet your child, think about a way to meet them. The sunrise spills through the trees in a completely dark forest with no sunlight. A clear day will surely come. I'll do something about it! I think it's okay!! It's okay if it's a lie, so keep on saying it. Over time, you'll somehow change to who you are. I thought I had been scammed for a year, and that's fine!! If you don't mind, keep saying that. If things don't go well after 1 year, please contact us directly. We will be happy to discuss any number of questions. I'm rooting for you. Jokoji P.S. I read your reply and patted it down my chest. Please come back to consult with us at any time. You can also consult directly with the temple.

　Up to this point, various monks have answered you, so I won't go further. However, it bothers me that you are lonely. Don't be lonely and get out on the town first. Also, try to find a community where you can get involved with people as much as possible. Money doesn't come all the way, but people always come. If it's a temple, I think there are various places in the area where you live, such as zazen-kai, shakyo-kai, etc.
Loneliness is more cruel the longer it continues. The first step to getting out of poverty is getting out of loneliness. Also, please talk to me about anything. Also, we look forward to receiving your questions.