About the death of a friend

Kaori

You still have strong feelings for your best friend who passed away about 20 years ago.

You might think it's unscrupulous, but I was even envious of my friend who seemed that much.
If 20 years after I left this world, would I have a friend who would care this much for me? Honestly, I'm not confident.

In response to the sense of happiness she got from her friend, Ori-san is accepting that she couldn't give anything back.
I think the regret of not being able to help them is expressed as “returning the favor with revenge,” but I don't think Kaori took her friend's life.

Apart from being sad, if you feel at a disadvantage, your friend is probably feeling sad.
Just as Kaori received a sense of happiness from her friend, I think her friend also had a sense of happiness.

In my denomination, I think that every person who died became a Buddha without exception, went to a world (pure land) without trouble and suffering, and watched over us.
The Buddha is thinking about our happiness. What's more, the Buddha was bound by such a strong friendship, so is there anything you don't wish for Kaori's happiness?
I believe that they want to have the happiness they didn't get, and that's what they hoped for.

Summer is coming soon. Do you have any memories of this season?
But why don't you spend a bright, sunny summer believing that your friends are watching over you this summer?

A friend of mine disappeared at a young age. I couldn't do anything for that friend.
You seem to be struggling with that kind of thought.
I think the regret of not being able to do anything for them is very heavy.

You're expressing the thought that you “returned the favor with revenge.”
The shock you received was huge, and I imagine that you are holding on to painful feelings.

The sense of loss of losing an important friend is something you can't overcome even if you try to overcome it easily.
But doesn't that friend want you to be happy?

The teachings of the Jodo Shinshu sect have something called “the return of the minister”.

Those who died were born in Amida's Pure Land, became Buddhas, and do their best to teach and guide us.
I think the wish of a friend who has become a Buddha (Buddha) like that is for you to be saved.

Your friend has made a wish for you.
What is that wish?
Put your hands on the Buddha and think about it.

I think your path will open up from there.

Kaori-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is a humble answer to the question.

An important person who feels a deep spiritual connection with each other is called a “soul mate,” and I think that friend was an irreplaceable “soul mate” for Kaori.

The pain of parting ways with loved ones, loved ones, and irreplaceable people... this is one of the Eight Struggles, I call it “Aibetsu Farewell.”

There is an “anecdote to Kisah Gautamy” as one of Shakyamuni's good, clever, and convenient acts of dealing with “Aibetsu Farewell.” It is an admonition to the suffering of a mother who lost her beloved child, and in this anecdote, it is thought that Shakyamuni made Gautamy realize that those who are born always die, and that parting ways due to death etc. are inevitable no matter how lovable and irreplaceable, and gave him an opportunity to notice that various acts are impermanent and that various laws are selfless.

Kaori also knows that it is important to first firmly accept the reality of breaking up with a friend, and also to firmly accept the reality of regret and sorrow. Please take this opportunity, which was confided in “Hasunoha,” and once again suffer through your regrets and sorrows as a break. Try crying and shouting unexpectedly and let out those feelings and emotions. It doesn't matter if someone who can support Kaori now is close to you, and it's also good if it's a place where you can be completely alone.

Furthermore, I think it would be a good idea to pray for that friend's soul and go on a memorial service trip. For example, after setting a goal, how about going around Shikoku pilgrimage pilgrimage or praying for red seals. Please take this opportunity to pray for the souls of your friends to each principal Buddha.

Also, I would like you to tell me about Kaori's feelings and feelings when she accepted this humble proposal and completed this break, and also tell me in this “Hasunoha.”

One more thing, your friend also has the spirit of surviving to the fullest, and I have a humble feeling that having a happy time will also be a big memorial service for your friend. Please, Kaori, please cherish Kaori's life even more.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

The fact that you are happy now also rewards the souls of friends who have passed away.
When you're in this world thinking about your deceased friend,
Since it will be a memorial service for a friend who has passed away, I recommend that you give your thoughts with a good feeling of positivity.
Therefore, I want you to be happy and do what you think for your friend's memorial service with a positive feeling.

This isn't a story about natural providence,

The sun is always shining down its blessings.
People who really know its benefits respect, are familiar with, and respect the Sun as “the Sun” and “Otendo-sama.” This is because I know deeply how I am supported by the sun, and I have a sense of gratitude that says “I am grateful.”

The moon is not often looked at during the daytime, but when it becomes a star that pours light into the dark night, it becomes a “moon” that people who are afraid of the dark are thankful for.

Let's say that friend who died was the Sun.
Let's say you are the moon illuminated by that friend's sunshine.

That friend poured a blessed light on you and illuminated you, so for you, it's not just the sun, but a thankful “sun.”

On the moon illuminated by the sun, you are still shining in the light you received (illuminated) from your friends.

However, unfortunately, you still haven't become “like” the moon.
This is because you haven't shed enough light on someone yet.

You must have felt comfortable being with that person.
Being with that person would have opened my heart.
You should be aware that you are fully illuminated by the blessings of your friends.
Not only do you enjoy the light you were saved by yourself, but you are also looking around at the people you meet.
That light
・It's OK to smile
・It's OK to use kind words
・Helping
・Don't get angry
・I'll listen to you
... etc. Anything that made you feel comfortable when you were with your friends is fine.

“It is an act where both myself and my partner benefit (benefit) the mind, and this is an act of altruism.

By continuing this act of benefiting and illuminating someone like this, as an act of returning the favor and repaying, you will go from the moon to the “moon.”

It really stands shoulder to shoulder with the friend you loved, is a memorial service for thanksgiving, and a law for you and your best friend to walk in this world forever.

Starting today, be sure to put it into practice every day.
It's about making someone feel as comfortable as a friend did for you.
I'm sure the friend in your heart will smile at you.

To Kaori

Memories with friends are a lifetime treasure.
Your presence makes me think this way even after you pass away.
Your friends will be delighted.
Please take good care of that treasure.
When something suddenly reminds me of my friend
Put your hands together.
That is the best memorial service.

I'm not the only one who is happy anymore.
Please be happy with that friend.
Please be more and more happy, have lots of fun and laugh.
I'm sure your friends want it too. Gassho