hasunoha

The meaning of living

My husband and I were widowed 13 years ago and have no children.
It's a qualified job, so I managed not to have trouble with work even after my bereavement
I'm 50 years old, and in my future where I'm only getting old
I don't have any hope. Even if I get a job, it's still 10 more years.
I wonder what will happen to me after that.
Repeated waking up in the morning, going to work, coming home, eating, and sleeping.
Of course, there are things I like and enjoy, so I changed my mind
I don't have a meaning for my existence or a purpose for living.
It's just that, somehow, I'm living a vague, carefree self.
My parents have already passed away, and I have one younger brother who is single at a distance.
My mother passed away when she was a little over 60, and so was I.
There are times when I wonder if I'm going to die.
It would be nice if a new family could have one, but so well
I can't go.
There is probably a meaning that I was born, but that meaning
I don't understand something.
Why did I end up living this life?

4 Zen Responses

Live in the present

I turn fifty and look back on my life.
I feel uneasy about the future, and when I think again about the meaning of living, I don't really understand the meaning.

That's how it feels.

Actually, I'm a similar age, and although there are differences in circumstances, I think I feel very similar things.

What are you born for and what do you do to live
I hate not being able to answer that!
By living in the present, a hot heart burns
That's why you go smile.

Do you know these lyrics?
This is a verse from “Anpanman's March.”
It's a song aimed at children, and I think there are things in it that we can understand as we get older.

first 2 lines
What were you born for and what do you do in your life/ I don't like not being able to answer!

Isn't this exactly what we think?

Next 2 lines
Living in the present ignites a passionate heart/so you're going, smile.
It can probably be said that this is the solution.

The path we have taken in life up until now has not been in vain.
Along the way, I have met various relationships with each person, and experienced many things.
There is nothing that we have done that is meaningless, even if anxiety accompanies our future life.

That probably means “living in the present.”

We can't help but feel all kinds of anxiety.
However, if you focus on “living in the present,” worrying may seem like an unnecessary worry.

Even if you regret your past, you can't take it back, but now will decide your future.

Why don't you focus your mind on the “now”?

This is something I've been telling myself.
They both feel that they want to cherish the “now.”

You decide your own outline

Hello, she.

“I don't have a meaning for my existence or a purpose for living.
It's just that, somehow, I'm living a vague, carefree self.”
You've summarized her life in a few lines, but if you look at what's inside, it must have been a life I couldn't imagine at all. The person who said 50 years of life was a long time ago, but our lives are moving forward.

And there must have been various eras. When I had no memories, when I was a child, when I was a wife, when I was alone.
It can also be said that she each had a variety of faces.

“There is probably a meaning that I was born, and that means
I don't understand something.
Why did I end up living this life?”
I think there is a “meaning I was born” in the fact that I have many faces.
Various faces are the outlines of oneself and the very meaning of one's existence.
Master Todo is talking about “now,” and it's close.
What kind of things do you do, and how do you feel happy or sad? I looked back on the past and wrote the first generation, and tried new things by thinking about the future. It's an act of “now.” Doing nothing is also an act.
For example, don't you think “happiness” is something you decide for yourself? It may be an extreme argument, but if you think you're happy, be happy. If you think you're unhappy, you're unhappy.
However, happiness and unhappiness that cannot be understood by oneself are probably not real.

One person is lonely. It is often said that humans are social animals. ... I remember being surprised, scared, and quickly running down the mountain when I noticed silence alone in the mountains. I wanted to quickly get away from the fear of being alone.

You decide for yourself what kind of person you are and what kind of life you are.
She seems to understand that “there is a meaning that I was born.” However, since something didn't make sense, “I don't know what it is.”
I think everyone lives by deceiving their vague anxiety with something. Work, housework, TV, etc. But she is simply amazing looking at it.

It's a joke made by a young two-year-old who isn't even 30, but I think it's certainly not the kind of life she thinks.

If there is a meaning to life, then there is no point in living

She-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is a humble answer to the question.

If “there is a meaning to live (as an entity),” it could already mean that “everything has meaning, and is determined by it and determined by it and destined for destiny,” and then it will be the same no matter how you live, what you do, and in the end, it may end up being meaningless.

However, if “there is no meaning,” you will fall into emptiness and pessimism, and for example, it is the same as thinking “after death, everything will eventually be nothing, so there is no point in living no matter what,” and adverse effects will come out.

Also, since “meaning” is nothing more than a very vague thing that is influenced by relative conceptual judgments and values, it is unavoidable to get caught up too much, but it is also a definite fact that we cannot move forward easily if we don't always set a meaning, meaning, or purpose and have motivation.

Now, meaning, meaning, and purpose are not “there” or “none” at all as an entity; they are made up of various “relationships.” Of course, the future of She-sama can also be decided in any way, depending on the “relationship.”

Right now, due to a vague sense of loneliness, anxiety, worry, and melancholy about the future, I think there is no meaning of being born or living, and I'm guessing that I'm depressed. Since they have a partner, child, or family, it is not always possible to obtain a meaning, meaning, or purpose that satisfies them, but of course, depending on the “relationship” in the future, she can also get a partner or child (stepchild, adopted child, foster child, etc.), and depending on her ambition, she may also gain a sense of purpose in life by nurturing a successor to work or endeavors, and furthermore, it is also possible that volunteering, service, and charitable activities can be rewarding as altruistic activities. As a suggestion from a Buddhist standpoint, how about, for example, being able to accumulate good virtue by being useful to others?

I would be very happy if you could take this opportunity to consider the good deeds of gratitude and reward for being supported, helped, and kept alive in various ways until now, as a memorial service for her late husband, deceased parents, and even for her own descendants.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

Lady she. I'm living now to find it.

The meaning of living, the meaning of being alive.

I'm living in the present to find it.
Even with “a simple repetition of life every day...”, there is a big difference between whether you notice this or not.
Being alive itself has a huge meaning.

I don't need complicated theories.
Please think carefully about how thankful you are to be alive.