Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Reading hasunoha's questions and answers, and I feel sad.

(From the Editorial Department. (Some details have been corrected) Nice to meet you. As always, thank you to all the monks who respond. When I have time, I read all the questions and answers together. It's a learning experience. Now that I've read the questions and answers, there's one...

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Would you be unhappy without your ancestors?

I didn't go back to my parent's family register when I got divorced. I thought I'd put my child in my family register from my ex-husband's family register, but someone I know advised me that I should definitely stop doing it. I say that since I created a new family register, I am separated from...

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Choosing a sect when studying Buddhism

　When I reviewed my innate personality and behavior using age 30 as a separator, I recognized my own weakness of heart, weakness, and greed. In particular, I'm really disgusted by the strong desire for approval and jealousy. When I thought that I would continue to walk through a life...

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I failed to give a gift

I failed with my gift and I'm depressed. I would appreciate your advice. In order to leave work, I prepared sweets for everyone on the floor, and among them, I also gave them a small one to the person who took over the work I should have done (it's the same bag when viewed from the...

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I weighed my money and pride and became miserable

I wrote it in a question quite a while ago, but from an objective point of view, I grew up in a pretty poor family environment, and I keep telling myself that even if I had a family, I couldn't (can't) be happy, and even if that were the case, I would die soon anyway, until now. There are only...

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Relationship shears

Currently, only women work in small workplaces. Recently, getting caught between manager A and colleague B is so troublesome that I can't help it. Manager A is the youngest in the workplace, has a high level of pride, and is a theorist, and can't stand up for it. Also, although colleague B...

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I can't quit smoking

I am suffering from not being able to quit smoking. I couldn't stand it, and I've been smoking almost every day for 17 years. Every day I know the fear of substance dependency and at the same time I know my own foolishness. I also went to a smoking cessation outpatient clinic, but it didn't go...

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I'm alone.

I finished working the night shift at a dementia care facility today. Recently, there is a female staff member who joined halfway, but they haven't greeted me. I said it to someone in a higher position than me, but they said hello back and forth. I'm also middle-aged, so there's no way I'll...

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I feel like my work is being dried

Nice to meet you. Thank you for your support. I'm a budding toy illustrator. There is a business partner I've been working with for a reasonably long time, but I feel like things have been getting interrupted recently. ・Replies are slow ・If I don't contact you from here, I won't get a...

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temperature difference

Are there no exchanges between regular employees and temporary employees? The job of temporary workers is to follow up with regular employees. I can only think of it as a tool that can be conveniently used and truncated. A female new employee from Indonesia is going to do my job. I made a...

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It's been painful and painful since I became mentally ill, I want to feel better

Currently, he is a man who is about to reach adulthood. I graduated from high school when I turned 18, and from the time I became a vocational student, I developed depression and anxiety disorder due to the new environment, anxiety about the future, discrimination from teachers, lack of friends,...

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The human stain part

Is it OK if I don't like people? Because they say bad things I'm not saying

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Why do we go to heaven if we do good deeds?

Who decided that? You can go to heaven even if you do something bad, right?

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About memorial services when there is no Buddhist altar

I recently built a new house, and the Buddhist altar is still in my husband's parents' house. My husband and I both go to visit graves a few times a year, but we want a space where we can pray at home, so we place a chabu-stand in the corner of our Japanese-style room, place pictures of my...

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Motivation to live

I'm always indebted to you We will discuss marriage hunting and life I grew up in a slightly dysfunctional family, My siblings are all single, and my younger brother is unemployed and at his parents' house because he can't go out into society. I've seen siblings who often cause...

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What is a human being? I'm scared, please help!

I'm very sorry for the quick response. Sorry, I still can't believe humans. ＊ Looking back on past events, isn't life “war, killing each other between humans” after all? It's painful to be caught up in that thought. How do you let your opponent catch their guard down and slip through...

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It makes me think I wish I hadn't given birth to children.

I am currently living with my 19 year old husband and child (6 months). When I found out I was pregnant, my husband and everyone around me opposed it. There wasn't a single person who was happy. I am the only one who will definitely give birth. I decided and didn't bend it. But after...

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Do you have any recommended Buddhist stories?

Good evening I don't believe in any particular religion, but I was in high school, college, and Christian school. There were only things I wanted to learn at that school, so I didn't go there because I wanted to learn Christianity. However, when I was in high school, the teacher who was in...

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Why is it painful to feel guilty about playing?

Even if I think I'm playing, work and future worries are always in the corner of my head, and I can't really enjoy playing. When playing, I think that if you play briskly, you'll be sharper and be able to work, but I haven't been able to enjoy it from the bottom of my heart. Life is short,...

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I want to be a person who doesn't complain, complain, or speak ill of others

Good evening. I will be working as a member of society starting next year. I usually try not to complain, complain, or speak ill of others. I don't want to be a person who doesn't talk negatively at all, and I don't want to be someone who just laments that nothing can be done. However, when my...

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