Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

My future with my married boyfriend

I have a boyfriend who is more than one year older, and he is married and has two small children. The marital relationship has broken down, there is almost no business conversation, and it seems that they are being told to have a relationship outside. However, it seems that they won't get...

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Claims after the third anniversary

The memorial service for the 3rd anniversary was held at home, and an offering of 10,000 yen, a car fee of 5,000 yen, and a meal of 5,000 yen was given to the monk. On the night of that day, I was later billed that 20,000 yen was not enough for the donation. Is that normal? Originally, I...

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How to deal with resentment and hate that won't go away

I was in a relationship with someone from within the company at my previous job, but when I retired, my relationship with the company wasn't good, and we were forced to break up. In order to maintain secrecy, they are made to sign a pledge if they come into contact with them and take legal...

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It doesn't work well with people on social media

I'm sorry for the social media relationships, but please let me talk to you. I often feel bad about the internet. even though they want to make promises with just words and not attitudes I don't like every promise because of how many people break it. I've come to trust people who show and...

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Even though I have a boyfriend, I found someone I like.

I have a boyfriend who is three years older. They were introduced to each other's parents, got rings, and little by little they just started preparing for marriage. He is kind to me and he is a serious person. However, there is one point he just can't forgive. He abuses animals. Shoot...

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I've started keeping puppies, but...

I recently started raising a new puppy at home. It's so cute anymore that I can't focus on what I need to do. I've owned dogs before, but this is probably the first time I've thought they were this cute. Of course, there are times when discipline and care are necessary, but even more than...

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children's college

My kids finished their college entrance exams this spring. The result was that students passed from all 5 schools that took it. In particular, I passed school A, which is said to be the most difficult, for active duty, and all my relatives were delighted. At last, A college student was born from...

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Damage from foreign travelers

I would like to consult with you for the first time. When my family kindly guided a white English man who was able to travel to Japan, I was sexually victimized outdoors. The family that was an English traveler and could never forgive the sex offender as a family member of the victim, and the...

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The attitude of wanting to do anything

　I heard the phrase “the other power petition” in a sermon at a memorial service the other day. At the same time that I thought it was a very appreciated way of thinking, there were also things that didn't make sense. Perhaps because of modern people, the idea that “the results obtained by...

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On denying people who have committed suicide

I don't like people who commit suicide. I hate it. I committed suicide because my heart was weak, and even if I committed suicide, I would just go to hell and suffer, and so on. And at the same time, I also know that this way of thinking is inappropriate. This is because this way of thinking...

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Who uses souls?

Previously, I've heard that the Meditation of Peace in the Dharma seat is not appropriate because it is a dark world. To people who started crying while watching TV, the announcer always said, “I pray for your soul.” I feel a sense of incongruity every time. I've lost a relative, so it feels...

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Relationship with mother

Thank you very much as always. While having various worries I am a key person for my elderly real mother. They are entering the facility Me since about 10 years ago They treat them as thieves. It's also because the sisters imprinted on the fact that their mother, who became depressed due to...

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The ossuary of a stillborn child

I have a child who was stillborn 2 years ago due to surrogacy. I didn't feel like burying my ashes right away, so I bought a Buddhist altar and kept it close at hand. My husband's grandmother passed away the other day. Names are engraved on tombstones in the order in which they died, so...

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guilt

Nice to meet you and thank you for your support. I've been living for over 30 years until now, and when I stop and look back, I feel like I've made a mistake with everything I've done. I think there was an act that hurt people, didn't have kindness, judged people by wearing colored glasses,...

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About denominations and graves

My father-in-law bought a grave a few years ago. It was close to my parents' house and had a very good view. My father-in-law is the youngest child, so we split up. The family is from the Tendai sect, but it seems that the tomb they bought is from the Nichiren sect. They say that the funeral...

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What is a human being?

Humans are a mass of greed A serious person Good people lose Greedy people seem to be happy I also have worries if these guys aren't judged I also want to live my life with greed I think What is the affliction of this world? Happiness when you let go of...

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How do you quickly give up on things you shouldn't want?

　I have been helped by many sincere responses from everyone, and I feel that little by little, I am now able to understand and practice ways to eliminate emotional suffering. I really appreciate it. I'm sorry that I'm being too spoiled by everyone's kindness, but I'd like to talk to you...

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What does it mean to take care of yourself?

I was told to take care of myself. What exactly should I do to take care of myself? If you work by listening to what your boss says that it's better not to do anything that makes your position worse, and that it's also important to break things off, Being blamed for “working for...

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Also, how hard should I try?

Good evening. I became a member of society in April of this year, and I am currently in my 3rd month at the company. I was officially assigned from June, and a little over a week has passed since I entered the site. From 3 weeks before I was assigned, I often left breakfast because I felt...

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About death

I have a question about death. For me now, death seems to be the source of hard work now, when even tomorrow is immeasurable, precisely because it is a destination where we will always end up. Whereas when I was in elementary school, I always thought I didn't want to die, but when I was in...

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