Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

I took over the temple, but I don't want to do any more

I am single in my late 30s and am the chief priest of a local rural temple. Originally, I had disposable jobs such as part-time jobs and contracts, but due to various things, I wasn't good at socializing with people, etc., so I couldn't get any of them. At that time, my parents, who are the...

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There are so many things I want to do.

I am currently working as a financial and insurance foreign employee. I thought there was no need to post this kind of trouble, but I'm afraid I'll post it. Originally, I liked Japanese history and culture, so I went on to the Department of History in the Faculty of Letters at university and...

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I don't know my life guidelines

I'm really messed up and selfish, but I'm aware that it's disrespectful to everyone who has been struggling for the past year and is doing their best to live. From an objective point of view, I grew up very blessed with a family environment, financial aspects, and relationships. People around me...

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Ex-girlfriend who cheated on her just by using it

She had an affair with a doctor in her 30s after being in a relationship for 4 years since high school. I was faintly aware that I wasn't attractive and that my values didn't match, but even so, I made an effort. However, in the end, she broke up by telling false lies and using only her own...

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There is no way to save humans

There's no doubt that people don't like it. If they don't get caught, they don't mind speaking backwards or badmouthing, and it's disgusting that there are so many people who don't understand people's feelings even a millimeter. Regardless of whether it is domestically or globally, I can't find...

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How to protect ourselves from spiritual things

I've been really suffering since 2 years ago. Please help.

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The sermon I received during the memorial service is stuck

The other day, I went back home for the New Year memorial service, and the sermon I received there is still stuck. That sermon has contents such as “it's unfortunate to end up with family burial” and “relatives' arrogance,” (Are you trying to forget it?) I don't remember even the details, but I...

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nothing works

I don't know what I really want to do. I studied hard, exercised, and passed the first exam because I wanted to become a police officer, but I was born with a nervous system disorder, and I failed in the final pass. From there, it became like burnout, and I gave up being a police officer and...

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I don't feel safe in a disconnected family.

I'm indebted to you. I am always saved by your warm answers. Thank you very much. I'm sorry for the same consultation as before. It's painful every day to think about when I was a kid that I had strangely never had in my memory until now. I'm grateful to my mom and dad. Everyone in my...

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Shugoshaku

It is said that people are reborn when they die, but since they don't have any memories of their previous lives, they'll be different people in the next life, right? If that were the case, would I die in this world? Also, it is said that every person always has a guardian spirit, but who exactly...

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Is religion something that can be forced upon us!

I became close friends with a monk who is active on SNS, and at first they took a free consultation, then we talked on the line, and it's been close to half a year now. At first, they were kind enough to discuss my concerns, so it was helpful. progressively I was able to buy bracelets that...

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Is it alive

Are humans really alive?

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How to capture well-balanced obsessions

From the viewpoint of barrier-free society, “independence means increasing the number of dependents.” Psychology also advocates creating environments and people that serve as safety bases for attachment and going on adventures from there, and creating multiple bases you can rely on in times of...

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I want to be free from feelings of unfairness in the workplace

I am an office worker, and just recently I took a leave of absence due to depression due to overwork. Currently, I have returned to work and have been able to work without problems, but I am constantly tormented by a sense of unfairness. Even though I work so much that I can only take 3 days off...

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I can't stop having an affair. I'm scared. but...

I had an affair with a man two years older (married, 3 children) for about 4 months. I bargained and apologized to my wife a month ago, stamped a settlement to not get involved in the future, and paid alimony. But I couldn't stop it. I received messages from him that worried me, and invited me...

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I can't forgive myself

The content will be the same as before. Even though I had no experience with women, I went into a sex industry. I can't forgive myself for that, and I keep blaming myself forever. I can't separate it from the past, and I curse myself. I'm tormented by awareness and regret that I've done the...

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How to live after values have collapsed

I'm indebted to you. After using Hasunoha for the first time, I felt much easier, and I was able to learn that “there are people you can trust” and “even if you don't like all people, you should believe in the Buddha.” Thank you so much. Currently, I'm depressed and unemployed. I can't tell...

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I can't fill my loneliness

I asked you a question the other day too. The guy I'm in a relationship with now is 1 year older, has a divorce history, and his former wife also has children. Previously, I asked him if I should ask him the reason for his divorce. Now our relationship with each other has deepened, and we...

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I want you to teach me how to train my mind and Buddhist tips.

I saw the monks' answers on hasunoha, and I realized that I hadn't trained my mind until now. There are a lot of heavy things in life, and I think I've been treated as someone I can rely on no matter what, and I've been mentally trained myself. (I grew up watching a hysterical mother whose mood...

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My way of thinking about relationships

I'm worried about my own relationships. When I'm talking to my friends, my friends talk about their worries, stories, and complaints to me and other friends. I'm a friend, so of course I listen to them, but conversely, when I talk to them about my concerns, complaints, and consultations, they...

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