Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Instead of forgiving my husband to cheat on me, I cheated

My husband and I are in our late 20s, have been married for 3 years and have no children, but our marital relationship is going well. My husband often travels overseas at work, and he often has physical relationships with local women. My husband said it's a man's physiological phenomenon, so it...

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Things to do before you die

A lot of things happened and I decided to die. So the question is, what should I do before I die? There is also a feeling that I want to leave something to my family, but I also have a feeling that I want to erase everything about myself from this world. What should I do? I haven't decided...

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About monasticity

I've been saying it on TV since yesterday, but it looks like actress Shimizu Fumika will become a priest, but can anyone become a priest easily ❓

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About “Spider's Web”

The work “Spider's Thread” by Ryunosuke Akutagawa has been able to be interpreted in various ways since ancient times, and I've always been curious. When I first read it (when I was a kid) ① Kandata is Moka, I thought I would join forces with everyone and reach paradise together A little...

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What is a funeral for the chief priest

I think this is a very rude question, but I appreciate your understanding. I have been working in the service industry for a long time. Over the past 5 years, my two grandmothers, my uncle, my mother, and my husband's best friend passed away, and I attended the funeral each time. There were...

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Sutras

That's rude, sorry. Originally, I'm not religious, but recently, I've been trying to memorize the Heart Sutra little by little. Until now, I've heard monks and friends say it, but somehow I've been listening without interest. But when I try to memorize the Heart Sutra this time, it's hard to...

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If you join the Buddhist sect, are you called a monk even if you don't keep the precepts

I was watching Taiga dramas from the Sengoku period. After Oda Nobunaga burned down Mt. Hiei, Nobunaga lashed out at Nobunaga, saying it was ridiculous for Nobunaga's wife to kill so many monks. However, Nobunaga said, “The monks on Mount Hiei hold women so much that they drink alcohol and live...

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I don't know what to do with this temple.

I can't decide what to do about the renovation of the temples involved. The roof tiles fell due to strong winds and the branches of giant trees in the precincts. When I was asked to take that opportunity to investigate the roof of the main hall, etc., it was said that it was generally...

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I want to seize the sky

When I was thinking about the sky, my head became a mess and I didn't know what was what. Everything is the same, or it's empty rather than nothing, what luck is, surrender to nature, cherish your daily life, don't be sensible... Please tell me in a nutshell what is most important Is letting...

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I ended up here because I wanted help

I'm busy with work every day, and I don't have time for myself. Day after day, I'm chased by work, work reluctantly even in my dreams, get scolded, and cornered by having nightmares over and over. I don't have a single friend to go out to play with, and no one close to me to talk to. I hit my...

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Can I become a monk at home?

I have studied Buddhism in depth, and I want to become a monk in the future. However, I'm an ordinary student, and that doesn't mean that my parents' house or relatives are temples. Incidentally, my family's sect is the Jodo sect. Can I still become a monk? Also, which university should I go to...

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I can't love myself

I don't like myself. I can't take good care of myself or praise my hard work. I always deny myself, saying that I can only do this level or that I haven't been able to work hard at anything. That's why I always try to get love from others. I want to stop being like this. What should I do to be...

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I'm not talking

The other day, I gave it to my monk because they told me that they didn't have the courage to talk about my family and that they didn't want to talk about it again, so I gave it to my monk. I wish I hadn't talked about it to the point of being ignored. I never tell anyone the truth or my...

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Obsessions, Annoyances, and Distractions

Disastrous wars are always happening on the other side of the world Even if a monk's loved one is killed right in front of him, it's obsession, annoyance, distractions, and abandonment Can you attain enlightenment and become a state of nothlessness?

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Set a deadline for suicide (previous life penalty?)

I discussed it on this site last summer. It's worth consulting... or rather, a declaration, but I would be happy if you read it through. The reason I'm suffering from my illness right now is Is it a penalty for committing a crime in a previous life? I have fought against diseases...

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Should we have children or depraved

29 year old girl. I've been married for 3 and a half years. I'm currently in my 7th week of pregnancy. Right after my pregnancy was discovered, my husband had an affair and they suddenly said, “I don't love you anymore, so get divorced.” My husband says he will pay alimony and child...

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I'm afraid of future technology and can't think of anything else.

I was terribly frightened by stories about AI, VR, AR, Android, etc., and felt bleak, and couldn't handle anything else. Recently, I feel like there is so much talk about future technology on TV shows, the internet, and books. Maybe it's easy to catch my eye because I'm concerned about it....

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I don't want to be the woman my husband wants

We've been married for 9 years. There was a big gap between the “wife I want to love” my husband wants and the “good wife” I think. The “good wife” I had in mind is as follows. ・Do your best at housework, childcare, and work. ・I'm always smiling. ・Be sure to say hello. ・Speak softly without...

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What is happiness

I'm a 31-year-old single woman. I recently got a boyfriend who is 6 years younger. He's not really cool, but he's a person who has a lot of things I don't have. They took a proactive approach from me, and the relationship started in the form of “if that's fine with me.” Even though I'm really...

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Is hell a scary place?

What exactly is going to happen in hell? I heard about the Eight Great Hell's, and I'm curious about what kind of place these Eight Great Hell are Do misdeeds turn any small thing into evil and become hell?

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