Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Will I be on a good path in the future?

I'll be 45 next month, and I've been unemployed for a few months now. Spending time lazily every day like this doesn't add anything, so if I don't work my whole life until old age and live a self-depraved lifestyle every day, I'm sure I'll be regarded as a loser. I really want to work if I can...

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I blame my husband for not feeling compassion for his baby.

We got married this spring and soon had a child. I'm now 18 weeks pregnant. I don't think my husband is really interested in babies. I've never been told that I want to see Echo photos, and I don't read books given to me by public health centers or hospitals for my father to read in...

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Were sutras being read properly?

There was a memorial service on my husband's mother's side the other day, and I attended it for the first time since getting married. Seen from my husband's point of view It was a memorial service for great-grandpa's father, great-grandpa, and great-grandma. The monk who read the sutras was...

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The meaning of living

I don't think my family cares for me. A family is simply called a “tribe,” and I thought they would encourage and help other families when they were struggling. However, in reality, even if I am bullied, I am bombarded with words such as “because you are weak” or “it costs money because you...

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About Marchigake

Sorry for the trivial question. Please tell me about March Gake. It is said that if you go through March, you will have hardships from beginning to end, and it is unlucky, but if you return something in return in August, such as when a child was born on 6/30, will it be March? Even when I...

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I hate my father

Hello, I'm currently an Alassar man, and I still hate my father. My father was a person who didn't comfort me when my friends made me cry when I was a kid and said “it's cowardly to cry,” “I cry because I feel sorry for myself,” etc. My father has a brave personality, and when he was a student,...

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I killed my dog. I can't regret it enough.

My 15 year old pet dog passed away the other day. It's been 7 years since I came to my house, and I kept them outside as a guard dog. I've been bedridden for 8 months, and I've been dealing with it with a dropper because I can't stand on my own or drink water. (I've been taking care of them at...

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Wedding dress for a marriage with a monk

Hello. I'm currently in a relationship with the temple's son (he hasn't taken over the temple yet, but it seems like he'll go to ascetic practice soon and then pour out). It's still a quick story, but if I were to get married, would I be able to wear a wedding dress at the wedding? Wedding...

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I don't know how to come to terms with it.

What is common sense? Currently, I'm working on payroll calculation and attendance management, What I thought was common sense is not common sense for other employees I'm having a lot of trouble communicating. Today, too, I asked a second-year employee (scheduled to retire 8/15) to do...

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Is my fortune determined by something?

Nice to meet you, my name is Tsuchi. I'm not usually very lucky. However, when you have a really important phase in your life or when you have an accident that would be fatal if you make a mistake, etc., it will turn in the right direction as a result, and luckily, you will be unscathed. Is...

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About helping at the temple

It hasn't even been a year since I got married at the temple. I've been there 2.3 times until now, but will I visit the Taise Gakikai next time? I'm going to do it. I think this kind of help will continue to increase, but is it better to bring a souvenir every time? What's better? I'm a...

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I can only express myself by being “frustrated”

I can only express my feelings by being “frustrated.” There's no end to the reasons for my frustration, and my head is always full. I'm nervous, so I get really frustrated when even trivial things don't go the way I want, and whether it's tomorrow or the day after tomorrow, it drags on...

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My mother is asking me to repay my education expenses

My family is a mother and child family, and my mother worked and made me and my sister go to college. After I got a job, I paid for family trips and eating out as a way to return the favor, gave expensive gifts, and of course included living expenses when I was at my parents' house. It was...

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While having a developmental disability that makes it difficult to live

I have developmental disabilities, ASD and ADHD. When I was in elementary school, I was diagnosed with autism, placed in a special needs class, and I have always lived with complexes about being different from those around me. When I was a student, I was bullied and discriminated against for many...

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I don't want to live in my new house and I'm depressed

I have a 5-month-old daughter who lives in Tokyo. My home made me depressed. Please help. Currently, I live in an apartment and there are no elevators, and since climbing and descending stairs with a stroller or daughter is dangerous, I saw about 15 properties when I was 2 months old. I saw...

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About funerals

Nice to meet you. My father passed away in June. It has been about a week since it was discovered due to a lonely death, and it was handed over about a month after a DNA test was performed by the police. It ended in the form of a direct burial, and the ashes were buried in the city's joint...

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men and women

Do friendships between men and women of the opposite sex work? Isn't it possible to have a relationship where hobbies are friends and just fun?

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I'm not sure about my child's name.

I have a daughter who is 2 years old. I wrote my name on my profile. Based on the premise that I don't like sparkling names and names that are hard to read in kanji, as a result of various worries with my wife, I had a flash and liked this name and named it. My wife was also very much in...

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I want to be comfortable

I'm single and working as a temporary worker. I've always thought this world would be difficult, and I couldn't get married because I didn't want to have children. I'm really glad I didn't have children myself. It's difficult for people like this to raise children. My body is tired and painful...

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Trouble with love

I'm 20 years old, and I've never had a boyfriend. There are many times when I feel ashamed that I've never had a boyfriend. In particular, I don't have a dark personality, but I can't get along well with men in the true sense of the word. The upper side can speak in an affectionate...

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