Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Boyfriend pretending to be single

I had a girlfriend that I've been dating for a year. The date of naturalization and cohabitation were decided, and my friends and family were delighted. However, a mutual acquaintance suddenly informed me that “that person is actually married and has 2 children.” He told me that he had been...

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Can I try contacting a man I like?

With the man I had both feelings for kindergarten in July We met again after 18 years and went out to eat We talked while eating shabu-shabu that day I was nervous The man said he wasn't nervous I had them take me home (^^;; We talked for about 30 minutes in the car. (^.^) It was...

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I want to die by taking responsibility that was born

Every day I don't listen to what my children say, it gets worse day by day, and I feel responsible for being born and want to die (I want my children to go away too). My husband (late 40's) and I (late 40's) both work full time The child is an 8-year-old boy alone, but since he wears a uniform...

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I'm sorry for my past mistakes

I have a past where I was a prostitute 4 years ago. It was to pay off debts. My parents' house was poor and I was forced to live alone along with getting a job, but it all started when I didn't have enough money to start living alone and ended up using revolving credit card...

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How to improve your sense of self-affirmation

Since I was little, I was reluctant to build relationships with people around me, and I had a negative image that it was bothersome. I have a few good friends that I can forgive, You can't have broad and shallow contact with anyone, Even if you can do it for as long as you can, I felt...

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I've been scammed, how can I live a positive life?

My mentor and the person I admired for many years was an impostor. Together, my mother and I were defrauded and stolen all of our 70 years' worth of savings. At the time when I wanted to quit the company due to power harassment, it became a story about “let's make a stock management company...

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Family name change due to marriage

I'm thinking about enrolling by the end of the year. As we discuss the future, of course, I'm confused because it seems like they were thinking about going to get married. My boyfriend is my eldest son, and my only older sister is already married. Meanwhile, I'm the second daughter of 2...

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I've been making all the wrong choices

It's a turning point in my life, and in the midst of being forced to make various choices, I always chose the path of failure. It's no one's fault or anything, and even though it's all a path I chose myself, they only take bad lottery I wonder if it's a characteristic I was born...

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What should I do to motivate my mind

When I was betrayed, I was convinced that if my former husband and son were happy, I would go in a good direction, and I thought I would do my best, too, I couldn't see the truth about the behavior of the guy I had been dating recently, I didn't know when he was trying to deceive him, I didn't...

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I'm struggling with my past with a monk

Due to mental pain, I broke up with the monk I was engaged to, and I am still suffering from resentment with nowhere to go. The reason we met was that they saved me when I was suffering from a deep wound. When I met him, he was really kind, and I thought he was like a Buddha. Living at home, I...

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About the “Jodo Sect” and the “Shingon Sect”

Also, thank you for your support. My husband and I have no successors, so Of the “tree burial with permanent memorial service” in the temple grounds The tour has begun. The candidates were narrowed down to two Both are prestigious temples, and I like them both Really, I'm seriously...

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Is the Heart Sutra meaningless in the Jodo Shinshu sect?

It was only recently that I became interested in Buddhism. There was such a painful event, and when I almost became depressed, I happened to watch a program explaining the Heart Sutra on TV, and my heart felt so much lighter. By the way, my family is a member of the Jodo Shinshu sect, and...

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Is he suitable for marriage?

I have a male friend that I made from 2.3 years ago to about 7 years ago, and why don't we go out with that person on the premise of marriage in the future? It is said. We are in a relationship where we can clearly talk about each other's hobbies, values, a sense of security like a family, and...

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I like the Hokke Sutra, but Nembutsu

I became interested in Buddhism because I read an explanation of Buddhism and the Lotus Sutra in a book by a rakugo storyteller Kane. I had supported the Mahayana non-Buddhism theory until then, but reading this person's book changed my mind 180 degrees. However, strangely enough, I didn't...

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Taking care of my mother became stupid

Excuse me for the long post. Every time my mom talks about me to others, it only seems like she's speaking ill of me. From when we originally lived together, they only complained about the housework I did, so I often dared to abandon them. (I was doing basic housework) “I would be depressed if...

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I can't do anything like a human being

I'm indebted to you. I was quite shocked and left feeling overwhelmed, so I asked you to listen to the story and ask for a consultation. First, the seminar isn't right for me. I'm majoring in history, but I feel like I don't have enough ability to do history. There are people who can't exercise...

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I'm troubled by my college son's failure due to his sweetness

This is my son who has been in college for 3 years and lives alone and is doing his best by cooking for himself, doing sports, and strength training. It's like forgetting my house keys at home and contacting me by phone at 23:00 at night and entrusting the solution, something often happens, and...

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The workplace is difficult

I'm worried about a colleague at work. The waves of emotions are intense on a regular basis, and aren't they out of line with common sense? I often do that kind of behavior. For example, when I tell them that I've made a mistake at work, they cry on the spot, and people around me, including...

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Is it wrong to love someone like this?

Nice to meet you. I've had a crush on someone for over ten years. I was self-employed, had a strong sense of self, and had financial and mental leeway... it was a person I admired at the time. Over the next few years, the distance gradually shortened, and I was even told by that person...

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I was dumped when my body wasn't compatible

I'm shocked to be told that they want to break up because their bodies aren't compatible, and I'd like to discuss it with you if you want to change your mind somehow. As for the circumstances, I was surprised to be called out to the place where I was walking about a month ago, but the...

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