Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

How to relate to parents and how to raise a sense of self-affirmation

I'm a working woman in my 20s. From when I was in middle school, I didn't have any confidence in myself, and I began to see only the things I chose and the bad aspects of the place I belonged to, and I began to take a negative view of them. Recently, I've been taking a fresh look at myself,...

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I'm worried to be told a story I was inspired by in my childhood

I went to my grandparents' house the other day and talked with my grandparents and cousins. It was a story about my childhood when I wasn't able to remember myself at that time, and I was told stories about how when I went to graves and temples, I could see spirits (for example, talking about...

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I want to be a stupid person

　This is because people who are silly won't be asked to do anything, because they will make a fool of themselves. This is because they don't get mad at you even if you make a mistake, and they're labeled as bad at asking that guy. But people who are stupid aren't trusted, but they are in...

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I passed over the top of the sacred card

I was collecting trash from employees at work. At that time, it's in a paper bag on the floor I went through with a bag containing trash on top of the sacred card. Instead of straddling each other, the trash bag and arm passed over the sacred card. I don't have a kamidana at work yet, so I...

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I want to like people again.

I haven't had a new love since I broke up with my ex six months ago, with whom I had been in a relationship for many years. Even when I meet a lot of people, I don't think I like them. I only find bad points, and I can't trust them in the first place, and before making decisions like them, I...

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My mental and physical disorder doesn't go away and it's painful

I'm suffering from symptoms such as not being able to get into my head no matter how much I look back at the content of sentences and sounds, and even if I can barely understand them, it takes too long to understand them. I know it's causing trouble to people around me, but I can't improve it by...

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Questions about repentance

　There are a few things I'm worried about about repentance. 1. Is there no point in Seijojin until he repents all his sins (confesses all his mistakes to a monk) and confesses his mistakes, apologies, and makes amends to the world and parties as much as possible? 2. When talking to people or...

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Jodo Shinshu, Soto, Shingon

Excuse me, the title is meant not to be seen by a certain monk. It's a consultation. I'm from home, but I was lucky enough to have mentors and monks. That teacher, monk, and friend told me about the fact that I'm recuperating at home at my parents' house due to mental illness, that I don't...

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cruel and kind grandmother

No matter what, it's getting painful. Actually, I haven't written a thank you to the monk who answered my previous question yet. Before I wrote my best thank you, I experienced unbearable suffering. Thanks for the previous question, please wait. I'm also prepared to scold him. As I've written...

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I want to die even though I don't want to die

It makes me want to die even though I don't want to die Please help I think I'm blessed. There are no problems with my family or school, and I feel that my part-time job is rewarding. I love studying, and I also have hobbies that I can focus on. I'm worried that there are many days when I...

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What will happen with Satoru

It is said that once you have attained enlightenment, you will not be reincarnated, but what will happen? I seem to have regrets about the world.

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My father's life is about to run out

My 76-year-old father's life is about to run out. My father had cancer 4 years ago and has been fighting hard. My father has lived a hard life without complaining about the suffering of anticancer drug treatment. I can't even do anything that seems like filial piety, and I'm just upset...

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About worrying too much about raising children

I have a child who is 4 months old. Thanks to you, I have not had any major illnesses or injuries so far, and I am growing up quickly in good health itself. Even so, I'm always worried and frightened, “What should I do if this child suddenly dies.” Even though I'm just taking a nap, I...

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I asked Mr. P

It's been about 20 years since I met someone (Mr. P). When we met, I was still a student, and Mr. P was an assistant director who was 10 years older. It all started when I came to law class as a comrade (person involved in journalism) of my teacher (lawyer) and took a lecture. I was struck by...

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I just don't know how to ride a motorcycle...

I was told that people are not worth living for. (Actually, I was harassed because various things were said in a more detour.) Why do you think that? Incidentally, I have a driver's license.

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casket taker

This is my first time asking a question. Last week, my beloved grandfather, who lived with me, died of a myocardial infarction at the age of 85. He was a very kind grandfather. I was deeply moved by the work and Buddhism of the casket attendant who cleaned up my grandfather at that...

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What are the differences between Advaita and Buddhism

I recently came across the term Advaita. It seems that it is also called the Fuji Monism, but I felt uncomfortable with being talked about as a “theory.” This is because I recognize that what is said in Advaita is beyond words, and furthermore, it is not teaching, nor is it an idea, etc., and it...

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About my boyfriend's sexual preferences

When my boyfriend wasn't around the other day, when I was watching a video distribution site at his house, I noticed that there is a word (Ryona) in the search history that describes works where women scream in pain or are tortured. I know in my head that it's just two-dimensional fiction, but I...

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I want to get rid of my grandmother's regrets

An acquaintance passed away, and only my grandmother was refused to attend the funeral. My mother is the only one going to attend the funeral. My mother wiped out that one of her acquaintances had never had a grandmother, and that made her angry, and my grandmother told me never to come. My...

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The kindness of people

It's annoying, annoying, and I feel like I'm going crazy. I didn't ask for that, I thought I should stop it, It's frustrating because it's annoying. It's bad for the other person, and when you say thank you for overdoing it It makes me feel like my heart is dead. I would like to receive it...

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