Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Eitai Memorial Tower

Excuse me for being busy during Obon. There is no permanent memorial tower (permanent memorial tomb) at the family temple. If I were to build it, You might be told that it's pinky, On average, how much does it cost to build? I hope there's something I can do, even just a little bit.

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Consultation about years of harm experience

This is a person I have previously discussed with you about the development of a mental illness at a workplace where I worked for about 10 years last year. After that, with the support of a legal agency, the company was followed by a former colleague and officially acknowledged that she had...

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Legalizing euthanasia

Right now, I'm learning about euthanasia. I don't think euthanasia should be legalized. If you become seriously ill and euthanasia is legalized, you may want to euthanasia. But I still don't necessarily die from that illness, I think there is a good possibility that it can be cured from...

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I can't have children due to infertility treatment

Nice to meet you. I'm 37 years old and undergoing infertility treatment. I got married at age 24 and didn't have children easily, and I started infertility treatment at age 27, but even after 10 or more sessions of artificial insemination, I was transferred to the hospital for in vitro...

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I hate psychics.

In the midst of so many questions, I'm sorry for being unhelpful. Rather than psychics in general, I don't like specific psychics. I wasn't told anything by that person, and I was confused when I read that person's remarks on the internet. There is no salvation just by talking about the values...

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Why am I the only one being preached

I work as a part-time worker at a restaurant. I quit my temporary job in November last year, and I wanted to be able to study cooking, so I decided to get hired at an izakaya I had been calling out to. That izakaya sells bento boxes and side dishes during the day, and they also do lunch, and I...

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How to avoid getting angry

I scold my kids every day and they're demons (^◇^;) It also seems like a thug. The child is elementary 1. My mental health hurts and I feel unwell every day. What should I do to avoid scolding? It seems impossible for a calm mother. Can't wait 6 seconds. Anger management etc. are not possible.

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How to deal with abusive language

I'd like advice on how to deal with being yelled at or unreasonably angry. I'm happy to absorb sincere advice, but I'm often thrown at irrelevant personality denials. “You can't do anything!” “Your parents' upbringing was bad, wasn't it?” “Human scum”... etc. It's my fault that I made...

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I'm also worried about changing my child's name. The same kanji for city, town, and village

My second daughter was born in January. It's a different pronunciation, but there are cities, towns, and villages with exactly the same kanji in other prefectures, and I'm worried that it would be better to change the names. It's only been a few months since she was born, and I saw on the...

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Is listening to your problems a hobby?

I have a question. I get people who are worried say, “Because Mr. 00 will listen to me,” and I can listen to the words of people who have been worried until now without denying it, and they say that I'm glad they listened to me when the situation improved, and I'm glad they stayed. Of course,...

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The job of selling bodies

I'm struggling with money right now and I'm doing devotional work. I really didn't like it. Selling my body to someone I met for the first time and getting money... but in order to pay back my debts, I have no choice but to sacrifice myself and work to earn money for my mother's medical expenses,...

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wisdom

Good morning. I came back to my question. Please let me know if you like when you have time to spare. When someone asked me the meaning of wisdom, I quickly explained it to the extent that I understood it in my own way, but I was wondering if that was good, and I wanted to check it out...

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I'm worried because they want to know.

I'm indebted to you. There are people at work who want to know everything. Not only do they want to know, but they also say it to unrelated people, so they don't like it at work (it seems that complaints have come based on that), the person in my department got sick at the beginning of the year,...

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About visiting my father's grave that had been isolated

My father, who had been isolated for over 10 years, died of illness this year. (The reason for the isolation is my father's infidelity) One month before my father passed away, I received an email saying “I want to see you at first sight for the last time”... I couldn't forgive my selfish...

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Don't people pray for salvation in Buddhism

Good evening. I've recently started studying Buddhism, and I'm reading my first Buddhist book. Please let me know if you like in your spare time. As I learned from the story of the monk Hasunoha, I somehow came to understand that Buddhism emphasizes practice, but even so, I was vaguely...

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Please tell me about sifting through choices that will make you happy.

I am the daughter of the temple. I live at my parents' temple with my grandfather, who has severe dementia, my older sister who has an intellectual disability, and parents in their 70s. Once, there was someone who said that my son-in-law would take over the temple, and we got engaged. However,...

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I quit right away even though I became a full-time employee at 30 years old NEET

At age 30, I felt impatient with NEET for 7 years and started thinking about it, but I quit the company I joined as a full-time employee in a week. Once I left this job, I couldn't go home for about 2 months. If I think about it until now, I feel like my life has just been frustrated High...

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Please give me some advice about the world after death.

I am an HSP (highly sensitive) person, and although I can't see spirits, I can easily feel the detailed emotions of humans and the feelings of animals, and I also feel the aura of plants and the atmosphere. I'm interested in things I can't see, and I often think about the world after death, but...

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I went back to the world of the night until this age, but...

I'm always indebted to you. I've been doing double work since this month. After 10 years of working at night, I went back to the water business. The number one reason for this was to rebuild my current life with Usagi Kaku. Among them, since they are older, there are risks... I became an...

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When I talk, the air in the place gets bad for some reason

It's been a while since I had a consultation. While going to a facility for people with disabilities, the new users were probably out of the rules, so I told them, “This is how we do it here.” After that, I started small talk with the staff, like I remembered something I had just been careful...

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