Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

The Affair on My Husband's Heart

A couple in their 30s have a 3-year-old child. My husband keeps in touch with his former female colleague every day. My partner is the same age and single. There was a time when my husband suddenly became strong against me and my kids, and I thought it was strange and ended up looking at my...

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I don't think it's worth living

I don't think I'm worth living. My parents spent money on me, and they sent me to a reasonably good university, but I couldn't get used to it well and it hurt my body. I graduated, but I failed in job hunting. I haven't been able to get along well with people since I was little. I was...

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I want to know the meaning of Hatsubon in an easy-to-understand manner

I'm indebted to you. My first Obon festival since my husband passed away. I still haven't been able to reverse or sort out my feelings... I still can't put my hands together in front of a Buddhist altar... I still can't talk to a portrait. It's a custom of decorating lanterns, etc... I'm...

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How would you live if you had opposing dualities?

Excuse me for the question. Also, I wanted to hear from someone different from my own. While I usually seek what is called normal happiness, such as being able to live my usual daily life and life with stable thinking, Internally, I also want to do something unique because it...

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if someone you don't know kills you

Should I forgive someone I don't know if they kill me? Or should we forgive that person if they almost get killed and become disabled? People's grievances are amplified the longer they are in a group. The risk of crime also increases. Japan is no exception. When did someone hold a grudge...

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From negative thinking to positive thinking

I've asked the question about 2 times. I'm so happy with such a great answer. I'm thinking of moving forward and living. However, it reverts back to negative thinking. My weakness is that I always think negatively. Until now, my thoughts were so positive that I even said it myself. Very...

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Mother is disqualified

I yell at my 3 year old daughter every day It's regular, but there are times when I get pretty angry at my daughter. They don't eat food and only eat snacks, hit the baby's younger brother, behave badly and try to do something with their legs When I do something I definitely want them to stop...

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The fear of making a fatal mistake won't go away

I made a ridiculous mistake that shouldn't have been in the lab. I never did it on purpose, and it was caused by a minor lack of confirmation. When I noticed it, I panicked and thought I'd hide it, but after being tormented by a strong sense of guilt, I thought I wouldn't be able to hide this in...

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How to give a commandment

Recently, monks are an occupation rather than Buddhism (I feel that it's kind of rude when it comes to occupations. I'm sorry.) I became interested. There was a monk at my parents' house to visit the moon, but since they weren't enthusiastic parishioners, they never went to temples. I myself...

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Women are prohibited

Women are prohibited at local festivals, and women aren't even allowed to participate. There were times when I just happened to pass nearby and got hit. There are many restrictions on women all over the country. As is the case with sumo wrestling, there are places in the Buddhist world where...

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How to choose a Buddhist altar

It's early, and tomorrow is the first anniversary of my grandmother's death, Shozuki. By the 49th memorial service (ossuary at the same time) I'm planning to buy a new Buddhist altar. Since children do not inherit Buddhist altars, It ends with my generation... Before that, the stucco wall of...

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My heart is painful

Nice to meet you I'm in pain It's It makes me think “I want to die soon.” Something very difficult happened, It's not that something bad happened, Rather ・With my favorite family We were able to spend time together, eat together, talk together, laugh together ・There are friends...

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I want to change my way of thinking.

As always, thank you. Don't compare to people. Don't be impatient. But I want to be the kind of person who takes action towards marriage. I would appreciate it if you could take a look at the questions up until now. A few days ago, I called an ambulance for the first time. The reason is that my...

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Please tell us how you feel about spending every day.

I had a planned pregnancy, but my husband told me that I wanted to get divorced when I was about to pass away for the second time. It seems like they've been thinking about it for a few months The reason is I want to be free. I don't like you anymore. You're so stressed that atopic dermatitis is...

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Capacity is about to be over

Currently, I'm working as a full-time employee while changing jobs, and I'm struggling with balance. Job change activities are carried out at the end of work or on days off. However, it's really hard and tough. ・The job is a sales position, so there is a lot of work ・Job change activities...

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I regret my childhood mistakes

When I was a kid, I made irreparable mistakes. As an elementary school student at the time, I brought out sweets at a nearby convenience store without paying. In other words, it's shoplifting. I also feel like I turned back and returned the sweets after that, but maybe I just memorized them...

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I wonder if it would be better to bury the grave...

As for the graves at my parents' house, only my mother and younger brother are planning to enter the graves at that parents' house, but my mother also has trouble walking due to poor legs, and my younger brother is mentally ill, so I can't go out. I'm in a position where I got married, so even...

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I want to be good friends

I'm a high school student. To friends with older people or school teachers Do you want to be Is it still impossible? Even if your friends aren't equal They were good friends even after graduation Do you want to keep in touch? I don't know how to do it.

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How did you become a monk?

How did you become a monk? I think there are many people, Did you do that of your own will? Or did they have to force it? This is because in my case, no matter what I do, my path will always be cut off along the way. So I had no choice but to help my parents with the work they do, but...

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About mothers who deny marriage partners

I'm having a dispute with my mother about my marriage partner. I'm an elite in the world (I graduated from the University of Tokyo and work for a government agency). Actually, there were other places I wanted to go to, both at university and at my place of employment, but every time I chose my...

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