Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Can a returnee become a monk's wife

I've spent two-thirds of my life overseas, I wanted to live in Japan as a Japanese person, It's been 6 years since I came back to Japan. Recently, I've fallen in love with monks from Jodo Sect temples that have continued from generation to generation. I'm also around the age where I want to...

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I'm slow

I'm wondering if I can ask this question here, but I'll try it out. I want to stop masturbating, commonly known as forbidding masturbation. I always try my best and I can only put up with it for 3 days. When you masturbate, tremendous fatigue remains in your body the next day. How can I put...

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How to let go of obsessions

This is the person I previously consulted about miscarriages and infertility. Thank you so much for your thoughtful answers that section. I read your answers and previous questions and answers, and little by little I have regained my composure, but I haven't been able to feel well very...

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What should we do from now on? Please give me some advice.

I'm tired of living. I have lived with the desire to die for 13 years. Bullying, truancy, and untreatable atopic dermatitis and depression. You might be told that you still have a long way to go. But I've already suffered a lot. It was probably about 8 years ago. I've made up my...

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Is it OK to leave the temple and parents and get married

I'm thinking of getting married to the eldest son of a temple far from my house, but no one will succeed him. From when I was able to remember, I thought I would be the heir, and I've been doing matchmaking and marriage hunting, but I'm now in my 30s without a relationship. The people I'm...

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Interest and passion don't last long.

As the title suggests, it's a problem. There are so many things I want to do. There is no end to the list of language, beauty, play, work skill improvement, etc. But as soon as I set about it, my interest disappeared. I don't think that's enough, so I try to keep going, but since I keep...

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Fear of death won't go away

The other day, while a thorough examination was performed and the results came out I was so nervous, anxious, and so upset. (I almost panicked) I'm amazed at my own “obsession with life.” When I looked at the internet, people younger than me were declared to have a life...

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This is the person I talked to about marriage before

Previously, I had a discussion about his family objecting to marriage. Thank you so much for all your advice. He did his best, but I couldn't get his parents' understanding. It seems that his father calmly listened to the consultation, but it seems that he was asked to give up so as not to...

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I want to be needed by someone

I came across this site for the first time today. Could you please listen to my concerns? I have a stronger desire to “be needed by someone” than before. However, when it is denied or denied, I am struck by an extreme sense of hopelessness, and I often want to disappear. It's also about...

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Are temple brides absolutely helpful?

It's been 4 years since I got married to the wife of the eldest son of the temple. The feeling that I can't eat at the temple and my husband and I work different jobs, and my husband helps once in a while and eventually takes over is about half now. It's not like I get money either, and my...

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Is there anything you wanted to do before you became a monk?

There aren't many things monks can't do... but I don't think. I'm imagining that there are places that are different from when I was an ordinary person. Is there anything you wanted to do before you became a monk?

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I'm not feeling energized

Hello. I'm still in my mid-twenties, and recently I don't feel any energy. Specifically, there are no problems with working on weekdays at all, but on weekends, I just can't get out of my futon. After that, I casually went out to eat, then relaxed at a nearby coffee shop and finished the...

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I've withdrawn my retirement request, but...

A 30-year-old man is currently working as an office worker. It's a really embarrassing problem, but I'd like you to listen to it. I couldn't keep up with the details of my work, and I couldn't get my work out of my head until the day off, and I offered to retire the other day, and my seniors...

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The agitation and sermons around me are infuriating

I'm liked by people like Koshiki of the same age, but I'm not my type. However, I can't say that I'm not an occupational type. So, some seniors (K) and Koshiki almost drink together... Koshiki has a good personality and is very popular with people of the same sex. K is in his 40s. They take...

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I can't stop working

I'm a 40 year old woman. I have one child in preschool. I work for a short time after giving birth (annual income of 4 million), but my chronic glaucoma has worsened since 2 years ago, and my blurred and invisible parts have increased. The doctor said that using a computer (I kept using it...

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What does truancy mean going to school

I haven't been able to go to school for a month now. There isn't a clear reason, such as bullying. I've lost sight of the point of going to school. The hospital diagnosed adjustment disorder and autonomic nervous ataxia. I'm also sorry for my worried friends and family, and I'm thinking about...

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I always end up with nice people.

I'm worried about love. I've always liked talking with women, and although I have relatively many female friends, I haven't developed more than my friends. There are many patterns where people end up being nice people, such as gradually devoting themselves to listening to their...

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What's the difference between love and love?

They say it's love in one bite, but what's the difference? Which one do you think more deeply about your partner these days? I was talking to my friends about this topic, but I couldn't come to a conclusion. Thank you for your support.

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I don't know how to deal with friends who earn more than me

When I was talking to a friend of the same age the other day, we were talking about income. My friend earned a better income than me. It was kind of sad. Why am I working this much too? It made me feel like that. I don't like thinking about this either. How should I deal with that friend...

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The result of continuing to listen to my friend's concerns...

A year and a half ago, a friend asked me to talk about “being cheated on by my husband.” Up until then, my girlfriend and I were people who could talk about pretty much anything, and we laughed at a lot of stories. She was pretty weak, so it's been a year and a half from that day until...

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