Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

This is a temple bride. My husband is on an affair trip.

I am a temple bride who has been married for 14 years. A few months after getting married, I found an email promising a date with a girl. Playful emails and excuses with the kid at the bar. After 5 years of marriage, we frequently met and traveled, and had an affair. This one filed for...

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I can't build a good relationship with my daughter.

I have a daughter who entered junior college this year. I thought I had taken good care of her as an only daughter. Perhaps because of that, I can see their selfish attitude. They only insist on their own requests and don't help me at all. I think it's difficult every day with school and...

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What if he's not a monk?

Nice to meet you, I've been really interested in it for a long time, but there's no one to listen to it. To be honest, everyone is a monk right now, but I really wanted to try ○○! Is there something like that? You've been a monk from generation to generation, can't you think of anything other...

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There are no successors to the temple.

I'm worried about the temple's successor. My family consists of my parents and me. ・I go to a specialized nunnery → I need 2 years of training, and when I go down, I'll be 29 years old. What about marriage? What about childbirth? Can they endure ascetic practice in the first place? ・Have the...

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Do monks interact with each other?

hello! It's a simple question, but the image of a monk always being in a temple is there any interaction or horizontal connection between monks? Is there a meeting or something?

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A disorder called deafness

Currently 29 years old, 15 years since hearing loss was discovered. I've lived half of my life with good hearing and hearing loss. Hearing loss progresses year by year, and although compared to the past, it is now possible to confide in others without resistance, communication is becoming more...

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What do we live for.

There's someone I've been in a relationship with for about 10 years. He's in Kanto, and I'm in Shikoku. We both love our work, and we love our family. I myself had a position at the company, and I was also worried about leaving my parents, so I somehow put off talking about...

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What are marriages and births for

This is my first time asking a question. Thank you for your support. I'm now at an age where the marriageable age in public terms is about to pass, and most of my friends and acquaintances got married and had children, and even when single, they had boyfriends, and there was a time when I felt...

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What should we do to accept death

Recently, there have been more opportunities to come into contact with the deaths of people close to me. I came into contact with death reports from friends and relatives, and I became aware of death, saying “eventually, I too will die.” However, in theory, I understand that “there is no...

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I can't help but be afraid of being scolded or scolded.

Let me ask you a question. From a long time ago, I grew up only being scolded (scolded) without being praised by my parents. Probably because of that, I'm afraid of being scolded or scolded by someone, and I can't help it. I'm also afraid of inviting things and being turned down. For...

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I like motorbikes and I can't help it

I've been riding a motorcycle since I was 16. I haven't had a single day without a bike. I want to keep riding motorcycles until I die. However, even though it's already like living on a pension, I want motorbikes one after another. I've even bought it using a card loan. I think it's enough to...

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I don't like myself, I don't like it, what should I do?

It's been a long time ago, but it's my appearance, my academic ability, I don't like myself. Recently, too, if I have any problems, I quickly get stuck in, It can cause irritation to others. I hate myself for doing that kind of thing. But even if I tried to fix it, it soon happened. How...

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The direction of my efforts (self-improvement) for ○○-san.

Good evening. I'm always indebted to you. It's Yuri. I'm sorry for always asking questions and not being able to reply as a thank you. I would like to thank you for taking time out of your time. Well, today, I would like to ask you a question about the direction of self-improvement. Was it...

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I don't know how to treat a son whose mother is disqualified.

Thank you very much for answering my concerns the other day. I would be happy if you could answer my questions about how to treat my son this time. I have two sons aged 9 and 6. My eldest son doesn't listen to me at all, probably because he is now in a rebellious period. Not only that, shut...

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It's impossible to get rid of bullying

Hello. I'm always indebted to you. It's Yuri. Interview preparation for the teacher recruitment exam has also begun, and I'm being chased by this and that every day, and I'm living a hectic life. In preparation for that interview, I had the opportunity to think about “bullying.” I don't...

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How to get to know the chief priest

I used to work as a calligrapher specializing in Buddhist rituals, so I was naturally drawn to monks. But I haven't met anyone, so what should I do to work at a temple? Also, how do I get to know monks?

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If this heart is missing, will that heart move?

I'm always indebted to you. It's Yuri. Why is the monk's word so ingrained in the body? The monk is a good talker. (Would this way of saying it make you angry? Excuse me.) I was curious. The title is a word that I have received in my previous question and that I cherish now. Whether I...

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I'm estranged from my friends and I feel lonely.

Originally, I like getting together with friends I can forgive in small groups or reading books, etc., and there are places where I don't really like getting deep into people's private lives or being able to get into my own private life. Even so, I think it was a good relationship to have fewer...

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It's been 3 months since my father passed away

I would like to take his last breath peacefully without suffering and talk a little bit about my father who went to the Pure Land for ascetic training. Certainly, my father died, and he ostensibly disappeared from our house. However, when I look at the magnitude of my father's existence when...

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A baby that never came

It may be disorganized, but I'll write it honestly, so please give me some advice. I had repeated miscarriages a few years ago, and I did my best to treat infertility, but in the end, it only ended up increasing the number of miscarriages, and I was unable to have children. At first, I was...

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