Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

What about the future with him whose hobbies and interests are so different?

It's about the guy I met on a matching app 3 months ago. They are people with deep feelings, and they listen to and understand stories very well. Actually, I lost my partner to a sudden death three and a half years ago, and I haven't laughed ever since, but thanks to him, the timeline of my life...

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Is it bad to want to die

It makes me want to die. Aside from whether I really think it, when painful and unbearable things overlap, I think “I want to die quickly, I want to be released soon.” Living = Hard, Painful Dying = liberation from living I have a diagram called within me. So when there are a lot of...

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I want friends (although I'm an adult).

I'm a full-time housewife in my 40s. I want acquaintances and friends. I want you to listen to my complaints, etc. I don't want it to be a burden to the other party. Small talk (it's getting warmer ♪ etc.) I want relationships to the extent that they do. (I went to my favorite language...

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I just want to die and it's painful

I'm currently depressed and taking a leave of absence from college. I am suffering from bullying, rants from my biological father and mother's remarriage partner, distrust of humanity due to my mother's infidelity, and the trauma of sexual harm at age 4 and 21 When I was 20 years old, I became...

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I got it, but...

A few years ago, I was studying sutras at the temple on the weekend, but my siblings lazily lied and cheated for a while and only hid things from the chief priest (mentor) Eventually... getting caught and scolded over and over again, and I was scolded every time, and I was scolded every time,...

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Is being born a human man a reward for misdeeds in a previous life?

Is being born to a human man a reward in a previous life? I don't think life is this hard. If you're single, you're single and “why can't you have a household, are there any mental barriers?” or “is work the only way to live?” If you have a household, you have it, and “how can you make...

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I don't know how to repair my relationship with my real sister.

Originally, I had a real sister who was very close, but there were differences of opinion about my mother and my real sister's son, and I didn't get in a relationship at all from my partner because of that. The discrepancy was that my mother and my real sister's son lived together, and that son...

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The choice to die

Job hunting failed. I haven't been able to go to graduate school at all. Even if you succeed in job hunting and go on to graduate school, there is no hope for the future anymore. I can't face my parents who raised me up to this point, I can't keep up with the level around me, and I have no...

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A temple where you can keep your remains

I'm worried about temples that take care of children's remains. If I write in detail here, temples and people will be identified, so please refrain. My parents are still doing well, but when they died, I think of it as a permanent memorial service at the temple where my ancestors buried their...

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I can't face my fears before surgery

I'm a 20 year old college student. Recently, it was decided that I will have surgery in August of this year. Originally, it was an operation necessary in the future, but as of April, it was suddenly decided, and I'm not ready. The doctor told me that surgery has risks, and that half of the...

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Determining the time of death

I always think about my body and live my life. My family only talks about themselves and doesn't worry about me. I don't know what kind of job is good even though I think about my ears and change jobs. I think it would be mentally easier to decide when to die and decide to die in a year. I'm...

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My grandfather committed suicide.

I lost my grandfather 5 years ago. At the time, I had heard that he suddenly collapsed at home and died of illness, but I heard the other day that it really was suicide. I also read my grandfather's suicide note. The cause of suicide was my grandmother. My grandmother has not been diagnosed,...

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Why shouldn't we commit suicide

I want to die I'm just crying I think a certain celebrity also died due to a hard time People in the world may think why... but it means it's so painful to die Why do we have to live while doing bad things Why do we have to work hard to live Shouldn't I die if I'm satisfied

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I'm tired of religious differences

hello. I'm always indebted to you. I plan to become a priest at a temple in less than a week. My parents It's another Nichiren sect religion Now I'm against ascetic practices at temples. The reason is that parents say that if you put another religion into yourself, you will go to hell, Videos...

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Everyone in my family believes in a certain religion and it's stifling.

(From the Editorial Department. (Part of the post has been changed according to the agreement.) It is in a negative state of trust against a certain religion. I joined that religion right after I was born. My parents did it on their own. I think the teaching is also very good. I...

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About acquiring hobby qualifications

I thought I'd get a hobby qualification, and I was working hard to get the qualification. If you submit an assignment to the association and pass it, you can obtain a qualification. When I finished all 100 assignments and thought about submitting them, my mother said that the qualification...

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Visit your marriage partner's grave

It's been a little over a year since we got married. I visited my husband's grave at my parents' house three times in the past year, such as the end of the year, Obon, and Ohigan. My parents-in-law also seem to take it for granted that I go visit my husband's grave. However, my husband never...

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I want to start over with a life I deserved

The cost of my life up until now, running away to an easy way and living without thinking seriously when faced with problems, has now all fallen to me. I think my choices were always wrong. It's really painful. I want to die. I want to be comfortable. However, the sight of parents feeling sad is...

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Depression is not curable

Nice to meet you today. I'm a man in my thirties, and I was diagnosed with depression from the hospital three years ago and went to the hospital, but there's no sign of getting better. My job is an office worker, but I don't get along with my boss, and I just get stressed every day. After I...

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I would like to hear your various thoughts

My daughter reserved a cake the other day It was when I forgot about it that day and didn't go to get my memories before going to bed. I've already paid for the cake It is said that the phone did not come even when it was time to pick it up It seems like my wife heard that story from my...

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