Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

heartbreak

I was betrayed by someone I love that I had a crush on for the last 7 months. I played with him at aquariums, movie theaters, etc. about 2 times. Every time we met, I was very happy to be told that he was cute and had a good hairstyle, but since he is moving far away from this year, it will be...

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On living as a male homosexual

I'm a 20 year old male college student living in Tokyo. I like men because of my own sexuality, but I had a lot of trouble knowing about the gay world. There is no discrimination, but in the straight world, dates and meals often lead to sexual intercourse, but for some reason in the gay...

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I want to quit a vocational school

I'm a second-year student attending a vocational school (medical) I began to think it wasn't the job I wanted to do. It's also mentally difficult because of stress etc. I haven't talked to my parents yet and I'm worried about how they will say it. Please give me some advice

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Neurosis due to a fight between siblings

My elementary school siblings (elementary 6 and elementary 3) fight every day and yell at them until I quit. It's been going on for quite a long time, and I don't like myself for exploding in anger and showering taunts every time. It's been so repetitive that the boiling point of anger is getting...

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I just can't get out of my fear of death

It's been a while, I've recently become afraid of death, so I'm posting It's now 25, but I'm getting more and more scared because I thought it would be a 60th birthday in the second half, and I felt that the years were fast I wonder what will happen when I die, will I go to paradise, go to...

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How to erase haya haze

Thank you for always being there. The other day, I confessed to someone I liked, and I was betrayed. It was said that there were people I was interested in. Two months after I learned about it, the person I was interested in was a junior at my workplace. I was talking to my juniors that they...

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I want to be freed from being hurt by the preferences of the person I like

I think this problem is a problem with myself and my own thoughts, who haven't been able to draw the line between themselves and others. It's been almost 1 year since we started dating, and I've been suffering the same pain 3 or 4 times with my cheerful lover. Every time I did that, I saw “this...

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What is the meaning of living as the value of living things declines?

Is there any point in living being 30 years old and living beings declining in value? Honestly, that's enough. Humans should have lived based on instincts, but modernization has led to an age of reason, and original desires have been suppressed, and Natsume Soseki said that the end of...

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This is a serious story.

Tonight, I've been coming to Kansai to work part-time since the 1st. I came early and went to Nara and Kyoto to see the five-story pagoda. Then I suddenly think, even though there was a period until the Edo period, which was supported by the Yamato spirit that continued from the Jomon period...

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I haven't been able to grow anything I want to commit suicide

My teens and twenties haven't put much effort into anything. Even if I live like this, I can't see any hope, and it seems that Buddha attained enlightenment in 34th place, but in my case, it doesn't seem like it will last that long. I'm now an empty, empty old man. I've heard over and over...

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About previous lives

There are people I know who can see past lives as spirits, and that person has proper power. My spiritual power awakened after I became involved with that person. However, it's a story about my previous life, and I was often sold in a house that was sold to protect myself due to circumstances......

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About tomb obtainers

Recently, I've been hearing a lot of opinions about grave obstruction. The opinion that smudging a grave is a punishment, the opinion that what is important is not the grave, but your heart, and that seeping the grave is not a bad thing. My house is not my home, and my parents are the only ones...

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Respect for one's own feelings and my husband's instability

They are having trouble due to the frequency of sex in a marital relationship. I'm not that much of a sex seeker. Of course, that's not because I don't have much love for my husband. My husband says he wants to have sex every day, at least 3 times a week. I've tried my best to respond...

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How to see only the facts

I'm indebted to you. I have a habit of thinking that makes me think too much about relationships and relationships with friends, and I'm worried. I wonder if that's what it means, or maybe it's actually like this. I read too much and tried to read the back words too much, so I wrestled solo,...

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I don't know if I like my husband

My husband and I have been married for about a year. We've known each other for many years, and we got married less than a year after we started dating. Since we got married, my husband, who likes freedom, and I have been fighting all the time, and I, who we both want to share, have been lonely...

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A senior at work who looks like a moral boyfriend

Good evening. It's been quite a while, but let me talk about a female senior at my current workplace. I changed jobs in spring, and nearly 5 months have passed. I've gotten used to work since the beginning, and there are times when I think work itself is fun, and I think it's worth...

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I want to stop inheriting temples.

I've been told since I was little that I would take over a temple and a side job. I chose where to go to high school and college just because I didn't want to be a monk. While I was in college, I wanted to return the favor to my father and mother, so I obtained the qualification of a monk...

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I was saved by ChatGPT's answers.

Nice to meet you. I think the content will be rude this time around, but I'd like to ask for your honest opinions, so I'm posting it. I've been reading the questions and answers on this site before, and I was impressed by the monk's sincere attitude. However, I wasn't entirely convinced by...

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A relationship that crosses the line with a man who has a girlfriend

I'd like to hear honest opinions from a third party about having an affair with a man who had a girlfriend by kissing and fellating. I'm 20 and he's 19 and a junior in the circle. I knew my partner had a girlfriend for a long time. I've never had a boyfriend, I was a virgin back then, and I'm...

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Just like you think

Hello. I'm currently 18 years old and a first-year college student. It's a bit difficult to express, but recently I feel like I've been wondering a lot about what life is. I had an idea of what caused this, and I came across a lot of things that didn't go the way I wanted. I often hear the phrase...

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